Anonymous wrote:Some of you are seriously unhinged like possibly should be medicated territory.

I had a summer romance at 15 going on 16 also with an Australian boy.
We didn't have sex that summer.
And we ended up getting married.
Just relax. Ignore most of what you read here. It will or it won't.

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Anonymous wrote:Birth control now.

This was also my thought. And I'm sure you have already talked to her about sex, consent etc but now is a good time for a refresher.may even want to have some condoms around and let her know where they are not sure your values on teen sex but this is a high risk situation.

100%. Child support is difficult to collect from Australia, and there would likely be little to no consequences for this young man. Australia was a prison colony and has a lot of bad apples to this day. He very well may have a lady friend there too, and it’s really too far to travel over a winter break, but I agree there’s need to mention all that.

They may have been founded by criminals (many for petty offenses), but we were founded by a few dozen men many of whom owned hundreds of other human being and routinely ordered them whipped and separated from their loved ones and ordered to work and live in terror. You sure you want to lean on that argument?

And we’ve travelled there several times over winter break. Gorgeous lands.

Having said that, the teens should have fun and enjoy their memories after he heads home. Solo.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes OP- you’re naive. And if they’re never alone, when is the kissing occurring?

Op here. Probably on the beach with their friends the backyard. I mean they are never truly alone the beach is about a 10 minute walk from our house there's constantly neighbors walking to and from and around the beach. At the beach they go with her friends and like bi said neighbors are always there and our neighbors love to talk. When they are at our house I or DH is always around and they are only allowed in the backyard/ front porch family room and people are always in and out including younger siblings it's the same at neighbor's house including a MIL that lives there. I feel like I have eyes everywhere. And we talk. She told me she thought he was cute at the start and the kids. I think she would tell me if she was wanting to have sex. How would I even get her on birth control anyway just ask if she wants it? As for keeping condoms in the house not sure how I feel about that.

If she’s only 16 then I don’t think has s*x on her mind.

Oh, you sweet summer child!

Young girls should focus on their studies and not on foolishness, such as boys.

What studies…it’s summer.

Exactly. I was boy crazy and this would have been a great summer in my opinion. Now a nurse anesthesiologist so I guess I was able to study and get some fun hook-ups.

It’s time for the sexist double standard comments to come to an end. All teens are horny. Girls are allowed to want flings and hook-ups too. Long term boyfriends are boring and too emotional.

Oh girls are totally fine to want flings too... but girls DO tend to get a bit more starry-eyed about it and they are the ones who will feel worse if his intentions are wrong.

I don't know what the controversy is here--almost every teen boy has bad intentions (spoken as a former one) and saying that teen girls can also have bad intentions doesn't make it less important to protect this one.

Your premise is wrong.wanting to have sex and not a long term relationship is not bad intentions

Convincing a girl that you are interested in a long term relationship, love her and want her to visit in Australia because you know she wants her first time to be with someone who she is in love with - when you do not want her to visit, do not love her and are not interested in a long term relationship- is a bad intention.

- except you know NONE of this. You don’t even know the boy.

All you seem to know is hate and misandry, PP. hate, hate, hate.

yeah... maybe this boy is different than ALL the rest.



maybe...

You still don't get it. You're operating from the belief that girls are tricked into having sex

A lot of girls are tricked into sex. Did you not go to high school?

A lot more want to have sex than are tricked but they can't admit it because of wackos like you and your puritanical beliefs.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes OP- you’re naive. And if they’re never alone, when is the kissing occurring?

Op here. Probably on the beach with their friends the backyard. I mean they are never truly alone the beach is about a 10 minute walk from our house there's constantly neighbors walking to and from and around the beach. At the beach they go with her friends and like bi said neighbors are always there and our neighbors love to talk. When they are at our house I or DH is always around and they are only allowed in the backyard/ front porch family room and people are always in and out including younger siblings it's the same at neighbor's house including a MIL that lives there. I feel like I have eyes everywhere. And we talk. She told me she thought he was cute at the start and the kids. I think she would tell me if she was wanting to have sex. How would I even get her on birth control anyway just ask if she wants it? As for keeping condoms in the house not sure how I feel about that.

If she’s only 16 then I don’t think has s*x on her mind.

Oh, you sweet summer child!

Young girls should focus on their studies and not on foolishness, such as boys.

What studies…it’s summer.

Exactly. I was boy crazy and this would have been a great summer in my opinion. Now a nurse anesthesiologist so I guess I was able to study and get some fun hook-ups.

It’s time for the sexist double standard comments to come to an end. All teens are horny. Girls are allowed to want flings and hook-ups too. Long term boyfriends are boring and too emotional.

Oh girls are totally fine to want flings too... but girls DO tend to get a bit more starry-eyed about it and they are the ones who will feel worse if his intentions are wrong.

I don't know what the controversy is here--almost every teen boy has bad intentions (spoken as a former one) and saying that teen girls can also have bad intentions doesn't make it less important to protect this one.

Your premise is wrong.wanting to have sex and not a long term relationship is not bad intentions

Convincing a girl that you are interested in a long term relationship, love her and want her to visit in Australia because you know she wants her first time to be with someone who she is in love with - when you do not want her to visit, do not love her and are not interested in a long term relationship- is a bad intention.

- except you know NONE of this. You don’t even know the boy.

All you seem to know is hate and misandry, PP. hate, hate, hate.

yeah... maybe this boy is different than ALL the rest.



maybe...

You still don't get it. You're operating from the belief that girls are tricked into having sex

A lot of girls are tricked into sex. Did you not go to high school?

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Anonymous wrote:Haha She’s probably going to sleep with him in the next couple weeks.

In all honesty, this summer fling would be a pretty great initiation to romantic relationships.

The clean break when he leaves is nice too. She’ll have some perspective if she ever dates a more geographically available boy in high school.

Finally, the voice of sanity emerges.

Anonymous wrote:Haha She’s probably going to sleep with him in the next couple weeks.

In all honesty, this summer fling would be a pretty great initiation to romantic relationships.

The clean break when he leaves is nice too. She’ll have some perspective if she ever dates a more geographically available boy in high school.

Anonymous wrote:some of yall are serious freaks