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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Those days are long gone.. Blame women's lib.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Older, most of the times, does mean uglier. I’ll take Jessica Alba at 23 over the same Jessica Alba at the age of 43.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

Older doesn't mean uglier fyi

Anonymous wrote:I think most guys are realistic and know they probably won’t be able to attract a good looking woman who ALSO makes big $$$ so they pick one, and usually they end up going for looks and youth over money.

A dude making 500k would rather date a hot chick earning 50k than an uglier/older woman who matches his income.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

Associative mating is about intelligence.

I know so many ivy league women/women with lots of grad degrees who married ivy league men and now are stay at home moms with hobbies or very small businesses or PT jobs.

I'm in my 40s now but my husband absolutely did not care about my income. I worked before we had kids and now I do the kids stuff and work PT. He still doesn't care. Both 99th percentile people at students and our intellectual connection is there.

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Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

Associative mating is about intelligence.

I know so many ivy league women/women with lots of grad degrees who married ivy league men and now are stay at home moms with hobbies or very small businesses or PT jobs.

I'm in my 40s now but my husband absolutely did not care about my income. I worked before we had kids and now I do the kids stuff and work PT. He still doesn't care. Both 99th percentile people at students and our intellectual connection is there.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I attended a HSYP college and have a professional degree from another top school, so I know lots of people who come from high income families and/or who became high income. My circles at this age (50s) are almost entirely people in the top 15% of income earners. I don't think that any of the men I know, even those younger and older than me, have been drawn to a woman because of her income. They were certainly drawn to women because of their "pedigree" and their access to/comfort with the lifestyle of upper-echelon people. It's always surprised me that they never award brownie points to women earning over $200K. They want women who are cultured, well-read, and who are at ease with powerful and wealthy people. If anything, they seem to be uncomfortable with Boss Babe women whose careers might legitimately be more impressive/well-compensated than their own. I think OP just stumbled upon two oddball men.

Are you the same poster who always posts something like this. How “high value men” (gag) care about pedigree?

I’m not that PP but - yes - they do care. “Associative mating” is a thing. People come from the same cities/suburbs, attend one of a few very $$$ private schools or boarding schools, attend the same colleges (their parents and grandparents went there as well!), the same grad schools in the same fields, and eventually marry someone in this exact same circle. The days of the rich big time law partner marrying a pretty but lower social class secretary or waitress are long gone.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH works in IB with a salary + bonus of around 4M/year, and he does not care about how much I make. FWIW, my salary is $0 because I am an artist, and I have not made any money in the past ten years. My DH is a true alpha.

I worked in IB for decades and you're a troll.

You obviously know nothing about how finance or IB work. My DH's best friend is a CEO of a financial non-profit and his salary is 3.9M/yr. Yes, a non-profit. He could make ten times that in the IB world. FWIW, the CFO of the same non-profit makes around 2M/yr.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH works in IB with a salary + bonus of around 4M/year, and he does not care about how much I make. FWIW, my salary is $0 because I am an artist, and I have not made any money in the past ten years. My DH is a true alpha.

I worked in IB for decades and you're a troll.