Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 17:39     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Oh just go get married. Keep your own bank account and credit cards it's easier when you divorce him.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 17:35     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"For the year 2024, the U.S. Census Bureau estimates that the median annual earnings for all workers was $51,370; and more specifically estimates that median annual earnings for those who worked full-time, year round, was $63,360." Wiki


I think the $150 figure is nutty, but the context here is college-educated men working full time in the DMV, not all workers.


It depends on field, age and experience but "For college-educated men in the DMV (DC, Maryland, Virginia), expect higher incomes than national averages, with bachelor's degree holders often earning in the $80k-$100k+ range annually (median/average) and advanced degrees significantly more"
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 16:55     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend wants to get married. I want to get married in general. My parents went through a bad divorce, so I’m weary. I want to avoid something like that. I want to go into marriage with eyes wide open. From those of you who are more experienced can you tell me if you think my boyfriend is marriage material? We don’t want kids.

Pros: very sweet, loyal, showers me with attention, hard working, smart, good politics, nice friend group

Cons: diagnosed adhd, messy, stubborn/inflexible, dysfunctional family (but not local)

He’s in low earning profession but I don’t mind that.


Not enough info. Is the ADHD managed? On meds?

does he recognize family is dysfunctional? Did he pick up their ways or realize there are issues and distance?

I would be concerned with stubborn and inflexible.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 16:52     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.


It's a flaw.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 15:10     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:"For the year 2024, the U.S. Census Bureau estimates that the median annual earnings for all workers was $51,370; and more specifically estimates that median annual earnings for those who worked full-time, year round, was $63,360." Wiki


I think the $150 figure is nutty, but the context here is college-educated men working full time in the DMV, not all workers.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 15:10     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Low income and low earning profession are two different things. Chemists, district attorneys, anthropologists, psychologists also earn less but aren't necessarily low income people.




Sure they are. Anyone who makes less than [$150k] is low income. Regardless of how prestigious they are, they aren't great financial partners for marriage. Sure, marriage about more than just money, but money is a factor for many people.


Sure but then those people shouldn't be dating below their cutoff salary, debt tolerance and preferential credit score.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 15:06     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
"For the year 2024, the U.S. Census Bureau estimates that the median annual earnings for all workers was $51,370; and more specifically estimates that median annual earnings for those who worked full-time, year round, was $63,360." Wiki
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 15:00     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Low income and low earning profession are two different things. Chemists, district attorneys, anthropologists, psychologists also earn less but aren't necessarily low income people.




Sure they are. Anyone who makes less than [$150k] is low income. Regardless of how prestigious they are, they aren't great financial partners for marriage. Sure, marriage about more than just money, but money is a factor for many people.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:55     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.


It really is much of the time.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:50     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.


Yeah but it is something that greatly impacts marriage.


If you don't have kids, how much mess or space there is going to be that OP can't manage?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:45     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.

It's not. But how you choose to manage it and lead your life is.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:45     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.


Yeah but it is something that greatly impacts marriage.


Then why date one for so long wasting their years?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:44     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Low income and low earning profession are two different things. Chemists, district attorneys, anthropologists, psychologists also earn less but aren't necessarily low income people.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:39     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.


Yeah but it is something that greatly impacts marriage.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 14:38     Subject: Is my boyfriend marriage material?
ADHD isn't a choice or character flaw.