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Anonymous wrote:Men age much worse than women, but by simply deciding their evidence of aging is less unsightly than women’s signs of aging, they live in denial about it. So odd.

I don’t blame you for not being able to see women through men’s eyes, but you’re in denial about how bad older women look.

Even if true, that ignores your own bias re: your own gender. We are all aging humans. I personally find balding incredibly unsightly, so that makes me judge male aging harshly, but there's nothing about male aging that favors them otherwise. Their hair greys, their skin sags and wrinkles, their body fat redistributes. There is no biological advantage in the aging game that favors men.

I agree with this. There is a period when women are looking for partners to settle down and start a family with, and women will prioritize things like stability and financial security over other qualities in a partner. During this period in a woman's life, older men are appealing. However, once men are about 60, they're no longer husband material, so they don't get points for being smart and having a good job. At that point, they look more like a liability, especially to younger women, so men of that age need to stay married, or if widowed or divorced, date within their own age range. Even if men can find a younger partner, they won't be able to satisfy her for long. Women over 60 generally aren't dating, anyway. They are typically focused on friends, kids, and grandkids. The ones who are dating are definitely not dating older, because men's lifespans are shorter, and the older they get, the more likely they are to need a caregiver-type partner. No one wants to do that for someone they meet later in life, with whom they have no shared history or shared finances.

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Anonymous wrote:Men age much worse than women, but by simply deciding their evidence of aging is less unsightly than women’s signs of aging, they live in denial about it. So odd.

I don’t blame you for not being able to see women through men’s eyes, but you’re in denial about how bad older women look.

Even if true, that ignores your own bias re: your own gender. We are all aging humans. I personally find balding incredibly unsightly, so that makes me judge male aging harshly, but there's nothing about male aging that favors them otherwise. Their hair greys, their skin sags and wrinkles, their body fat redistributes. There is no biological advantage in the aging game that favors men.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to my 30th college reunion and thought the women mostly looked awesome and the men mostly looked ancient. I think women just take better care of themselves.

But I also think it's not all about looks... of course. My ex-DH was a military officer who worked out constantly. He looked young and was very fit and muscular. He was also a verbally abusive a-hole with a ton of sexual hangups. My BF is 58, his hair is thinning, and he's kind of skinny except where he's getting a little bit of a belly. Do I wish sometimes he had a body like my ex? Yes, sometime I do. But the sex is so much better, because he's self-confident and attentive in ways my ex never was, and I am so much happier.

I've actually know my BF for two decades, though we only started seeing each other after we were each divorced, and in a funny way maybe this helps? He was incredibly handsome as a younger man. And when I look at him, I can still see that gorgeous 35 year old, even though he is aging and I can see all that too.

I had a similar reaction to my 30th reunion. Many of the women looked like movie stars. The 35th was different. Almost all of the beautiful women had faded. Many looked like grandmas by the 40th. Several successful men still seemed to have it going on at the 40th. We haven't had the 45th yet.

Uh, I mean, you’re 58 by the 40th, which is the age many women become grandmothers if you live outside the bubble of delayed motherhood in DC. I say this as a woman with two geriatric pregnancies, but that IS grandmother age.

Anonymous wrote:I went to my 30th college reunion and thought the women mostly looked awesome and the men mostly looked ancient. I think women just take better care of themselves.

But I also think it's not all about looks... of course. My ex-DH was a military officer who worked out constantly. He looked young and was very fit and muscular. He was also a verbally abusive a-hole with a ton of sexual hangups. My BF is 58, his hair is thinning, and he's kind of skinny except where he's getting a little bit of a belly. Do I wish sometimes he had a body like my ex? Yes, sometime I do. But the sex is so much better, because he's self-confident and attentive in ways my ex never was, and I am so much happier.

I've actually know my BF for two decades, though we only started seeing each other after we were each divorced, and in a funny way maybe this helps? He was incredibly handsome as a younger man. And when I look at him, I can still see that gorgeous 35 year old, even though he is aging and I can see all that too.

I had a similar reaction to my 30th reunion. Many of the women looked like movie stars. The 35th was different. Almost all of the beautiful women had faded. Many looked like grandmas by the 40th. Several successful men still seemed to have it going on at the 40th. We haven't had the 45th yet.

Anonymous wrote:Women "hit the wall" as they say around menopause, so late 40s to late 50s women age fast.

Men don't hit a wall really, and age like wine IF they take care of themselves.

However like wine, eventually they do hit a wall, albeit a smaller wall, eventually. If they take care of themselves, that is usually in their 70s when they catch up to women in aging looks.

TLDR Women 40s-50s. Men 70s. Which is why a 10-20 year age gap is best for women/men.

You must be delusional.

