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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Yes. She. Did.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder when parents like OP will understand that they are sending the message that their kids are incompetent and need mommy to “do more” for them and take charge. It is a main reason (along with social media) for the rise in teen and youth anxiety and mental health issues.

This should be shouted from the rooftops. Parents come in and save their kids from the slightest repercussion of their actions at every turn.

That doesn't apply to a huge decision like this one. I always wonder who people making these sorts of comments are.

Yes, it absolutely applies to the college process. I am the one who made the original comment about OP sending a message of incompetence to her kid. You wonder who I am? I am a parent of three - one college grad, one college junior and one 12th grader. I am also someone who navigated the (albeit much simpler) college (and later, law school) admissions processes by myself.

That is smugness from having kids who matured a little earlier, nothing else.

DP: if your kid isn't ready to manage at least 75-80%+ of the process themselves, they likely are not ready for a 4 year college. And CC with a plan to transfer might be the best use of your money. Or whatever 4 year they manage to get into.

The issue here is what you consider the process to be. It varies.

Well parents can help, as in helping make sure the kid understands what a Reach/Target/Safety are and finding great ones for each category, while explaining family finances so your kid is also selecting schools they can afford---no point in applying to $90K/year schools that dont' give much merit if you make $300K/year, will get no FA and you can only afford to help with $30K/year.

So yes, you help with managing the list and putting together a list of dates for having stuff done/and making sure they all get submitted on time. But ultimately, your kid needs to write the essays. Your kid needs to decide if they want to apply to another Reach with 4 supplemental essays or not. Hint: Many targets and most safeties do not have supplementals.

But a kid who applied to 7 schools and got into them all likely had a good list of Targets and Safeties already. So your job is to lower anxiety and not stress them into thinking "their choices are not good enough".

And if your kid refuses to even write the common app general essay or start the process, you need to sit down with them and figure out what's going on. Why are they so stressed? Because they just might be a good candidate for CC and then transferring.

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder when parents like OP will understand that they are sending the message that their kids are incompetent and need mommy to “do more” for them and take charge. It is a main reason (along with social media) for the rise in teen and youth anxiety and mental health issues.

This should be shouted from the rooftops. Parents come in and save their kids from the slightest repercussion of their actions at every turn.

That doesn't apply to a huge decision like this one. I always wonder who people making these sorts of comments are.

+1 certain natural consequences are fine. Life altering ones, not so much.

Life-altering: college v. no college
Life-effecting: this good college v. that good college v. might be a better college for your current major

Parent intervention for the first is quite reasonable. For the second, really not that critical.

disagree. Where you go to college can determine your career trajectory.

I went to a no name state u, and my kid goes to UMD. So, I'm not just talking top tier.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Uh, no.

RiSD is a specialized school that has absolutely nothing in common with the ones you mentioned - and has a <20% acceptance rate.

oops - this flew over your head. Sewanee and MI have little in common. Rollins and Wooster have little in common. RISD and Baylor have little in Common. What they all have in common is a Feb 1 application date which WAS THE POINT. A wide variety of schools at every price and selectivity level are still accepting applications.

Think you missed RISD being a specialized school part. That definitely flew over your head. That's ok.

She listed schools from European schools to art schools to big state flagships. You people are morons.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Uh, no.

RiSD is a specialized school that has absolutely nothing in common with the ones you mentioned - and has a <20% acceptance rate.

oops - this flew over your head. Sewanee and MI have little in common. Rollins and Wooster have little in common. RISD and Baylor have little in Common. What they all have in common is a Feb 1 application date which WAS THE POINT. A wide variety of schools at every price and selectivity level are still accepting applications.

Think you missed RISD being a specialized school part. That definitely flew over your head. That's ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Apply to Michigan if good stats?

She doesn't want to apply there. Where she got in is similar. Boat was missed on the ones that she had some interest in (but decided not to apply to). I think she does need to make the most of situation as people say.

Anonymous wrote:Apply to Michigan if good stats?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Uh, no.

RiSD is a specialized school that has absolutely nothing in common with the ones you mentioned - and has a <20% acceptance rate.

oops - this flew over your head. Sewanee and MI have little in common. Rollins and Wooster have little in common. RISD and Baylor have little in Common. What they all have in common is a Feb 1 application date which WAS THE POINT. A wide variety of schools at every price and selectivity level are still accepting applications.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Uh, no.

RiSD is a specialized school that has absolutely nothing in common with the ones you mentioned - and has a <20% acceptance rate.

oops - this flew over your head. Sewanee and MI have little in common. Rollins and Wooster have little in common. RISD and Baylor have little in Common. What they all have in common is a Feb 1 application date which WAS THE POINT. A wide variety of schools at every price and selectivity level are still accepting applications.

OPs kid's academic profile isn't applying to a school like RISD. Dummy.

did the OP say the academic profile?

(also, not PP, but academic profile at RISD isn't that selective. my kid got in a ACT of 30 last year. it's the portfolio that matters)

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Uh, no.

RiSD is a specialized school that has absolutely nothing in common with the ones you mentioned - and has a <20% acceptance rate.

oops - this flew over your head. Sewanee and MI have little in common. Rollins and Wooster have little in common. RISD and Baylor have little in Common. What they all have in common is a Feb 1 application date which WAS THE POINT. A wide variety of schools at every price and selectivity level are still accepting applications.

OPs kid's academic profile isn't applying to a school like RISD. Dummy.

Anonymous wrote:There are many schools still taking applications - several good ones through Feb 1. It's not too late.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to assume this isn't a "this is anxiety" situation, and actually did apply to wrong schools.

1. Don't you still have RD schools to come?
2. Apply to more schools. Baylor, Wooster, Drew, RISD, Rollins, Sewanee, Michigan .. there are a host of schools w Feb 1 due dates and even more with March and April dates.
3. Apply to schools abroad. Other than the most highly selective schools, UK schools can still be applied to. One app for 5 schools via UCAS. European schools too.
4. Gap year.

Uh, no.

RiSD is a specialized school that has absolutely nothing in common with the ones you mentioned - and has a <20% acceptance rate.

oops - this flew over your head. Sewanee and MI have little in common. Rollins and Wooster have little in common. RISD and Baylor have little in Common. What they all have in common is a Feb 1 application date which WAS THE POINT. A wide variety of schools at every price and selectivity level are still accepting applications.