Anonymous
Post 03/12/2026 14:48     Subject: Is co parenting a woke male trap?
Anonymous wrote:We know that.


What is woke coparenting?


I'm guessing people think 50% custody is woke since women's social media has men pegged as incompetent and incapable of emotional intelligence. I wonder if the old manosphere bloggers are losing ground to women having to pay child support or ask the ex-husband if it's ok to skip the measles vaccine.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 18:07     Subject: Is co parenting a woke male trap?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We know that.


What is woke coparenting?


The above question asked coparenting vs parallel parenting.

To answer your question of what is woke coparenting:

It’s pretending that another parent being forced to pick up your slack while the court and everyone else pretends your mix of performative parenting and negligence are equally in the best interests of the child as the parenting that the primary caregiver did prior to the divorce. In other words, it’s a joke of an arrangement where we pretend fathers are doing a good job so their feelings won’t be hurt but then we use temporary or permanent custody orders to make mothers continue to be the actual primary caregiver regardless of the parenting plan and custody split.


We know the custody part

What’s the “woke” part? Where are the kumbaya leftist liberals in all of this?

Break it down pls.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 16:46     Subject: Is co parenting a woke male trap?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We know that.


What is woke coparenting?


The above question asked coparenting vs parallel parenting.

To answer your question of what is woke coparenting:

It’s pretending that another parent being forced to pick up your slack while the court and everyone else pretends your mix of performative parenting and negligence are equally in the best interests of the child as the parenting that the primary caregiver did prior to the divorce. In other words, it’s a joke of an arrangement where we pretend fathers are doing a good job so their feelings won’t be hurt but then we use temporary or permanent custody orders to make mothers continue to be the actual primary caregiver regardless of the parenting plan and custody split.


There is no reasonable government solution to this problem.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 16:45     Subject: Is co parenting a woke male trap?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not really clear what you are trying to say, but I'll bite.

I divorced my xH because he didn't pull his weight. We have 50/50 custody and it's SO much less work for me. He has a court order to do half the school pickups/dropoffs, half the sick days, etc. Even bigger, I no longer have to cook for or clean up after a grown man. People really have no idea how much FOOD adult men need to be fed, or how their crap gets absolutely everywhere.

Even if he bailed completely, he'd have to pay child support AND I still wouldn't have to cook and clean for him.

I also think a LOT of men step it up when they realize their parenting will be examined in a court room by a judge. It's one thing at home behind closed doors, but another to know it could be brought out in front of complete strangers to judge.


This.

Except I dont think the "stepping it up" is necessarily all about it being seen by a judge. I think it's because some of them want to be a good father. And they are forced into being a better father, because there's no longer a woman there to pick up their slack all the time.


Yes and also their surrounding societal expectations. They care about their images. If they are afraid of looking like a dead beat in their community, they might step it up. If being a dead beat is commonplace in their community, they will very likely not step it up.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 14:53     Subject: Is co parenting a woke male trap?
Anonymous wrote:We know that.


What is woke coparenting?


The above question asked coparenting vs parallel parenting.

To answer your question of what is woke coparenting:

It’s pretending that another parent being forced to pick up your slack while the court and everyone else pretends your mix of performative parenting and negligence are equally in the best interests of the child as the parenting that the primary caregiver did prior to the divorce. In other words, it’s a joke of an arrangement where we pretend fathers are doing a good job so their feelings won’t be hurt but then we use temporary or permanent custody orders to make mothers continue to be the actual primary caregiver regardless of the parenting plan and custody split.