There are abusive moms

There are moms with addictions

There are moms with major mental health issues

There are moms who don't want to be moms

My brother eventually got full custody of his kids. His ex wife had mental health issues, ran off with another man, abandoned the kids initially, then came back and took them, then neglected them, then emotionally abused them, then abandoned them again, then took them again, then refused to let my brother see them, then dumped them at my brothers, then randomly showed up and took them, then got scared of losing custody and had them more often but didn't feed them or look after them or get them to school. Eventually after ten years of court trips and countless thousands of $$, my brother got full custody. Basically because the kids got older and refused to go to their moms or have anything to do with her. But the kids had to ensure ten years of trauma before that happened.

Anonymous wrote:Many women don’t like paying child support because they feel it’s unfair. The reason is that the women (on average) typically do more child wearing than Dads in the early years and they want credit for that!

Also, women feel entitled for that past effort but the law does not look at that

Women often block the dads with claims they are the only ones who can do it, especially feeding.

Basically, you never know the “true” motivations of these parents. You just go off of the story that your friend or family member tells you!

Most people are not friends and speak deeply with both parents who are breaking up. So there is no way to verify. But you can make observations. Motivation is more difficult to decipher

Child support and Spouse support interact.

Ah, sorry about that !

People usually get attorneys to go to court to get the other spouse to pay for support, which is an entitlement.

Child support and child support interact. Spouse support can be “discounted” basically by time with the kids (time is a unit that is this is used to calculated monthly payments (in dollars) to the “other parent.”

Therefore more child time = less expenses.

More income and less expenses is good! That’s why people fight using attorneys.

Many women don’t like paying child support because they feel it’s unfair. The reason is that the women (on average) typically do more child wearing than Dads in the early years and they want credit for that!

Also, women feel entitled for that past effort but the law does not look at that

Sounds like a nice voluntary outcome. Did he ask for child support from her?

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Anonymous wrote:Having worked in family law there are all kinds of reasons women can lose custody. A lot of times they have vindctive ex husbands who will spend any amount of money to punish their ex wife for leaving them. Courts are biased against women, most judges/lawyers/police officers are male.

On the other hand, sure, sometimes there are bad moms who did bad things. It's really hard to judge just from the loss of custody alone.

Yeeeaaahhhh, no. Pretty much every single dad I know had an uphill battle with custody. It was just assumed the mom would get them.

I know two single dads with primary custody of the children because they outlearned mom (by a lot) and she was basically bankrupt before she gave up custody of her children. TWO families. Both dads moved in a new mom (I mean girlfriend) for their children who was basically a younger version of OG mom.

This is the story that a mother in my family tells. It is not the truth. The truth is that she was tired of parenting and signed away her rights.

She doesn't have supervised visitation though.

What is the real story? Does this family member visit with/parent children?

They had a temporary agreement with 50/50 but she never took her time, so he proposed a settlement where he had primary custody and she had visitation. She doesn’t take them for the scheduled time but the kids go to her parent’s regularly and she will show up for special occasions every few months.

That teacher-lady be touching.

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Anonymous wrote:Having worked in family law there are all kinds of reasons women can lose custody. A lot of times they have vindctive ex husbands who will spend any amount of money to punish their ex wife for leaving them. Courts are biased against women, most judges/lawyers/police officers are male.

On the other hand, sure, sometimes there are bad moms who did bad things. It's really hard to judge just from the loss of custody alone.

Yeeeaaahhhh, no. Pretty much every single dad I know had an uphill battle with custody. It was just assumed the mom would get them.

I know two single dads with primary custody of the children because they outlearned mom (by a lot) and she was basically bankrupt before she gave up custody of her children. TWO families. Both dads moved in a new mom (I mean girlfriend) for their children who was basically a younger version of OG mom.

Yep, tale as old as time. And it's horrible.

I don’t know. What state? Are we sure these single childless ladies really exist? They are like hermit crabs?

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Anonymous wrote:Having worked in family law there are all kinds of reasons women can lose custody. A lot of times they have vindctive ex husbands who will spend any amount of money to punish their ex wife for leaving them. Courts are biased against women, most judges/lawyers/police officers are male.

On the other hand, sure, sometimes there are bad moms who did bad things. It's really hard to judge just from the loss of custody alone.

Yeeeaaahhhh, no. Pretty much every single dad I know had an uphill battle with custody. It was just assumed the mom would get them.

I know two single dads with primary custody of the children because they outlearned mom (by a lot) and she was basically bankrupt before she gave up custody of her children. TWO families. Both dads moved in a new mom (I mean girlfriend) for their children who was basically a younger version of OG mom.

This is the story that a mother in my family tells. It is not the truth. The truth is that she was tired of parenting and signed away her rights.

She doesn't have supervised visitation though.

What is the real story? Does this family member visit with/parent children?

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Anonymous wrote:Having worked in family law there are all kinds of reasons women can lose custody. A lot of times they have vindctive ex husbands who will spend any amount of money to punish their ex wife for leaving them. Courts are biased against women, most judges/lawyers/police officers are male.

On the other hand, sure, sometimes there are bad moms who did bad things. It's really hard to judge just from the loss of custody alone.

Yeeeaaahhhh, no. Pretty much every single dad I know had an uphill battle with custody. It was just assumed the mom would get them.

I know two single dads with primary custody of the children because they outlearned mom (by a lot) and she was basically bankrupt before she gave up custody of her children. TWO families. Both dads moved in a new mom (I mean girlfriend) for their children who was basically a younger version of OG mom.

Yep, tale as old as time. And it's horrible.

I have never done a divorced parent with weird arrangement to tell the truth. I assume they are all crazy!

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Anonymous wrote:Having worked in family law there are all kinds of reasons women can lose custody. A lot of times they have vindctive ex husbands who will spend any amount of money to punish their ex wife for leaving them. Courts are biased against women, most judges/lawyers/police officers are male.

On the other hand, sure, sometimes there are bad moms who did bad things. It's really hard to judge just from the loss of custody alone.

Yeeeaaahhhh, no. Pretty much every single dad I know had an uphill battle with custody. It was just assumed the mom would get them.

I know two single dads with primary custody of the children because they outlearned mom (by a lot) and she was basically bankrupt before she gave up custody of her children. TWO families. Both dads moved in a new mom (I mean girlfriend) for their children who was basically a younger version of OG mom.

This is the story that a mother in my family tells. It is not the truth. The truth is that she was tired of parenting and signed away her rights.

She doesn't have supervised visitation though.

OP,She could be one of those teachers who molest their kids! Did you search her name?

There has been a rash of women (20-40s) who seduce students (under 18) at school. It could be the reporting but I have read quite a few articles of these court cases.

Police are prosecuting now. The victims parents now go to the police station after finding weird stuff on their kids phone.