Anonymous wrote:The toxicity was strong at the Arlington 2011s team tonight! Thought it was just the players but nope - came from the coaches. This was an invite only session and after the session the coaches told the 5 girls who they were not considering to “leave, just go” and everyone watched them walk off the field. These coaches have no business coaching kids. And if you’re wondering if my kid was one told to “leave, just go”, no. My kid was invited back but after seeing that and also having some very questionable things said to her by the coaches during the session, she will absolutely not be going back again.

i hope this is a lie. Pretty sad if not

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Anonymous wrote:The toxicity was strong at the Arlington 2011s team tonight! Thought it was just the players but nope - came from the coaches. This was an invite only session and after the session the coaches told the 5 girls who they were not considering to “leave, just go” and everyone watched them walk off the field. These coaches have no business coaching kids. And if you’re wondering if my kid was one told to “leave, just go”, no. My kid was invited back but after seeing that and also having some very questionable things said to her by the coaches during the session, she will absolutely not be going back again.

Good that you’re not going back again. What’s wrong with that? They are trying to form a strong team with talent and mental toughness. Only strong people will survive in the real world. Please take your soft kid somewhere else—you definitely don’t belong here. Other kids who need it more will take the spot.

Proving the rotten apple does not fall far from the rotten tree. Rest easy knowing your DDs spot was offered to our DDs and they turned it down because even a normal 13 year old can recognize a cess pit, even if you can’t. But if you can’t recognize the issues this team is facing, I bet you are the problem. Maybe you can call Captain Arlington in to help motivate your girls. We would all love to see that nonsense again. 🤣. Idiots.

Anonymous wrote:The toxicity was strong at the Arlington 2011s team tonight! Thought it was just the players but nope - came from the coaches. This was an invite only session and after the session the coaches told the 5 girls who they were not considering to “leave, just go” and everyone watched them walk off the field. These coaches have no business coaching kids. And if you’re wondering if my kid was one told to “leave, just go”, no. My kid was invited back but after seeing that and also having some very questionable things said to her by the coaches during the session, she will absolutely not be going back again.

I applaud this! And I am honestly astounded (although I shouldn’t be given where are nation is these days) at all the people who replied to you a that you and your child should just toughen up.

Yes, competitive sports teach valuable life lessons. Maybe some of the most important ones. And in fact the company I work for had an entire program themed on the fact that great athletes make great leaders! But there is a HUGE difference between teaching life lessons (even hard ones) in an appropriate way vs just being mean and obnoxious about it. That is not the only (or the right) way to convey these life lessons to our children.

WE SHOULD NEVER NORMALIZE UNNECESSARILY MEAN BEHAVIOR.

Of all the things I have read on this forum (many of which are borderline insane, of course - we are quite the crowd here at DCUM), the responses given to this post depress me the most about our world these days.

Please don’t be like those Arlington coaches. Or any of the Arlington parents in this group saying it is ok and the kids should just toughen up.

Please instead be the ones that help our kids learn the tough lessons through kindness and empathy. This is what will make them a better person (and leader) when they grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are NVA/ Union parents for U15 and younger - which commute would be better between VDA and Arlington? Where do each team practice and generally at what time?

Arlington is FAR better

Vda has way better coaching. Arlington has better educated parents.

Kickball or rugby coaches yes. Soccer coaches no.

Arlington has the better staff / technical play.

Stop. I've watched more than one match and the "strategy" is to boot it long to the right wing and hope she could out run the girl marking her and corral the ball.

In case you were wondering, she could not effectively do either. And yes, this is an ECNL team.

Have you seen college play? That’s 90% of all male and female college teams.

This wasn't the discussion. I'm ok with fast direct football when necessary. It can be superior to 25 sideways and backwards passes which do nothing.

I was responding to, I am assuming a parent, saying other clubs teach "kickball", whilst claiming Arlington "develops" players.

What I love is when they head the ball on goalie kicks. It is so fun to watch them head it back and forth 4-5 times while accomplish nothing. Just like long balls in to the defense.

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Anonymous wrote:Soooooo guys how was secret practice/id session?

They are not secret practices or ID sessions. Girls who have received callbacks from ID sessions are attending normal team training this week by invite.

Yes. This allows the existing girls to meet the ones taking their place.

