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Anonymous wrote:Are the anti-hair people also against eyebrow grooming and facial hair removal?

You’re so dense. You’re being asked to consider why. Stop being defensive and look at the bigger picture. Look at what we are doing to our children.

Simple question: are you suggesting we should keep our unibrows, mustaches, and chin hairs?

DP but I think people are just suggesting we start asking WHY we do some of this stuff, who it is for, and who benefits.

Today I had an appointment for my ortho, where I had to do some practical physical tests, so I wore workout clothes. It's warm today, so I wanted short sleeves, but I discovered I only had long sleeve or tank workout tops that were clean. The thing about a tank is that when I do these tests at my ortho, I have to reach above my head and stretch my arms out, and people can see my underarms. Now, I shave my underarms. But I just feel sort of uncomfortable about how they look. I have dark hair and pale skin, so even with shaving, there's a little shadow there. If I were at the gym I'd wouldn't worry about it, but I was thinking about being in an office with people looking at my body and watching me do these tests, and I felt uncomfortable about it. I wound up wearing the tank but then wearing a hoody over it, so that I could keep the hoody on for the tests, even though honestly I felt hot in the hoody.

Maybe you never worry about stuff like that, but reread this thread. Hair on women is "masculine", "untidy", "gross." Hairy and beefy thrown around as insults (along with lesbian). Women should be "clean" and "tidy" which means hairless except on their heads.

You can say I'm neurotic for feeling bad about how my *shaved* armpits look due to the fact that I'm a human being who has hair follicles in my armpit, but I look at this conversation and am like "yup, that's exactly why I felt weird about it and didn't want people to see it."

It's worth talking about. I'm not going to stop shaving my armpits (obviously! that would only make me feel worse and more self conscious) but that doesn't mean I don't recognize the way these expectations around how women's bodies are "supposed" to look (which is so different from how our bodies look naturally, especially as we age) can be a prison for us.

Why can't it just be a personal choice? Men choose whether to shave their faces, just as I choose to get my eyebrows, mustache, and chin hairs threaded. It's how I like to groom myself, much like my husband prefers to shave his face every morning.

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Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

On the one hand, yes, your daughter and her friends of course get to make their own choices about their bodies.

On the other hadn't, think of how much time and money they will spend on removing all the hair from their bodies so that they can wear whatever skimpy bathing suit is in fashion and "not have to worry."

Think of what they could spend that time and money on instead.

Why do you assume the 21 year old hasn't considered this and deemed it ok to spend money on?

Do you wear any makeup? Dye your hair? Get pedicures? All a waste by someone's standard.

I didn't say it was "a waste." I pointed out that this voluntary choice regarding personal grooming is going to cost these women time and money to maintain.

I have spent a ton of money on grooming in my life. Way, way more than my husband, for instance. I would have more money in my retirement accounts and savings accounts now if, like him, I'd just skipped waxing and shaving and dying my hair and getting my nails done and wearing makeup. But I'd also probably be single and childless, whereas he got to skip all those costs and it didn't impact his ability to get married or find someone to have a kid with him.

Why does pointing that out make you mad?

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Anonymous wrote:Bikini wax is 100% related to this.

No, I do this because I don't want hairs picking out of my swimsuit. I like being clean and fresh. But you do you.

lol yeah but why does your swimsuit cover such little of your body that hairs inevitably peek out?

DP because we don't live under Taliban rule and I can wear whatever the eff I want. Any other stupid questions?

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Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

On the one hand, yes, your daughter and her friends of course get to make their own choices about their bodies.

On the other hadn't, think of how much time and money they will spend on removing all the hair from their bodies so that they can wear whatever skimpy bathing suit is in fashion and "not have to worry."

Think of what they could spend that time and money on instead.

Nothing of greater value, frankly. Speaking for men everywhere, we appreciate the effort. The low effort ladies can continue to reel in the low effort lads playing dungeons and dragons in their mom's basement.

You seem like such a catch./s

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the anti-hair people also against eyebrow grooming and facial hair removal?

You’re so dense. You’re being asked to consider why. Stop being defensive and look at the bigger picture. Look at what we are doing to our children.

Simple question: are you suggesting we should keep our unibrows, mustaches, and chin hairs?

DP but I think people are just suggesting we start asking WHY we do some of this stuff, who it is for, and who benefits.

Today I had an appointment for my ortho, where I had to do some practical physical tests, so I wore workout clothes. It's warm today, so I wanted short sleeves, but I discovered I only had long sleeve or tank workout tops that were clean. The thing about a tank is that when I do these tests at my ortho, I have to reach above my head and stretch my arms out, and people can see my underarms. Now, I shave my underarms. But I just feel sort of uncomfortable about how they look. I have dark hair and pale skin, so even with shaving, there's a little shadow there. If I were at the gym I'd wouldn't worry about it, but I was thinking about being in an office with people looking at my body and watching me do these tests, and I felt uncomfortable about it. I wound up wearing the tank but then wearing a hoody over it, so that I could keep the hoody on for the tests, even though honestly I felt hot in the hoody.

