Anonymous wrote:People fixate too much on looking young. I agree that most people look their age, but people can look attractive at any age. I'd rather look 45 and look good than look like a homely 35.

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Anonymous wrote:I find that it really angers white women that Black and Asian women age so much more gracefully. Being the standard bearer for white European beauty throughout their 20s and into their 30s for some, to then crash out and look haggard in their 40s while the Black and Asian women look so much better kills because everything about white culture revolves around being better than someone else.

Troof!

Not really. My black and Asian friends all have really bad melasma and skin discoloration and can’t use lasers. Their grays show more. They actually look worse. Sorry.

Your stupid anecdote doesn’t count

I hate to break it to you, but this is all anecdotal. So, it does indeed. Sorry! Also, my south Asian friends look far older than their age. Is this a fun game? Not really, but you wanted to play.

It sounds like maybe people are very unattractive where you live? Weird!

I live in DC and regularly meet black people who I think are a certain age, and then I learned (because I learn their kids ages, or when they went to school or something) that they are literally 15-20 years older than I thought.

It's the area around the eyes. Skin always goes grey.

For East Asians we don’t get much wrinkles but the cheeks will droop after 35, and it’s pretty evident to us someone is their age.

Someone can look like a rich / beautiful / fit /energetic 40 but they will never look 30.

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Anonymous wrote:Black and Asian women do look younger than their age generally speaking. White women look their age.

Everyone looks their age. People of color don’t look the way white people expect them to look at the age.

Exactly right. I married into a south Asian family and now I am very familiar with all the classic south Asian signs of aging, which really are different than white, East Asian, or Black signs of aging, but still show up such that I never wonder if someone 45 is 30.

As much as some of these groups absolutely insist they age better than other ones, when among their own families/communities, they are never confused about if someone is a recent college grad or the mom of a middle schooler.

I guess all the good looking people must live on the West Coast, right?

Primarily in California then……🏖️

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Anonymous wrote:I find that it really angers white women that Black and Asian women age so much more gracefully. Being the standard bearer for white European beauty throughout their 20s and into their 30s for some, to then crash out and look haggard in their 40s while the Black and Asian women look so much better kills because everything about white culture revolves around being better than someone else.

Troof!

Not really. My black and Asian friends all have really bad melasma and skin discoloration and can’t use lasers. Their grays show more. They actually look worse. Sorry.

Your stupid anecdote doesn’t count

I hate to break it to you, but this is all anecdotal. So, it does indeed. Sorry! Also, my south Asian friends look far older than their age. Is this a fun game? Not really, but you wanted to play.

But your mum looks the worst of them all

Seriously…??!! 😐
Now you are taking a cheap shot at someone by bringing their Mother into this debate????

When you resort to tactics such as this - - it just shows that you have conceded the debate.

Loser.
(Not the PP you insulted btw.)

Anonymous wrote:I find that it really angers white women that Black and Asian women age so much more gracefully. Being the standard bearer for white European beauty throughout their 20s and into their 30s for some, to then crash out and look haggard in their 40s while the Black and Asian women look so much better kills because everything about white culture revolves around being better than someone else.

I'm not seeing a lot of evidence to back your assertions.

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Anonymous wrote:I find that it really angers white women that Black and Asian women age so much more gracefully. Being the standard bearer for white European beauty throughout their 20s and into their 30s for some, to then crash out and look haggard in their 40s while the Black and Asian women look so much better kills because everything about white culture revolves around being better than someone else.

Troof!

Not really. My black and Asian friends all have really bad melasma and skin discoloration and can’t use lasers. Their grays show more. They actually look worse. Sorry.

Your stupid anecdote doesn’t count

I hate to break it to you, but this is all anecdotal. So, it does indeed. Sorry! Also, my south Asian friends look far older than their age. Is this a fun game? Not really, but you wanted to play.

It sounds like maybe people are very unattractive where you live? Weird!

I live in DC and regularly meet black people who I think are a certain age, and then I learned (because I learn their kids ages, or when they went to school or something) that they are literally 15-20 years older than I thought.

It's the area around the eyes. Skin always goes grey.

