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Anonymous wrote:Really gross the way so many of you reduce women to the household labor they supply.

If women like you don’t want to be reduced to the household labor then maybe they should get a job once kids are grown up. Doing household chores is in the SAHM job description, why would someone support and provide for a fully grown adult if the said adult can’t even manage the house?

This seems like such an odd way to see your spouse or anyone you love.

Do you really feel like you have no meaning or purpose in your existence outside of your job? Or that there is no reason anyone could love or care for anyone else other than for what they get out of it for themselves?
My mother-in-law is living with us right now while she is going through chemotherapy for breast cancer. I can’t even imagine my husband saying this stuff to her, asking her why we should support her or let her live in our house if she isn’t cooking for all of us and doing his laundry.
In fact, he tries to do things for her to make her life better because he loves her.

You think a man should expect the same of his young healthy wife as his sick elderly mother?

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Anonymous wrote:Really gross the way so many of you reduce women to the household labor they supply.

If women like you don’t want to be reduced to the household labor then maybe they should get a job once kids are grown up. Doing household chores is in the SAHM job description, why would someone support and provide for a fully grown adult if the said adult can’t even manage the house?

This seems like such an odd way to see your spouse or anyone you love.

Do you really feel like you have no meaning or purpose in your existence outside of your job? Or that there is no reason anyone could love or care for anyone else other than for what they get out of it for themselves?
My mother-in-law is living with us right now while she is going through chemotherapy for breast cancer. I can’t even imagine my husband saying this stuff to her, asking her why we should support her or let her live in our house if she isn’t cooking for all of us and doing his laundry.
In fact, he tries to do things for her to make her life better because he loves her.

Anonymous wrote:Really gross the way so many of you reduce women to the household labor they supply.

If women like you don’t want to be reduced to the household labor then maybe they should get a job once kids are grown up. Doing household chores is in the SAHM job description, why would someone support and provide for a fully grown adult if the said adult can’t even manage the house?

I SAH and I do all sheets and towels, but DH does his own clothes. He is also particular about how his clothes are laundered and dried, so it’s win-win. I also make 90% of our meals and do the dishes, but I expect him to put his plate in the dishwasher. I’m a wife and not a personal servant, and it’s okay to draw a line and say no to certain tasks.

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Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

Agreed. I'd feel the same about most things that "othered" DH. Like it wouldn't be acceptable to make food for me, the kids and then leave DH to cook for himself. I dont understand the point. It's the "job" of the SAH spouse to take care of the home. Laundry, cooking, cleaning is all part of that.

I make lunch for me and the kids and leave poor DH to fend for himself most days.
Sometimes I make him breakfast. I really only regularly make him dinner.

So he pay the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food, and you won't even throw an egg in a pan for him? Yikes. Some of these men could majorly level up if they knew how lazy their wives are.

I don't know. My grandmother told me men only care about sex and food, and she may have had a point. If OP is attractive to her husband, they have good sex, and she makes him a nice dinner most nights, then he's probably content.

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The women responding with all the shit *they* think that SAHMs (or housewives) *should* be responsible for have no clue.

If your husband seems overly concerned about how much money you make or how clean your house is every day, it is a clear sign that you are some combination of unattractive/unpleasant.

But OP’s husband does want his laundry done. It’s right there in the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

Agreed. I'd feel the same about most things that "othered" DH. Like it wouldn't be acceptable to make food for me, the kids and then leave DH to cook for himself. I dont understand the point. It's the "job" of the SAH spouse to take care of the home. Laundry, cooking, cleaning is all part of that.

I make lunch for me and the kids and leave poor DH to fend for himself most days.
Sometimes I make him breakfast. I really only regularly make him dinner.

So he pay the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food, and you won't even throw an egg in a pan for him? Yikes. Some of these men could majorly level up if they knew how lazy their wives are.

He would still have his exact same job and pay for all of that stuff if I died.

I assume the upgrade would be a new wife, not a dead one. But if you think its an upgrade if you died that's quite telling.

I’m sorry. Why is it an upgrade if I die?
I can promise you that second wife won’t be as much fun in bed or as good of a cook as I am, even if she does pour his bran flakes for him and wash his dirty underwear.

Are you not following the thread chain?

-you said you dont make DH breakfast
-pp said he could upgrade (to a wife who does make him breakfast/etc)
-you said he'd be doing all the same stuff if you died
-I said that I think the upgrade would be the new wife, you are the one that brought up you dying in relation to an upgrade

I also think you overestimate your own value if you think no one is a better cook or better in bed than you. But I do appreciate that self confidence lol.

Ahh…I see where I misread. I read that pp thought I should make him breakfast because he paid “the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food.” That’s silly. He doesn’t do that stuff for me. He would do it with or without me.

