Anonymous wrote:I only read the first page of comments. I don't think therapy is the answer to all life's problems, but you, OP, could certainly get something out of talking all this through, because there is a lot going on in your head, and you need to sort it all out.

I think you're fixating on the emotional affair because you'd rather feel shame at being the bad guy than sadness at failing your marriage.

OP here.

I definitely feel shame. I never thought I would do something like that.

I have a lot of anger over feeling like a single married mom.

We have a lot to unpack as a couple because we had problems before having our first.

what are your kids doing while your on DCUM fighting all day making yourself into a martyr?

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Anonymous wrote:If you divorce why do you think he would want any custody? Visits sound more his speed.

OP here.

I imagine it would be a case of once something is gone full-time, it suddenly becomes very important. I wouldn't see me being able to get 100% physical custody even with 50/50 legal custody.

But you have no idea. Document the neglect whilst you are away.
Also you are imagining he wants to diaper feed and watch them.

I only read the first page of comments. I don't think therapy is the answer to all life's problems, but you, OP, could certainly get something out of talking all this through, because there is a lot going on in your head, and you need to sort it all out.

I think you're fixating on the emotional affair because you'd rather feel shame at being the bad guy than sadness at failing your marriage.

Anonymous wrote:If you divorce why do you think he would want any custody? Visits sound more his speed.

OP here.

I imagine it would be a case of once something is gone full-time, it suddenly becomes very important. I wouldn't see me being able to get 100% physical custody even with 50/50 legal custody.

If you divorce why do you think he would want any custody? Visits sound more his speed.

Stop Homeschooling.

The kids need a break from living 24/7 in this dysfunctional environment. They need exposure to a different routine and schoolmates. Plus, you might meet some other mothers to become friends with.

This will give you 6-7 hours a day with fewer kid duties, which will keep you from being so exhausted. As all the kids get older, you will have time during school to get a part time job without needing to pay for daycare.

All these benefits will improve your and your kid's mental health.

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Anonymous wrote:shouldn't you be home schooling your kids rigth now, OP? You are such a fraud.

OP here.

Thanks for your assessment. We are actually done for the year, as is our county (not that we follow it) and the surrounding counties are done within the next few days.

We'll be doing more learning over the summer, but thanks for your concern.

So what happened to all the full-time mothering you supposedly do that's so exhausting? You are such a troll. and if not a troll, a lazy stay-in-bed mom who is desperate for attention. You were responding late into the evening and today you've been engaging and responding every 5 or 10 minutes throughout the morning. Don't you have important mom work to do?

OP here.

Yes, you're 100% right. I stay in bed all day, neglecting my kids. I am worthless.

Weird that you're tracking my responses. Guess you also have nothing to do all day, like work your job or whatever it is you're supposed to be doing.

Be well!

OP ignore this idiot.

OP here.

Yes, they are just someone who is deliberately being an AH. Clearly they have never had a newborn who wakes up at any hour in the night and then you're stuck being awake for a few hours and have nothing else to do but doomscroll.

Anonymous wrote:Yes it definitely wasn’t right what you did w/the other guy…but you have been feeling basically invisible 🫥 to your husband for so long that it is perfectly understandable why you would look outside your marriage for what is lacking within.

OP here.

Definitely wrong and I know that.

Marriage is worse now than when that happened but I wouldn't ever make the same mistake again.

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Anonymous wrote:shouldn't you be home schooling your kids rigth now, OP? You are such a fraud.

OP here.

Thanks for your assessment. We are actually done for the year, as is our county (not that we follow it) and the surrounding counties are done within the next few days.

We'll be doing more learning over the summer, but thanks for your concern.

So what happened to all the full-time mothering you supposedly do that's so exhausting? You are such a troll. and if not a troll, a lazy stay-in-bed mom who is desperate for attention. You were responding late into the evening and today you've been engaging and responding every 5 or 10 minutes throughout the morning. Don't you have important mom work to do?

OP here.

Yes, you're 100% right. I stay in bed all day, neglecting my kids. I am worthless.

Weird that you're tracking my responses. Guess you also have nothing to do all day, like work your job or whatever it is you're supposed to be doing.

Be well!

OP ignore this idiot.

Yes it definitely wasn’t right what you did w/the other guy…but you have been feeling basically invisible 🫥 to your husband for so long that it is perfectly understandable why you would look outside your marriage for what is lacking within.

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Anonymous wrote:shouldn't you be home schooling your kids rigth now, OP? You are such a fraud.

OP here.

Thanks for your assessment. We are actually done for the year, as is our county (not that we follow it) and the surrounding counties are done within the next few days.

We'll be doing more learning over the summer, but thanks for your concern.

So what happened to all the full-time mothering you supposedly do that's so exhausting? You are such a troll. and if not a troll, a lazy stay-in-bed mom who is desperate for attention. You were responding late into the evening and today you've been engaging and responding every 5 or 10 minutes throughout the morning. Don't you have important mom work to do?

OP here.

Yes, you're 100% right. I stay in bed all day, neglecting my kids. I am worthless.

Weird that you're tracking my responses. Guess you also have nothing to do all day, like work your job or whatever it is you're supposed to be doing.

Be well!

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Anonymous wrote:shouldn't you be home schooling your kids rigth now, OP? You are such a fraud.

OP here.

Thanks for your assessment. We are actually done for the year, as is our county (not that we follow it) and the surrounding counties are done within the next few days.

We'll be doing more learning over the summer, but thanks for your concern.

So what happened to all the full-time mothering you supposedly do that's so exhausting? You are such a troll. and if not a troll, a lazy stay-in-bed mom who is desperate for attention. You were responding late into the evening and today you've been engaging and responding every 5 or 10 minutes throughout the morning. Don't you have important mom work to do?

Anonymous wrote:OP, you homeschool? I missed that with so many pages of snow-flake talk.

More troll reveals, lame.

Anonymous wrote:You know what will help? Paragraphs.

It’s a troll post again where the DCUM troll just mashes up points from previous posts into one big one.

Then goads the thread in with troll reveals later.