Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 23:29     Subject: Re:Weird moment with DIL
Anonymous wrote:This DIL is my hero. She drove up, surveyed the scene, said “Nope.”, and made her escape.


I don't know about hero but I honestly find it inspiring as well
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 21:13     Subject: Weird moment with DIL
Anonymous wrote:“Old Rump” is now a certified DCUM Classic.

Go sit your Old Rump on the back porch, eat a piece of fruit, and leave my pristine kitchen in peace! Have some Boring Water. Use a Burgundy Washcloth to freshen your Old Rump and enjoy some Lightly Fried Tuna.


I am embarassed to say I recognize everything from this other than the Boring Water lol!!!
DCUM since 2013!

Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 18:04     Subject: Weird moment with DIL
Op, everyone would like to be their best self. Best self around others. You need to make allowances for that: arrive when expected.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:31     Subject: Weird moment with DIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here, OK, I guess I’ll let it go. I don’t understand what would be so disruptive about guests they invited. But I guess it would have been unexpected. That being said, yes, we did enter with the code we were given. I mean, we were given the code in case we arrived before DS!


People social skills are going downhill.


But, you could say the opposite is just as true. I have no problem telling a guest in my house to make them comfortable while I do something. I tell that to my mom all the time, who's needier than MIL. Why couldn't OP's DIL said, "oh hey, I'm going to change and we'll chat after the show." OP seems to have some self-awarness because she's asking if she should apologize. With a three hour drive, you could be late, which would also get them in a load of trouble!


BS. The next time someone ..a friend, neighbor, coworker etc invites you over for dinner I dare you to arrive two hours early and sit in their driveway expecting to be invited in or use their code.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 14:19     Subject: Weird moment with DIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here, OK, I guess I’ll let it go. I don’t understand what would be so disruptive about guests they invited. But I guess it would have been unexpected. That being said, yes, we did enter with the code we were given. I mean, we were given the code in case we arrived before DS!


People social skills are going downhill.


But, you could say the opposite is just as true. I have no problem telling a guest in my house to make them comfortable while I do something. I tell that to my mom all the time, who's needier than MIL. Why couldn't OP's DIL said, "oh hey, I'm going to change and we'll chat after the show." OP seems to have some self-awarness because she's asking if she should apologize. With a three hour drive, you could be late, which would also get them in a load of trouble!


Nobody starts a 3-hour drive 5 hours before agreed-upon time. Also, the event they were arriving for was the next day! OP has no self-awareness at all, because she wonders why the DIL was "weird" seeing her 2 hours early in her driveway. Can you actually imagine arriving early and then deciding to sit in someone's driveway? Then she thought that the DIL should have texted HER when she saw them sitting there!
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 14:07     Subject: Weird moment with DIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here, OK, I guess I’ll let it go. I don’t understand what would be so disruptive about guests they invited. But I guess it would have been unexpected. That being said, yes, we did enter with the code we were given. I mean, we were given the code in case we arrived before DS!


People social skills are going downhill.


But, you could say the opposite is just as true. I have no problem telling a guest in my house to make them comfortable while I do something. I tell that to my mom all the time, who's needier than MIL. Why couldn't OP's DIL said, "oh hey, I'm going to change and we'll chat after the show." OP seems to have some self-awarness because she's asking if she should apologize. With a three hour drive, you could be late, which would also get them in a load of trouble!
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 14:03     Subject: Weird moment with DIL
Just let it go. Some of us young moms are juggling a million things, and we don't like schedule changes because we're barely holding on. She likely wasn't ready to host. Also, I think it's better to go through your son when you are visiting to meet any of your needs. Better for everyone.