Anonymous wrote:It's very odd that a law firm would offer an internship to a 16 year old.

I don't think it's that odd. There are all sorts of selective summer programs for outstanding students. There Re athletic ones too. I went to olympic training during the summers at 14 and lived in a dorm. This isn't that different. He's 16, not a baby.

Your nephew is deeply insecure. It's okay to say no to an obnoxious child. It may be an early life lesson for him.

On the other hand, you could offer to host him under conditions that he watches what he says and that you will call him out and/or send him home early if he can't control himself. Put him and his parents on notice that you won't inconvenience your children's comfort to satisfy his needs. Feel free to be rude back; he's almost an adult.

It's a troll post folks. Don't feed.

You are questioning whether you are doing the right thing because you know you are not - and your conscience is reminding you.

I can’t believe you think him renting from a friend - he’s 16!! - is a good solution. Would your don be ok in that situation?

No well regarded law firm takes 16 year old interns, let alone random ones from other cities with no place to live.

1. This is a teen who needs guidance, not an adult bully who will never learn.

2. This "opportunity" sounds like a typical pay-to-play college-friendly program where the companies involved make money off the room and board: did someone even check that kids are allowed to stay elsewhere? Usually they're not allowed, both for safety reasons as well as not being financially rewarding to the organization.

3. OP's stance is childish and immature. I would never refuse a rude 16 year old nephew houseroom for the summer. My teens, my husband and I are perfectly able to put such a person in his place!

He's 16. A kid. I would not make him live alone.

That said, you are under no obligation to shut up when he's obnoxious. He's a kid. Maybe a good aunt and uncle can actually teach him manners and a modicum of decency. My aunts and uncles contributed a kit to the person I became. You can, too.

"You don't get to treat your cousins like dirt and stay here. If you want to live here during your internship, I expect you to treat all of us with kindness. If you stop out of line, I will let you know and give you chance to repair the damage you created. If you are not willing to learn, you can leave."

Anonymous wrote:Bad grammar: too hard to read. Makes my brain hurt.

lol. I was thinking the same thing.

This is a big ask … Especially when there is an option to pay for housing.
Also, your mother is way outta’ line for offering up your home without asking and speaking to you and your husband first.

Good Luck!

Kid should not have been allowed to apply unless housing was provided by firm or otherwise settled. Assuming it would work out is on kids parents.
OP don't relent.

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Anonymous wrote:What law firms offer scholarships? This sounds made up.

Right? Nothing about this adds up. What law firm takes an unconnected kid from an entirely different city on for a summer internship? And makes them find their own housing, as a minor? Come on. Either OP is trolling us,.or her family is lying to her.

+1

This story is total BS

I think you’re being selfish. This is your sibling’s kid, could truly be a life changing experience and he’s 16 and responsible - it’s not even like you’d need to interact that much. Sounds like he’s insecure and making comments that put people down as a result. He’s still a kid, you are his aunt, and you have an opportunity to help address that (if he was staying at my house I’d totally pull him aside and kindly tell him that kind of bragging or putting people down wasn’t appreciated in my house, and you realize he might not be doing it intentionally, but you’d be calling it out when you saw it and not letting it slide). Even if it wasn’t “fun”, your kids likely would benefit too from learning to deal with him.

I get why others would just say no, but coming from a big family where we all look out for each other, even when it’s not pleasant, and seeing how that enriches all our lives, I still think it’s selfish. One of my cousins moved in with us for a year when I was a kid, and it was disruptive at the time, but 35 years later she talks openly about how much that meant to her and was there helping take care of my parents when they were old and sick.

If this is not a troll post, you are not a good person OP. Where I come from, we help our family when they need us, even if it is inconvenient at times. But, “boundaries”—right?

I think you should allow him to stay and let this be a learning experience for all of you. Your child will get some experience with difficult personalities whilst still being coddled by mom while you correct any truly abhorrent behavior from nephew. Win-win.

It's very odd that a law firm would offer an internship to a 16 year old.