My Dad is in his seventies and I only talk to him every few months and he never calls me or visits, despite being in good health and visiting friends who live further away than I do. The last time we visited and stayed with an other relative he was invited over and only stayed about an hour. He hadn’t seen us in a year. He was never that interested but it was less noticeable when my mom was still alive and we saw him in the process of visiting her.

Just saying, it’s not that weird they didn’t check on him if he wasn’t interested in them.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad that he was 95 and none of his three kids checked up on him for over two weeks.

They probably already had access to his money. Once family get the money, nobody cares about you. And if you don't have money, nobody cares about you.

DP. I bet the opposite. Knew they’d have to wait for $$$ until after much younger wife dies.

I'm a bit surprised they didn't have a housekeeper or anyone else to help them around their home and property.

Agree the most likely explanation is she died suddenly and he fell shortly after and couldn't get back up. Very, very sad.

I feel bad for the dog left to suffer and die in a locked crate. At least they probably died quickly.

Anonymous wrote:Pacemaker data suggests he died February 17.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2025/02/28/hackman-pacemaker-dead-wife-newmexico/

That’s so sad. Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad that he was 95 and none of his three kids checked up on him for over two weeks.

Yes. I can't imagine not checking up on my elderly mother for even a day.

If he had dementia, he may not have wanted calls or been able to participate. Sometimes people with dementia find calls really aggravating — it’s confusing who it is, why they aren’t there, what they are saying, etc.

+1. I stopped calling a family member directly because they had severe dementia and would scream and grunt if you tried speaking to them on the phone.

I haven’t had a telephone conversation with my local FIL in about 20 years - he’s needed hearing aids since as long as I’ve known him and has stubbornly refused to even consider. Conversations with him have always been nearly impossible with me shouting at him, then trying to to be patient with his delay tactics - he pauses to discern what he thinks he heard me say. So, no more calls. I’ll text him if I must.

Both of my grandmothers lived into their 90s. One was sharp as a tack, but hated talking on the phone because she couldn’t hear. The other had TIA’s the last year or two she was alive and while she didn’t have dementia she did have some loss of cognitive ability and talking on the phone was just not possible. When she was 94 we could sit together and have a nice visit, and knew who I was, but phone calls were distressing. I think I talked to her weekly on the phone until she was about 90 or 91.

Anonymous wrote:Sad that he was 95 and none of his three kids checked up on him for over two weeks.

They probably already had access to his money. Once family get the money, nobody cares about you. And if you don't have money, nobody cares about you.

Anonymous wrote:Pacemaker data suggests he died February 17.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2025/02/28/hackman-pacemaker-dead-wife-newmexico/

I wonder if pacemaker's can transmit data via wifi or cell data?

So sad.

Why were his kids not in contact with them? Or friends? My parents are elderly and we talk or I visit 2-4 times a week. Nobody checked on them for 10 days.

Pacemaker data suggests he died February 17.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2025/02/28/hackman-pacemaker-dead-wife-newmexico/

Anonymous wrote:So sad. I’m thinking that he probably died first, and she went next, heartbroken. So very sad.

I'm pretty sure it was vice versa. Because he had the door open, and the medications she was taking were just usual daily medications. Not the kind you would take for an intentional overdose. 60-something year old women die of heart attacks all the time, especially if they have high blood pressure which she did. The blood pressure meds also indicate it could have been a stroke.

So sad. I’m thinking that he probably died first, and she went next, heartbroken. So very sad.

Tested negative for CM poison. My guess is she had some sort of medical event and the fact he was found in mid room maybe he was trying to get help and dropped dead from the stress That seems more likely given her dog in bathroom. All very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:so bizarre my elderly family loves calls and visits but we are close.

your elderly parent married to someone in their 60s loves calls from 3 kids daily?

my mother loves calls and visits but she lives alone and is very dependent on my sister and me

we are not talking toddlers although they are cute. What does age matter because his wife was in her sixties. So yes my elderly family loves all visits and calls and hearing about what is going on.