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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

This generation is cooked.

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is some toxic crap right here. No wonder men are struggling.

Totally agreed

I haven't read all nine pages but the next rainy day I intend to, because it looks hilarious.

I used to be in the wholesale flower business and a man using this card wouldn't even merit a glance from me. Plenty of men like flowers.

You sound too immature to date.

This reminds me of being in high school and liking or not liking someone because of the bands they listened to. I would never have married my husband if I still cared about such trivial things.

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Anonymous wrote:I like very masculine men.

What are your opinions on men barking at women?

I get it OP. I once stopped seeing a guy because he wore hideous sandals to our date and had troll feet. The ick is millions of years of evolution keeping us safe. It's not just the card or the sandals. It's multiple tiny data points that culminate in some seemingly petty detail that gives us the ick. Trust your instincts.

As a man, I agree with this (sock-puppet) post. You do not need petty details to tell you that any woman who uses the term "the ick" is telling everyone she should not be out in public with a man.

Personally, I have never heard a woman use the term "gives me the ick" IRL. That is because the women I want to be around are mature, articulate, and well-read. A man's instinct should be to dump any woman who would say, with a straight face, that something gave her the "ick."

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is some toxic crap right here. No wonder men are struggling.

lol

I love DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

DCUM always tries to zag for an excuse to attack an OP. This shiny flowery Amex is a feminine girly card. He picked this card, which is abnormal but fine. Not fine is lying about picking the card and acting weird after compliments. Casually lying on a first date and becoming defensive and insecure over nothing are huge red flags.

My DH selected this card because of the artist rendering. We want to support the artist. But we're black so I guess it's fine.

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

DCUM always tries to zag for an excuse to attack an OP. This shiny flowery Amex is a feminine girly card. He picked this card, which is abnormal but fine. Not fine is lying about picking the card and acting weird after compliments. Casually lying on a first date and becoming defensive and insecure over nothing are huge red flags.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

lol I think he was embarrassed for you because you didn’t realize it was an Amex Platinum. They don’t hand these out to everyone. The annual fee is $700.

That's just crazy. What is the advantage of that? Do you get more cash back or something? If so it's a push unless you use it a lot.
Many places don't like taking Amex either cause they have to pay higher fees as vendors.

Free hbo

Free airport lounges

Free lots of stuff and his work probably pays the fee.

Why would you assume this?

Because mine does as I use it as an expense card too, and perks help with work travel and fix fees and cash back.

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is some toxic crap right here. No wonder men are struggling.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

I mean this kindly, OP, because I see my past self in you. I don’t think a card design would have bothered me, but I once contemplated ending a new relationship because the guy’s walk seemed weird, and because he posted one of those facebook videos where he dumped cold water on himself. I never mentioned it to him, but it annoyed me. I was being judgmental, and effectively shooting myself in the dating foot.

Thankfully, I had a moment of clarity and realized how ridiculous and shallow I was. We kept dating, and these juvenile things fell away. We’re now married with kids, and I honestly don’t see now why I found his walk weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

lol I think he was embarrassed for you because you didn’t realize it was an Amex Platinum. They don’t hand these out to everyone. The annual fee is $700.

That's just crazy. What is the advantage of that? Do you get more cash back or something? If so it's a push unless you use it a lot.
Many places don't like taking Amex either cause they have to pay higher fees as vendors.

Free hbo

Free airport lounges

Free lots of stuff and his work probably pays the fee.

Why would you assume this?

This whole thread is some toxic crap right here. No wonder men are struggling.