Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 11:19     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
He's made his decision and I would go with it OP. Band is important but so is class and he prefers class.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 11:11     Subject: Re:DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:I’d be very proud if my child opted for class instead of band.
Education comes first.


Band IS education.

Mastering an instrument is not easier than any very hard class.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 10:41     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Imagine kids sick and can’t go to school and miss the “life or death” class, or miss the “one class that will decide your path to the Ivy”.
This is not about which one more important. Please honor the class he signed up for include the consequences.
The mid day concert is graded, and it will counted as his overall GPA, and I believe the timing for the concert is not something that the band leader has a say.
Lesson learned don’t signup for band next time. Give up the AYPO.
Or.. work on it !
Asked if it is allow to be recorded, asked if he can attend the next class.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 10:09     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Or don't. The student will decide their priorities.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 08:08     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks all. I will encourage my son to tell the band teacher that he has to miss the concert. This is not one of the major concerts and my son does not have a solo or anything. The band has had to perform without him before for other extenuating circumstances that are not worth getting into here and no one will be able to tell that he is missing. My son will be at the important events that were highlighted in the contract my son had to sign to join the band. My son is well rounded but I do not see a reason to push him to miss an important class for a concert. The band is not counting on him - they will be fine without him. And if all the students made the same choice as my son, then maybe the band teachers would have to adjust and that would not be a bad thing IMHO. That said, if my son wanted to go to the band performance and miss class, I would support that too.


I posted before, and while I can't change your mind, I'm disappointed as a former band member that this is the choice that your son made. Look, you are justifying to yourself and your son that his decisions is fine. Oh, he doesn't have a solo, the band isn't counting on him, it's not that big of a concert. And saying that if all the students made the same choice as your son maybe the band teacher would adjust - yeah maybe not. Maybe it's out of their control - maybe the admin said the concert will be during block 3 and that's that.

Again, the spot that your son was in is not an easy one, but he is thinking about himself (missing 1 class) over others (the entire band) that he decided to join and be a part of. Not why this one is bugging me so much. Maybe just stick to AYSO in the future.


He can't. It's a condition of being in AYPO orchestras that you have to be in school orchestra/band. And they do in fact, check.
Then participate fully in the band.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 08:07     Subject: Re:DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d be very proud if my child opted for class instead of band.
Education comes first.


So, you are saying that you don't learn anything by playing an instrument? Ok. Sure.

https://creyos.com/blog/how-playing-an-instrument-benefits-your-brain



You can learn by playing an instrument but still learn more in any particular hour by going to a class than playing in a particular concert.


Really, tell me where that is published?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 07:31     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It should be brought to the Principal's attention. This is a problem. Not presented as a complaint against either teacher, but this is a problem. The Principal needs to know.


The principal likely does, and has signed off. This is not some sort of unusual situation.


+1. The absence is excused and the work is made up. Happens all the time. Should not create any issues, especially for good students.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 20:52     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
DC 8th grader has to miss classes sometimes entire school day for school orchestra events, then make up by watching videos etc and complete missed classwork. School says students are responsible for missed work even its school event. It’s not allowed to miss school orchestra events since it’s graded.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 19:20     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:It should be brought to the Principal's attention. This is a problem. Not presented as a complaint against either teacher, but this is a problem. The Principal needs to know.


The principal likely does, and has signed off. This is not some sort of unusual situation.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 18:33     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read all of the replies. He could see if the teacher would be willing to videotape the lesson so he could watch it later and not miss anything. Setting up video would not be too much work for the teacher.


You’re joking, right?


No, I’m not joking. All the teacher has to do is prop up an iPad or cellphone. I’m a teacher and every teacher in our building was required to videotape a lesson twice in the last couple weeks and it took me about one minute to angle the iPad and press record. NBD.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 18:10     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
It should be brought to the Principal's attention. This is a problem. Not presented as a complaint against either teacher, but this is a problem. The Principal needs to know.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 18:00     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks all. I will encourage my son to tell the band teacher that he has to miss the concert. This is not one of the major concerts and my son does not have a solo or anything. The band has had to perform without him before for other extenuating circumstances that are not worth getting into here and no one will be able to tell that he is missing. My son will be at the important events that were highlighted in the contract my son had to sign to join the band. My son is well rounded but I do not see a reason to push him to miss an important class for a concert. The band is not counting on him - they will be fine without him. And if all the students made the same choice as my son, then maybe the band teachers would have to adjust and that would not be a bad thing IMHO. That said, if my son wanted to go to the band performance and miss class, I would support that too.


I posted before, and while I can't change your mind, I'm disappointed as a former band member that this is the choice that your son made. Look, you are justifying to yourself and your son that his decisions is fine. Oh, he doesn't have a solo, the band isn't counting on him, it's not that big of a concert. And saying that if all the students made the same choice as your son maybe the band teacher would adjust - yeah maybe not. Maybe it's out of their control - maybe the admin said the concert will be during block 3 and that's that.

Again, the spot that your son was in is not an easy one, but he is thinking about himself (missing 1 class) over others (the entire band) that he decided to join and be a part of. Not why this one is bugging me so much. Maybe just stick to AYSO in the future.


He can't. It's a condition of being in AYPO orchestras that you have to be in school orchestra/band. And they do in fact, check.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 15:51     Subject: Re:DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d be very proud if my child opted for class instead of band.
Education comes first.


So, you are saying that you don't learn anything by playing an instrument? Ok. Sure.

https://creyos.com/blog/how-playing-an-instrument-benefits-your-brain



You can learn by playing an instrument but still learn more in any particular hour by going to a class than playing in a particular concert.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 14:57     Subject: DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
I think your son is very mature for a freshman and it has to be his choice. Telling band teacher that he has to miss the concert is the right move. Kids miss classes because of concerts, sports, being sick, but some classes are more difficult to catch up than the others. If he's not a soloist then it really is not a problem.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2025 14:26     Subject: Re:DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)
Anonymous wrote:I’d be very proud if my child opted for class instead of band.
Education comes first.


So, you are saying that you don't learn anything by playing an instrument? Ok. Sure.

https://creyos.com/blog/how-playing-an-instrument-benefits-your-brain