If your daughter is on an ECNL team, she likely by U13 and certainly by U15 knows 50% of the girls on other ECNL clubs locally from private training, strengthening, ID camps, etc

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Anonymous wrote:Soooooo guys how was secret practice/id session?

They are not secret practices or ID sessions. Girls who have received callbacks from ID sessions are attending normal team training this week by invite.

Yes. This allows the existing girls to meet the ones taking their place.

Are rosters close to finalized? Isn't it just a matter of getting thru rolling offers with a deadline and waited listed players?

Anonymous wrote:Soooooo guys how was secret practice/id session?

They are not secret practices or ID sessions. Girls who have received callbacks from ID sessions are attending normal team training this week by invite.

Soooooo guys how was secret practice/id session?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if this is a real question? But girls absolutely talk smack during tryouts. From directly saying “you suck” to loudly criticizing appearances while talking to friends/teammates. Girls are mean, not Arlington specifically.

Criticizing someone's immutable characteristics is just gamesmanship and not mean? Making fun of a girl's looks isn't mean? It's something she can't help because of genetics. Is it okay to make fun of girl who is a different race? It's the same thing, genetics. The kid can't change it. This is absolutely mean girl!

A kids clothes aren't as nice or her hair isn't done to what the Arlington girls think is a good standard? Maybe this kid's parents have to work or just don't get into that sort of thing. Also mean girl type of stuff unless you think poor shaming is just a lark.

If you think any of this is ok, you need to have a long look at yourself in the mirror. After that, if you still think it's not a big deal, you should post your name. Why not? It's nothing to be ashamed of, right?

Anonymous wrote:Nope. That is not the same thing. This was a group of current players and 9 other outside players. 4 outside players were told to stay with the current team and then the 5 outside players were told to “just go, leave”. Those 5 13 year old girls walked off the field while everyone watched. I wish it were a lie but I posted it here because people should know how horrible these coaches are to keep their kids safe. This is not normal behavior! Do not normalize this behavior for your daughter!

I agree it’s generally wrong to treat teenagers this way but I don’t disagree with hard truths being dealt to kids these days. There is far too much coddling in every essence of parenting today; guilty and self aware here too. With all said sport can still be our last meritocracy and that means cutting kids on the spot no explanation necessary. This is why our family values competitive sports leagues like ECNL/GA/MLSN there are numerous lessons to be learned from failing short of your goals

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Anonymous wrote:If you are NVA/ Union parents for U15 and younger - which commute would be better between VDA and Arlington? Where do each team practice and generally at what time?

Arlington is FAR better

Vda has way better coaching. Arlington has better educated parents.

Kickball or rugby coaches yes. Soccer coaches no.

Arlington has the better staff / technical play.

Stop. I've watched more than one match and the "strategy" is to boot it long to the right wing and hope she could out run the girl marking her and corral the ball.

In case you were wondering, she could not effectively do either. And yes, this is an ECNL team.

Have you seen college play? That’s 90% of all male and female college teams.

This wasn't the discussion. I'm ok with fast direct football when necessary. It can be superior to 25 sideways and backwards passes which do nothing.

I was responding to, I am assuming a parent, saying other clubs teach "kickball", whilst claiming Arlington "develops" players.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are NVA/ Union parents for U15 and younger - which commute would be better between VDA and Arlington? Where do each team practice and generally at what time?

Arlington is FAR better

Vda has way better coaching. Arlington has better educated parents.

Kickball or rugby coaches yes. Soccer coaches no.

Arlington has the better staff / technical play.

Stop. I've watched more than one match and the "strategy" is to boot it long to the right wing and hope she could out run the girl marking her and corral the ball.

In case you were wondering, she could not effectively do either. And yes, this is an ECNL team.

Have you seen college play? That’s 90% of all male and female college teams.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if this is a real question? But girls absolutely talk smack during tryouts. From directly saying “you suck” to loudly criticizing appearances while talking to friends/teammates. Girls are mean, not Arlington specifically.

Have you watched Yellowjackets? lol

It was definitely like that back in the 80s/90s when I played .

Anonymous wrote:Nope. That is not the same thing. This was a group of current players and 9 other outside players. 4 outside players were told to stay with the current team and then the 5 outside players were told to “just go, leave”. Those 5 13 year old girls walked off the field while everyone watched. I wish it were a lie but I posted it here because people should know how horrible these coaches are to keep their kids safe. This is not normal behavior! Do not normalize this behavior for your daughter!

You are crazy. Don’t come back.