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Anonymous wrote:No all the freshman have fake ID's why would they need me to buy alcohol?

I was going to say the same thing.

What's interesting is that people are outraged simply because the US has a 21 drinking age.

You may decline, but I don't think anyone would be reacting as much if the question was "did you buy your student alcohol when you dropped them off at Oxford?" At the least, the reactions may be more along the lines that they can use their own money for that.

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Anonymous wrote:We are picking up 3 cases of beer for my DS. But I guess I’m in the minority of parents. I was also the one who signed on the beach week house and have hosted small gatherings at my house. Guess what, my kid also trusts me to tell me stuff. Sure it’s unorthodox but I’d rather my DS have the trust to tell me if he’s in trouble or needs advice than not. And FWIW, I bought him condoms and plan B too. (Saves him the $50).

Did you discuss what you would serve at your "small gatherings " with the parents of the underage kids, before serving them alcohol in your house?

You do know that there are studies that demonstrate that permissive parenting like what you do leads to negative outcomes, don't you?

What I've learned is to not take a single day for granted. I have full trust in my kids to be kind and respectful. I have an older kid in college who calls and texts me all the time. What negative outcomes could possibly occur?

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Anonymous wrote:If so, what is the reasoning?

Um, no. There is no valid reason to do it and no upside, either.

Like WTF.

The reasoning is, if you have a girl especially and they will drink whether or not you supply it, it's safer for them to know what they are drinking.

Or you talk with them about never leaving their drink unsupervised, drinking beer or one of the other drinks that come in individual bottles or cans, just educating them on how to handle situations. There is no need to supply them with alcohol. They need to know “how” to navigate things, not be handed supplies with none of the life skills.

Life skills take a back seat once the drinking begins.

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Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.

Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!

One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?

So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.

You do know kids drink at college, right?

Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.

Some do. Some don't.

Tell yourself what you need to if it helps you sleep better at night, but the more you shelter your kid, the wilder they're going to go at college when they escape from your overbearing grip.

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Anonymous wrote:We are picking up 3 cases of beer for my DS. But I guess I’m in the minority of parents. I was also the one who signed on the beach week house and have hosted small gatherings at my house. Guess what, my kid also trusts me to tell me stuff. Sure it’s unorthodox but I’d rather my DS have the trust to tell me if he’s in trouble or needs advice than not. And FWIW, I bought him condoms and plan B too. (Saves him the $50).

Did you discuss what you would serve at your "small gatherings " with the parents of the underage kids, before serving them alcohol in your house?

You do know that there are studies that demonstrate that permissive parenting like what you do leads to negative outcomes, don't you?

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Anonymous wrote:If so, what is the reasoning?

Um, no. There is no valid reason to do it and no upside, either.

Like WTF.

The reasoning is, if you have a girl especially and they will drink whether or not you supply it, it's safer for them to know what they are drinking.

Or you talk with them about never leaving their drink unsupervised, drinking beer or one of the other drinks that come in individual bottles or cans, just educating them on how to handle situations. There is no need to supply them with alcohol. They need to know “how” to navigate things, not be handed supplies with none of the life skills.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like dcurbanmom has hit a new low today between this thread and the sorority video one. I’m a parent, not my kid’s friend. I don’t buy alcohol, condoms, or share videos of scantily dressed rear shaking. I’m no prude but that’s just not how I see my role. And for those of you who supply alcohol to underage kids, especially high school, you are legally liable if anything happens. Be the adult.

Agree with you for everything except buying condoms. I did all I could to educate my kids, but if they choose to have sex I want them to have safe sex...so they know I will fund condoms or anything else they need. But the rest is theirs to figure out. I'm not hosting HS drinking parties...then again, all 3 of my kids survived HS without drinking (yes I know it is true)...they were not the type to attend parties like that. They had a good group of friends and most did not drink. Those that did did so with other groups (who liked to drink). It is possible to get thru HS without a kid drinking much or any. And those kids can also be "popular" and happy.

Anonymous wrote:I feel like dcurbanmom has hit a new low today between this thread and the sorority video one. I’m a parent, not my kid’s friend. I don’t buy alcohol, condoms, or share videos of scantily dressed rear shaking. I’m no prude but that’s just not how I see my role. And for those of you who supply alcohol to underage kids, especially high school, you are legally liable if anything happens. Be the adult.

Anonymous wrote:We are picking up 3 cases of beer for my DS. But I guess I’m in the minority of parents. I was also the one who signed on the beach week house and have hosted small gatherings at my house. Guess what, my kid also trusts me to tell me stuff. Sure it’s unorthodox but I’d rather my DS have the trust to tell me if he’s in trouble or needs advice than not. And FWIW, I bought him condoms and plan B too. (Saves him the $50).

Anonymous wrote:If so, what is the reasoning?