Maybe you never worry about stuff like that, but reread this thread. Hair on women is "masculine", "untidy", "gross." Hairy and beefy thrown around as insults (along with lesbian). Women should be "clean" and "tidy" which means hairless except on their heads.

You can say I'm neurotic for feeling bad about how my *shaved* armpits look due to the fact that I'm a human being who has hair follicles in my armpit, but I look at this conversation and am like "yup, that's exactly why I felt weird about it and didn't want people to see it."

It's worth talking about. I'm not going to stop shaving my armpits (obviously! that would only make me feel worse and more self conscious) but that doesn't mean I don't recognize the way these expectations around how women's bodies are "supposed" to look (which is so different from how our bodies look naturally, especially as we age) can be a prison for us.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the anti-hair people also against eyebrow grooming and facial hair removal?

You’re so dense. You’re being asked to consider why. Stop being defensive and look at the bigger picture. Look at what we are doing to our children.

Simple question: are you suggesting we should keep our unibrows, mustaches, and chin hairs?

DP but I think people are just suggesting we start asking WHY we do some of this stuff, who it is for, and who benefits.

Today I had an appointment for my ortho, where I had to do some practical physical tests, so I wore workout clothes. It's warm today, so I wanted short sleeves, but I discovered I only had long sleeve or tank workout tops that were clean. The thing about a tank is that when I do these tests at my ortho, I have to reach above my head and stretch my arms out, and people can see my underarms. Now, I shave my underarms. But I just feel sort of uncomfortable about how they look. I have dark hair and pale skin, so even with shaving, there's a little shadow there. If I were at the gym I'd wouldn't worry about it, but I was thinking about being in an office with people looking at my body and watching me do these tests, and I felt uncomfortable about it. I wound up wearing the tank but then wearing a hoody over it, so that I could keep the hoody on for the tests, even though honestly I felt hot in the hoody.

Maybe you never worry about stuff like that, but reread this thread. Hair on women is "masculine", "untidy", "gross." Hairy and beefy thrown around as insults (along with lesbian). Women should be "clean" and "tidy" which means hairless except on their heads.

You can say I'm neurotic for feeling bad about how my *shaved* armpits look due to the fact that I'm a human being who has hair follicles in my armpit, but I look at this conversation and am like "yup, that's exactly why I felt weird about it and didn't want people to see it."

It's worth talking about. I'm not going to stop shaving my armpits (obviously! that would only make me feel worse and more self conscious) but that doesn't mean I don't recognize the way these expectations around how women's bodies are "supposed" to look (which is so different from how our bodies look naturally, especially as we age) can be a prison for us.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

On the one hand, yes, your daughter and her friends of course get to make their own choices about their bodies.

On the other hadn't, think of how much time and money they will spend on removing all the hair from their bodies so that they can wear whatever skimpy bathing suit is in fashion and "not have to worry."

Think of what they could spend that time and money on instead.

Nothing of greater value, frankly. Speaking for men everywhere, we appreciate the effort. The low effort ladies can continue to reel in the low effort lads playing dungeons and dragons in their mom's basement.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

On the one hand, yes, your daughter and her friends of course get to make their own choices about their bodies.

On the other hadn't, think of how much time and money they will spend on removing all the hair from their bodies so that they can wear whatever skimpy bathing suit is in fashion and "not have to worry."

Think of what they could spend that time and money on instead.

Why do you assume the 21 year old hasn't considered this and deemed it ok to spend money on?

Do you wear any makeup? Dye your hair? Get pedicures? All a waste by someone's standard.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the anti-hair people also against eyebrow grooming and facial hair removal?

You’re so dense. You’re being asked to consider why. Stop being defensive and look at the bigger picture. Look at what we are doing to our children.

Simple question: are you suggesting we should keep our unibrows, mustaches, and chin hairs?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

On the one hand, yes, your daughter and her friends of course get to make their own choices about their bodies.

On the other hadn't, think of how much time and money they will spend on removing all the hair from their bodies so that they can wear whatever skimpy bathing suit is in fashion and "not have to worry."

Think of what they could spend that time and money on instead.

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

On the one hand, yes, your daughter and her friends of course get to make their own choices about their bodies.

On the other hadn't, think of how much time and money they will spend on removing all the hair from their bodies so that they can wear whatever skimpy bathing suit is in fashion and "not have to worry."

Think of what they could spend that time and money on instead.

Anonymous wrote:My 21 yo daughter and all her friends wax everything off. While it’s completely her choice, I do inwardly cringe when I think about how this is the expectation these days. She said she just likes to feel totally clean and not have to worry in her swimsuit, which I totally understand. I’ve always waxed my bikini line, but the idea of taking it *all* off is so extreme to me.

Oh well - it’s her body, not mine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the anti-hair people also against eyebrow grooming and facial hair removal?

You’re so dense. You’re being asked to consider why. Stop being defensive and look at the bigger picture. Look at what we are doing to our children.