As a spouse who has been to a lot of these events I want to reassure her that any of these options are fine (even if some are probably better than others, and I’d always er on the side of overdressed). Spouses at these things are free to look and dress like themselves. You don’t have to blend in. No one cares. And as long as you aren’t wildly wildly inappropriate, you will not harm your spouses career - nor will you help advance it by being a charming GP look alike. In fact I enjoy this type of event because there’s basically no pressure on spouses at all.

What did people end up wearing?

Anonymous wrote:I am pretty sure all the wives will be wearing silk skirts and sweaters. Honestly, that's the basic wealthy wife look right now.

I agree. Why change the narrative, unless you want to stand out for some reason?

IMO, combat boots are 'outdoorsy', they would look questionable at an indoor dinner. I also think a turtleneck is too constraining at an indoor dinner. Both of those items make me feel hot just thinking of wearing them for 4 hours. The outfit has to be classy/classic and comfortable. What's wrong with a nice pair of low-heeled pumps or fancy flats, at an indoor dinner?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fellow busty gal here, so I understand your concern with Gwyneth's turtleneck. The trousers with a tucked in V neck, button up blouse, or cardigan with good jewelry (i.e., one statement - either a necklace, earrings, or a stack of bracelets - and simple everywhere else) would be really pretty. I like these:

https://www.jennikayne.com/products/silk-violette-shirt-ivory
https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/cara-cara-nola-wool-blend-v-neck-cardigan-0400021577813.html?dwvar_0400021577813_color=IVORY


I also really like this blouse and it is styled nicely with the silk skirt you own:
https://www.jennikayne.com/products/sawyer-blouse-umber
Ditto on the jewelry comment above.

I get that you're busty, as well, but I wouldn't wear a V neck to a firm dinner.

WTF? Are you 85 years old?

I am pretty sure all the wives will be wearing silk skirts and sweaters. Honestly, that's the basic wealthy wife look right now.

So, OP is already a partner at a firm and her DH just made partner at his firm and this is a congratulations dinner, as I understand it. I think you are overestimating how much this outfit is going to matter. OP and her DH are good.

Also, you can't really know about these outfits based on the photographs from websites. The same dresses could look demure or flashy depending on the wearer.

But I agree the Chanel combat boots are a no, OP.

How about a black sweater dress with suede booties?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what OP thinks is happening:


But this is what is actually happening:


And this is the dcum crew (including me):

Yeah, no. As a 40 year old lawyer in the DMV with kids, I’ve never imagined I am on vogue level. No pretensions there. I’m just also not at your level of neck scarves and sweater sets and hideous trousers. We can all love GP’s look all day but it’s perfectly tailored, wildly expensive and she’s a rail. The knock off suggestions made don’t look comparable. It’s not possible. You need tailoring and a great body and a huge disposable income. Thinking you nailed it with club Monaco pants and sale silky shirts is just off base.

How can anyone be this cranky and live.

This is a very mild level of cranky. I’m far crankier on OP’s behalf after reading through the many judgmental posts here.

Anonymous wrote:Also for f$&’s sake the club Monaco joke is FROM THE SAME MOVIE. That’s so lazy.

It is actually from this thread. I don’t even know what you’re blabbing on about - it’s a joke in the movie? but you’re clearly the one who is cranky. Why does this have you so bothered? Settle down over there.

Also for f$&’s sake the club Monaco joke is FROM THE SAME MOVIE. That’s so lazy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what OP thinks is happening:


But this is what is actually happening:


And this is the dcum crew (including me):

Yeah, no. As a 40 year old lawyer in the DMV with kids, I’ve never imagined I am on vogue level. No pretensions there. I’m just also not at your level of neck scarves and sweater sets and hideous trousers. We can all love GP’s look all day but it’s perfectly tailored, wildly expensive and she’s a rail. The knock off suggestions made don’t look comparable. It’s not possible. You need tailoring and a great body and a huge disposable income. Thinking you nailed it with club Monaco pants and sale silky shirts is just off base.

How can anyone be this cranky and live.

Anonymous wrote:This is what OP thinks is happening:


But this is what is actually happening:


And this is the dcum crew (including me):

Yeah, no. As a 40 year old lawyer in the DMV with kids, I’ve never imagined I am on vogue level. No pretensions there. I’m just also not at your level of neck scarves and sweater sets and hideous trousers. We can all love GP’s look all day but it’s perfectly tailored, wildly expensive and she’s a rail. The knock off suggestions made don’t look comparable. It’s not possible. You need tailoring and a great body and a huge disposable income. Thinking you nailed it with club Monaco pants and sale silky shirts is just off base.

This is what OP thinks is happening:


But this is what is actually happening:


And this is the dcum crew (including me):

The people in the Chanel combat boots and the people who say “quiet wealth” think that they’re different, but they’re actually designed to entertain each other in the same level of Hell.