I'm 53 and mostly date guys in their mid 40's. they're the ones who ask me out. I have only met a handful of guys in their 60's who I find sexy or dateable, but that might be because guys in their 60's tend to be boomers. I date other genxers because we have the same cultural references and grew up with the same music and movies and shows. People who grew up with different pop culture feel old or young to me.

I went to my 30th college reunion and thought the women mostly looked awesome and the men mostly looked ancient. I think women just take better care of themselves.

But I also think it's not all about looks... of course. My ex-DH was a military officer who worked out constantly. He looked young and was very fit and muscular. He was also a verbally abusive a-hole with a ton of sexual hangups. My BF is 58, his hair is thinning, and he's kind of skinny except where he's getting a little bit of a belly. Do I wish sometimes he had a body like my ex? Yes, sometime I do. But the sex is so much better, because he's self-confident and attentive in ways my ex never was, and I am so much happier.

I've actually know my BF for two decades, though we only started seeing each other after we were each divorced, and in a funny way maybe this helps? He was incredibly handsome as a younger man. And when I look at him, I can still see that gorgeous 35 year old, even though he is aging and I can see all that too.

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Anonymous wrote:Women "hit the wall" as they say around menopause, so late 40s to late 50s women age fast.

Men don't hit a wall really, and age like wine IF they take care of themselves.

However like wine, eventually they do hit a wall, albeit a smaller wall, eventually. If they take care of themselves, that is usually in their 70s when they catch up to women in aging looks.

TLDR Women 40s-50s. Men 70s. Which is why a 10-20 year age gap is best for women/men.

Men = 60. I can't think of a single man over 60 who is f*******.

That makes me sad. 60s man here and dating. I certainly hope I'm seen as F'able.

Are you dating women your age and do you find them f’able?

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Anonymous wrote:Women "hit the wall" as they say around menopause, so late 40s to late 50s women age fast.

Men don't hit a wall really, and age like wine IF they take care of themselves.

However like wine, eventually they do hit a wall, albeit a smaller wall, eventually. If they take care of themselves, that is usually in their 70s when they catch up to women in aging looks.

TLDR Women 40s-50s. Men 70s. Which is why a 10-20 year age gap is best for women/men.

Men = 60. I can't think of a single man over 60 who is f*******.

That makes me sad. 60s man here and dating. I certainly hope I'm seen as F'able.

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Anonymous wrote:Men age much worse than women, but by simply deciding their evidence of aging is less unsightly than women’s signs of aging, they live in denial about it. So odd.

I don’t blame you for not being able to see women through men’s eyes, but you’re in denial about how bad older women look.

Many men here try to get posters women triggered. I asked my 19 yo son and three men from my circle to rank profiles of attractive 50 yo women. For example this woman earlier linked on this thread.
My son and all the RL men I asked found her pretty and youthful looking. She’s 50, and I just provide this as an example of a good looking woman in this age group. I can’t imagine how she might be looking old and unattractive to anyone.

https://imgur.com/a/tbOTkfh

Anonymous wrote:Women "hit the wall" as they say around menopause, so late 40s to late 50s women age fast.

Men don't hit a wall really, and age like wine IF they take care of themselves.

However like wine, eventually they do hit a wall, albeit a smaller wall, eventually. If they take care of themselves, that is usually in their 70s when they catch up to women in aging looks.

TLDR Women 40s-50s. Men 70s. Which is why a 10-20 year age gap is best for women/men.

umm, no. men age faster than women. so many more attractive women than men among 50+

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Anonymous wrote:In their 40s most start to hit a wall. Hair loss, starting to develop a stoop, greying, body weight distribution shifting.

After mid-40’s my DH looks okay but definitely acts older. Lower energy, falling asleep early, not flexible with thinking, loses patience.

Yeah, my DH is 12 years older and he looks pretty good but he went from being fun and great to old and dickish around 50 and theres no amount of gym workouts or testosterone or peptides that's going to change it.

Of course, being married to you couldn’t have had anything to do with that… 🙄

Anonymous wrote:Men age much worse than women, but by simply deciding their evidence of aging is less unsightly than women’s signs of aging, they live in denial about it. So odd.

I don’t blame you for not being able to see women through men’s eyes, but you’re in denial about how bad older women look.

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Anonymous wrote:Never met an attractive man in their 60s or 70s IRL. Where do you see these people?

My 60 yo DH looks like this.

He looks old so what's your point?

The point is that he looks very attractive.

This man is AI image. He doesn’t exist

Sam Elliott?

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Anonymous wrote:Never met an attractive man in their 60s or 70s IRL. Where do you see these people?

My 60 yo DH looks like this.

He looks old so what's your point?

The point is that he looks very attractive.

This man is AI image. He doesn’t exist