I mean, obviously I would make DH breakfast if he was around while I was making breakfast and he looked like he wanted some. But that’s rare.

Reminds me of that movie Office Space

“So…what would you say it is ya do here?”

Guy freaks out a screams how necessary he is to justify his job when he clearly is superfluous.

Sweetheart, unless you want to live in a townhouse way outside the beltway It’s time to get a personality, really good at the things he wanted in bed you only did once, a full time job and a gym membership.

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Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

Agreed. I'd feel the same about most things that "othered" DH. Like it wouldn't be acceptable to make food for me, the kids and then leave DH to cook for himself. I dont understand the point. It's the "job" of the SAH spouse to take care of the home. Laundry, cooking, cleaning is all part of that.

I make lunch for me and the kids and leave poor DH to fend for himself most days.
Sometimes I make him breakfast. I really only regularly make him dinner.

So he pay the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food, and you won't even throw an egg in a pan for him? Yikes. Some of these men could majorly level up if they knew how lazy their wives are.

I don't know. My grandmother told me men only care about sex and food, and she may have had a point. If OP is attractive to her husband, they have good sex, and she makes him a nice dinner most nights, then he's probably content.

OP's Dh sure isn't. Hence the creation of the thread...

We do our own. It’s easier to keep separate because we have separate closets.

Anonymous wrote:I work full-time, make half the money, and do all the laundry. I just don't find laundry that difficult.

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Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

Agreed. I'd feel the same about most things that "othered" DH. Like it wouldn't be acceptable to make food for me, the kids and then leave DH to cook for himself. I dont understand the point. It's the "job" of the SAH spouse to take care of the home. Laundry, cooking, cleaning is all part of that.

I make lunch for me and the kids and leave poor DH to fend for himself most days.
Sometimes I make him breakfast. I really only regularly make him dinner.

So he pay the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food, and you won't even throw an egg in a pan for him? Yikes. Some of these men could majorly level up if they knew how lazy their wives are.

I don't know. My grandmother told me men only care about sex and food, and she may have had a point. If OP is attractive to her husband, they have good sex, and she makes him a nice dinner most nights, then he's probably content.

+1

The women responding with all the shit *they* think that SAHMs (or housewives) *should* be responsible for have no clue.

If your husband seems overly concerned about how much money you make or how clean your house is every day, it is a clear sign that you are some combination of unattractive/unpleasant.

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Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

Agreed. I'd feel the same about most things that "othered" DH. Like it wouldn't be acceptable to make food for me, the kids and then leave DH to cook for himself. I dont understand the point. It's the "job" of the SAH spouse to take care of the home. Laundry, cooking, cleaning is all part of that.

I make lunch for me and the kids and leave poor DH to fend for himself most days.
Sometimes I make him breakfast. I really only regularly make him dinner.

So he pay the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food, and you won't even throw an egg in a pan for him? Yikes. Some of these men could majorly level up if they knew how lazy their wives are.

I don't know. My grandmother told me men only care about sex and food, and she may have had a point. If OP is attractive to her husband, they have good sex, and she makes him a nice dinner most nights, then he's probably content.

Anonymous wrote:I wah ft and do all laundry. Yes, I think it's odd you exclude his!

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Really gross the way so many of you reduce women to the household labor they supply.

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Anonymous wrote:I do all the family laundry. I feel like it's more efficient that way and uses less water/energy. I also put away my husband's laundry, along with mine, but have the kids do their own.TBH, I feel like it's part of being a SAH parent.

Agreed. I'd feel the same about most things that "othered" DH. Like it wouldn't be acceptable to make food for me, the kids and then leave DH to cook for himself. I dont understand the point. It's the "job" of the SAH spouse to take care of the home. Laundry, cooking, cleaning is all part of that.

I make lunch for me and the kids and leave poor DH to fend for himself most days.
Sometimes I make him breakfast. I really only regularly make him dinner.

So he pay the mortgage, utilities, car payment, retirement funds, vacations, school/kid activities and the food, and you won't even throw an egg in a pan for him? Yikes. Some of these men could majorly level up if they knew how lazy their wives are.

He would still have his exact same job and pay for all of that stuff if I died.

I assume the upgrade would be a new wife, not a dead one. But if you think its an upgrade if you died that's quite telling.

I’m sorry. Why is it an upgrade if I die?
I can promise you that second wife won’t be as much fun in bed or as good of a cook as I am, even if she does pour his bran flakes for him and wash his dirty underwear.

Are you not following the thread chain?

-you said you dont make DH breakfast
-pp said he could upgrade (to a wife who does make him breakfast/etc)
-you said he'd be doing all the same stuff if you died
-I said that I think the upgrade would be the new wife, you are the one that brought up you dying in relation to an upgrade

I also think you overestimate your own value if you think no one is a better cook or better in bed than you. But I do appreciate that self confidence lol.