Anonymous
09/02/2025 21:30
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.
OP is slim. The rest is true.
38F on a 5 feet frame would not look slim usually.
She is a 38-year-old woman. This is not a bra size.
38F is a huge bra size.
5’0” and 38F would have me swipe right immediately!
There's a lid for every pot, but I don’t think this looks like what you think it does. A 38 ribcage is a big barrel chest on a woman that height and those F cups probably hang to her crotch. It's like an apple body type.
Venus of Willendorf. Stone cold beauty from the Stone Age.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 21:25
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think the problem is the height. I think the issue is being 38 and looking for someone open to having kids. I don’t know, but I would imagine that most men who are looking for someone who wants kids would set their age range younger.
I understand that if you want kids, then you want to say that out front.
I don't know. I'm 40F, also want kids, and am on Hinge (recently divorced from first marriage, no kids) and I've had plenty of matches. Now, actual compatibility is a separate issue, but I've had no issues getting first dates and even 2nd dates.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 21:18
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How did you set your filters
What do your photos look like
What does your profile say
My filters are:
Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles
I have recent photos from my trip in Europe; full body shots of me sight seeing; a picture of me with my niece; picture of me in a dress on the beach
Remove the photo of you with your niece, or remove niece from the photo. Men think you are a single mom and/or have bad judgment to put a minor's photo on line on a dating site.
I’m a woman and I think she has bad judgment.You come off as a single mom advertising for a new daddy for your kid. That turns most people off.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 21:15
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Dcum: "I'm an overweight, middle aged mom and I get hit on everywhere I go. I look 15 years younger and have a pretty face"
Also Dcum: "Your BMI of 23 has doomed you to be eternally single."
LOL. You forgot a couple of facts. DCUM: "I'm an overweight, middle aged mom, and I get hit on everywhere I go. I look 15 years younger and have a pretty face. Men stand in line just to get a glimpse of me. I mostly date 25 year-olds, who also want to marry me (but I won't marry again)."
Anonymous
09/02/2025 21:06
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.
OP is slim. The rest is true.
38F on a 5 feet frame would not look slim usually.
She is a 38-year-old woman. This is not a bra size.
38F is a huge bra size.
5’0” and 38F would have me swipe right immediately!
There's a lid for every pot, but I don’t think this looks like what you think it does. A 38 ribcage is a big barrel chest on a woman that height and those F cups probably hang to her crotch. It's like an apple body type.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:27
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Dcum: "I'm an overweight, middle aged mom and I get hit on everywhere I go. I look 15 years younger and have a pretty face"
Also Dcum: "Your BMI of 23 has doomed you to be eternally single."
Also Dcum: "Your BMI of 23 has doomed you to be eternally single."
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:26
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Honestly, I think the age range and the "open to children" is part of the problem. If you're looking for guys in their late 30s or older, they are going to be in their 40s or older before you two would have kids (unless they feel like you're going to rush things and then that is likely a deterrent). A lot of guys aren't going to be into that.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:18
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:I have been on the apps on and off since I separated from my STBXH. I am looking to gently dip a toe in dating and…it’s not going well!
My stats:
5’0 118lbs
Brunette with nice skin and classic style
UVA grad making 130k
I am told I am quite pretty and sweet. I have no idea why I’m receiving no matches!
It is very demoralizing.
Dating apps want to keep you single as long as possible to get more advertising money from clicks.
It's why most all of the sites now are "swipe" sites to increase clicks.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:18
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.
I would say 19 is extreme and might be hard to achieve without loss of volume in chest or butt area for many women. But 21 would be a better BMI for OP. Short women look boxy when they are average.
Slimming down and nice heels would go a long way for her.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:16
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.
OP is slim. The rest is true.
38F on a 5 feet frame would not look slim usually.
She is a 38-year-old woman. This is not a bra size.
38F is a huge bra size.
5’0” and 38F would have me swipe right immediately!
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:15
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.
OP is slim. The rest is true.
38F on a 5 feet frame would not look slim usually.
5’0” and 38F would have me swipe right immediately!
She is a 38-year-old woman. This is not a bra size.
38F is a huge bra size.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:12
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How did you set your filters
What do your photos look like
What does your profile say
My filters are:
Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles
I have recent photos from my trip in Europe; full body shots of me sight seeing; a picture of me with my niece; picture of me in a dress on the beach
Remove the photo of you with your niece, or remove niece from the photo. Men think you are a single mom and/or have bad judgment to put a minor's photo on line on a dating site.
I'm surprised she's not getting matches with guys angling for the package deal.
Guy here. Of my single guy friends in their 30s, none have ever said "If I get married, it will only be to a woman who already has kids." Men don't really have a big desire to pay to raise some other man's kid. Life may end up that way, but they dont' seek it out.
Oh dude you are so sweet and innocent! The PP meant threesomes ….
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:11
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow white beauty standards are crazy. I was today years old when I learned I'm not "slim."
5'3. 135 lbs.
I'm slim and toned since I work out a lot but most of my weight is in my thighs/booty.
Anyway, OP ignore the people trying to make you look like a stick. Your weight is fine.
Be honest with yourself. 135 at 5’3 is large. I’m 135 at 5’8 average to thin, but not skinny.
Wtf is wrong with you?
I’m a 5’3” hourglass size 6. I work out and lift. I’m a 34DD. I would never claim to be “skinny,” nor would I want to be!
But I sure as shit am not “large”
Keep in mind that there are more body types than just yours.
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:10
Subject: Re:38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Contact support -maybe your profile is not activated for some reason
Hah.. the people in customer support on the dating site would have a laugh about that one. I wonder if they post up their best "I'm not getting matches, your site must be broken!" greatest hits on the wall in the office!
Actually that happened to me - I had 100 likes on match and zero on hinge something was early off. Support said it sometimes needs an extra step to activate , when u pointed that out
Anonymous
09/02/2025 20:08
Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow white beauty standards are crazy. I was today years old when I learned I'm not "slim."
5'3. 135 lbs.
That's a BMI of 23.0, same as OP's BMI.
Yeah I know lol.
I'm literally shaped like a volleyball player (I play volleyball). And y'all say I'm fat and the OP is fat. Y'all crazy. Lol
Well, thankfully my hubby enjoys my booty and toned legs.