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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

It’s sad that you think that

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.

Yes. People do login to see how happy other people are. It’s wild that you don’t get that.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t overthink it. Photos are how we capture and share memories. If it upsets you then that’s more about you.

Everyone takes photos. This isn’t about that. This is the modern version of subjecting your friends to a slideshow of your recent vacation that they didn’t ask to see or gloating about the happy hour with your besties that left out a friend or two for no apparent reason and making sure they see it.

The problem is that you have shitty friends. I’ve literally never left anybody out of a gathering that wanted to go and then purposely post pictures so they see it that’s psychotic.

Nope. Nobody i know does this anymore. They all figured out it was a bad idea a decade ago. It had its moment and now its just for sad losers looking for attention.

You still have friends that go out and intentionally leave people out whether there are pictures are taken or not.

My friends don’t do that. We don’t intentionally leave people out.

You still have shitty friends, whether there’s pictures to prove it or not

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.

Yes. People do login to see how happy other people are. It’s wild that you don’t get that.

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.

Social media is designed to make people click. It’s not designed to make people miserable. That would be self-defeating. The exact OPPOSITE of its business model.

I disagree. It’s designed to be addictive. Like alcohol and tobacco. They make you think you’re happy, at least for a little while, but repeated exposure makes you more and more miserable over time.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t overthink it. Photos are how we capture and share memories. If it upsets you then that’s more about you.

Everyone takes photos. This isn’t about that. This is the modern version of subjecting your friends to a slideshow of your recent vacation that they didn’t ask to see or gloating about the happy hour with your besties that left out a friend or two for no apparent reason and making sure they see it.

The problem is that you have shitty friends. I’ve literally never left anybody out of a gathering that wanted to go and then purposely post pictures so they see it that’s psychotic.

Nope. Nobody i know does this anymore. They all figured out it was a bad idea a decade ago. It had its moment and now its just for sad losers looking for attention.

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.