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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad Sara said no, but she's still insufferable.

+1
She’s learned nothing and doesn’t think she needs to.
Plus how is SHE the angry one?? He was legit ready to marry her and she ditched him at the altar and yet somehow she is the Jane who is salty at the reunion? Why—because he didn’t want to be strung along in a long distance relationship that you had decided wasn’t going anywhere?? Please.

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Anonymous wrote:Ben just seems SO stupid. Like he can barely understand what Sara is saying and sometimes he can't so just "me too's" her.

I am reading him differently.
I don’t think he’s dumb at all. I actually think he just really likes her and is t all that convicted about what he believes or thinks (mostly because he doesn’t have to be since he isn’t in a marginalized group and is sort of in this privileged position where he’s never had to consider how anyone is adversely impacted by anything— and he just wants to kum -bah-ya everything and everyone) and he is smart enough to know that articulating a different belief or saying anything that isn’t parroting where Sara stands on an issue is a deal breaker for her.
She’s hot and he’s just sort of average, and he’s willing to confirm to be whatever she needs in order to keep her.
And she really wants to believe that he will be the guy she needs him to be.

Anonymous wrote:There is something very wrong with David and his relationship with his sister.

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad Sara said no, but she's still insufferable.

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Anonymous wrote:Ben saying he "doesn't remember" the interactions with the woman who posted about him on TickTock is a giant red flag.

Plus he keeps saying things like “it was such an insignificant thing” but her neglects to add or internalize “for ME” and that shows that he completely dismisses that it was obviously NOT insignificant to the girl.
A truly empathic person would be able to pivot from his own defensiveness and also read the room about what Sara needs to hear and he would be wise to say “I really regret that something I did or didn’t do truly negatively impact someone else that way, and I want to apologize to her and to you for that.”

I know it’s unrealistic but it’s probably what Sara needs.

Also Sara means well but she is unhealthily focused on virtue-signaling her goodness. And her purity testt rt for others will never hold up because people come complete with flaws that she didn’t allow them to have.
And man is her sister’s partner domineering with her opinions. I can see now where Sara feels empowered to quickly judge and condemn others for their thoughts or ways of expressing things—it’s clearly done to Sara by her sisters partner all the time.

Sara's virtue signaling is so beyond irritating. If I were Ben I would run for the hills on this factor alone. And I'm a person of color.