Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 11:08     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. And I came here to ask this question 3 years ago and was called a psycho for even considering it.


What did you end up doing and what happened to the student?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 09:55     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would notify the EA school anonymously that the student already has been accepted ED to the other. school. Include high school counselor contact info so the EA school can verify it. They will reject the application, and the student will then attend the ED school.

This about protecting your school’s rep with the ED school so that future students don’t pay an awful price for this one student/family’s ugly behavior. It is not about getting this kid punished. If that happens, they brought it on themself. But it should not be the goal.

You sound like a person who calls ICE if someone has an accent. You do not have all the facts. Don't be that person. It's not your job to protect your schools reputation. If this is a private school, they will take action if needed. Just focus on your own kid. Top schools take students they want. Sometimes they take 1 and sometimes many more. I say this as a 'compliant' private school mom.


You sound like someone who would have turned the other way as your Jewish neighbors were packed off to “relocation camps.”

Just focusing on your own life, your own interests has taken countries to terrible places.



This may feel like a life or death issue for dcum parents, but it’s not. It’s a college admissions contract.

There has been no actual breaking of a contract. It’s a rumor amongst high schoolers and their parents.

If this actually comes true and the kid breaks his contract, maybe then feel entitled to a call with your high schools counselor to emphasize how unethical it is to the parents.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 09:39     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everyone saying the student is behaving unethically, what’s truly unethical is colleges misrepresenting early decision as a binding agreement and then operating as a cartel to enforce these legally unenforceable agreements. The effect is to drive up prices for higher ed across the board by preventing price competition.

Let the kid do what they want. This is all a racket anyway.


So it’s ok for the kid to break their word?

Solid ethical foundation there.


More than just ethics, some schools have been known to punish an entire school by making ED not an option for students applying from that school for several years.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 09:27     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Yes. And I came here to ask this question 3 years ago and was called a psycho for even considering it.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 09:26     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
I know a kid broke a ED for a better RD admit. Nobody knew the kid got in ED until a friend of the parents congratulated them publicly on social media. Guess they are no friends no more.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 09:26     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.



This is exactly what a kid at our DC’s school is doing.

He already got in REA to an Ivy+. Also applied EA to MIT. (Not sure of the result.) Also applied RD to all the Ivys and the rest of the Ivy+ category, too. I think it’s 15 school total, if not more.

The kid has told classmates he’s not pulling any of his applications because he wants to see if any of them will offer him merit money.

It sucks for his classmates, but my understanding is there’s nothing barring him from doing this.

None of his applications involves loved a binding commitment. They only thing he couldn’t do was apply to multiple REA schools in the REA round. And he didn’t do that - he applied RD to all but one.

Again, it’s likely going to make things harder for everyone else from our school. Especially boys pursuing the same major.

But it is what it is. Or am I missing something?


A student admitted ED agrees to pull all other applications if admitted. No such restriction on REA. So the student at your school isn’t breaking their word. The student in the OP is.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 09:15     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.



This is exactly what a kid at our DC’s school is doing.

He already got in REA to an Ivy+. Also applied EA to MIT. (Not sure of the result.) Also applied RD to all the Ivys and the rest of the Ivy+ category, too. I think it’s 15 school total, if not more.

The kid has told classmates he’s not pulling any of his applications because he wants to see if any of them will offer him merit money.

It sucks for his classmates, but my understanding is there’s nothing barring him from doing this.

None of his applications involves loved a binding commitment. They only thing he couldn’t do was apply to multiple REA schools in the REA round. And he didn’t do that - he applied RD to all but one.

Again, it’s likely going to make things harder for everyone else from our school. Especially boys pursuing the same major.

But it is what it is. Or am I missing something?


Well your HS will have to send first semester transcripts to all the RD schools and will presumably not send them if the kid got in ED.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 08:17     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.



This is exactly what a kid at our DC’s school is doing.

He already got in REA to an Ivy+. Also applied EA to MIT. (Not sure of the result.) Also applied RD to all the Ivys and the rest of the Ivy+ category, too. I think it’s 15 school total, if not more.

The kid has told classmates he’s not pulling any of his applications because he wants to see if any of them will offer him merit money.

It sucks for his classmates, but my understanding is there’s nothing barring him from doing this.

None of his applications involves loved a binding commitment. They only thing he couldn’t do was apply to multiple REA schools in the REA round. And he didn’t do that - he applied RD to all but one.

Again, it’s likely going to make things harder for everyone else from our school. Especially boys pursuing the same major.

But it is what it is. Or am I missing something?


Colleges are completely aware of this. They figure it in when deciding how many acceptances and wait listers.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 07:45     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
If you are not party to a contract, it is not your job to enforce the contract.

Karen of the Year 2025 nomination for sure.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 00:42     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Hearsay
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 00:39     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
The Judge speedily dismissed the case. Lack of facts and documentation to corroborate any allegations.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 00:36     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Speculation here. No facts just fancy.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 00:35     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.



This is exactly what a kid at our DC’s school is doing.

He already got in REA to an Ivy+. Also applied EA to MIT. (Not sure of the result.) Also applied RD to all the Ivys and the rest of the Ivy+ category, too. I think it’s 15 school total, if not more.

The kid has told classmates he’s not pulling any of his applications because he wants to see if any of them will offer him merit money.

It sucks for his classmates, but my understanding is there’s nothing barring him from doing this.

None of his applications involves loved a binding commitment. They only thing he couldn’t do was apply to multiple REA schools in the REA round. And he didn’t do that - he applied RD to all but one.

Again, it’s likely going to make things harder for everyone else from our school. Especially boys pursuing the same major.

But it is what it is. Or am I missing something?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 00:21     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:MYOB.
There are many reasons why a family would break an ED. If it’s not your own family, it’s not any of your business. The private school will find out.
Why is this even a question? It’s unethical but the reason why the counselors are involved to begin with. Rich people do what they want all the time. It’s not like the entire private will get blacklisted for her for one student.


Isn’t this exactly why Tulane blacklisted a school??
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 00:20     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:You don't need to report it; the school counselor signed the contract too, and will only send the kid's trandscript to the ED school, unless the kid has a valid reason to reject the offer.


Not if the kid already applied to the EA school before hearing from the ED school.

At that point the kid needs to withdraw the EA application. They’ll never know if they could have gotten in. Which is what they agreed to when their parent signed the ED agreement.

The guidance counselor signed the ED agreement, too. So I’d give them a heads up. Anonymously.