^^ And Madonna has more money than J Lo.

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Anonymous wrote:The 50s are really cruel for women.

Men seem to have an easier time of it if they are serious about exercise and diet.

But both men and women need to work at it. No one is accidentally beautiful at 52.

Jennifer Lopez is 56 and I think she looks much more prettier now than she did 30 yrs ago (?) when she made Selena.

The Jennifer Lopez example annoys me. That woman has had everything lifted, nip tucked lasered and micro needled. Plus fake hair. You can’t possibly hold someone like her up as a standard

I think you can….based on the mere fact that the majority of celebrities her age look old already - even many celebrities who are much younger than she is.

It’s like her beauty and youth are so unattainable, if looking as good as her just required a lot of money + surgery/fillers/etc. then explain to me why other celebrities cannot look as good as she does.

Take Madonna for example, by the time Madonna was J Lo’s age she looked like someone’s granny.
J Lo is still in her prime physically.
At the ripe age of fifty~six.

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Anonymous wrote:💯 agree OP and I’m laughing at the people immediately claiming you’re wrong. Yes, even if you’re Asian, you look your age. White women wrinkle, Asian and Brown women sag and have hyperpigmentation.

I’m 45 and I have had my upper eyelids done, I Botox, I stay at a size 4, I use prescription skincare… I do ALL the things, and I’m mixed race but I’m not delusional and none of those things mean I look 35.

And it’s not just women, the amount of male friends I have who post selfies of their 40-60 year old selves desperately fishing for compliments is pathetic.

Hate to tell you, but this is the dead giveaway. Most of us can spot the Botox look a mile away. That automatically adds 5 years.

God you’re done lol. No, if it’s done well you DON’T spot it. That is the difference between going to someone good and getting Botox off of Groupon.

Anonymous wrote:This is a ridiculous post by someone that has never attended a 30th HS reunion. Some people age waaaaaay differently than others. There are dudes I graduated with that could easily be mistaken for 15 years older than me.

Take a group of 48 year old people. Some will look like they're pushing 60 due to genes and bad health and bad diet.

But no one will look like they're 33. White, black, Asian, whatever. And that is what the sensible people on this thread are saying.

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Anonymous wrote:I find that it really angers white women that Black and Asian women age so much more gracefully. Being the standard bearer for white European beauty throughout their 20s and into their 30s for some, to then crash out and look haggard in their 40s while the Black and Asian women look so much better kills because everything about white culture revolves around being better than someone else.

Troof!

Not really. My black and Asian friends all have really bad melasma and skin discoloration and can’t use lasers. Their grays show more. They actually look worse. Sorry.

Your stupid anecdote doesn’t count

I hate to break it to you, but this is all anecdotal. So, it does indeed. Sorry! Also, my south Asian friends look far older than their age. Is this a fun game? Not really, but you wanted to play.

south Asians immigrated to be software developers. There is already a selection process. Go hang out in posh neighborhoods of their native major cities and see what top beautiful percentile look like…

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Anonymous wrote:People fixate too much on looking young. I agree that most people look their age, but people can look attractive at any age. I'd rather look 45 and look good than look like a homely 35.

Exactly! Idk why the assumption is young=attractive. There’s lots of fugly young people.

In general, if someone is attractive when they’re young, they’ll continue to be. Rare is the person who “becomes” attractive later in life.

I know a woman who is more attractive relative to her peers in her forties than she was as a teen/early twenties, mostly due to some corrective plastic surgery plus just having better style, hair, and makeup as an adult. Some of the more attractive girls from my high school look terrible now because they have put on too much weight.

I don’t find this to be all that uncommon. I know quite a few women who were kind of awkward, struggled with weight, or didn’t find their style until mid to late 20s and now in their 30s those women absolutely look better than when they were young. They also look their age though! They just look really great at this age.

This is a ridiculous post by someone that has never attended a 30th HS reunion. Some people age waaaaaay differently than others. There are dudes I graduated with that could easily be mistaken for 15 years older than me.

Anonymous wrote:Black and Asian women do look younger than their age generally speaking. White women look their age.

Everyone looks their age. People of color don’t look the way white people expect them to look at the age.