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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

And you also have one divorce, one ex, one alimony, 2 kids, child support x2, relationship baggage to sweeten the deal. Why not date someone in same age and situation?

Are you really asking why, when I’m capable of regularly sleeping with women who are 25, I don’t choose to sleep with women who are 45 with kids and an ex husband?

I think she’s just pointing out the creep factor that you can’t/won’t see.

Yeah, I don’t see it. I assume I only have 2-3 years left of this, so will enjoy while it lasts.

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

Oh please. The average attractive 27-year-old woman is not pining for a 50-year-old dad in the suburbs, in shape and attractive or not, who has an ex-wife and 2 tweens. This is absolutely delusional.

Anecdotally, does it happen? Sure, but it is not at all common and we all know this.

Anonymous wrote:I was 45 when I met the love of my life, she was 26. Married 23 years. Never think about the age difference, but she will gently remind me, "No, honey, I don't remember the OPEC oil embargo of 1973 and how it destroyed the auto industry..."

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

And you also have one divorce, one ex, one alimony, 2 kids, child support x2, relationship baggage to sweeten the deal. Why not date someone in same age and situation?

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

And you also have one divorce, one ex, one alimony, 2 kids, child support x2, relationship baggage to sweeten the deal. Why not date someone in same age and situation?

Are you really asking why, when I’m capable of regularly sleeping with women who are 25, I don’t choose to sleep with women who are 45 with kids and an ex husband?

I think she’s just pointing out the creep factor that you can’t/won’t see.

Anonymous wrote:It happens. I know a psychiatrist in his mid-50s who left his wife last year for a 23-year-old employee. They had to keep it under wraps (Virginia), but they're still going strong one year later, and he's getting ready to introduce her to the kids.

People are trying to stay out of it and let them deal with it. It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent, and you would think a psychiatrist in particular would understand this. But the heart wants what the heart wants.

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Anonymous wrote:“ It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent”

Wut? No. They are adults in every respect.

Not according to this thread. A 23 year old woman choosing to date an older man must not be in her sound mind, and incapable of making decisions.

Do you guys remember being 23???

I remember being in my early 20s and having guys in their 30s and 40s hit on me. They seemed so old. Even the guys in their 30s seemed way too old. When you could be with a guy your own age, why would you possibly want someone with wrinkles, grey hair, and nothing in common with you? This just seems silly.

Likewise I can’t really feel attracted to younger guys at my age, now 40s. I want someone with life experience who I can learn from. Unlikely that someone in their 20s or 30s has that.

When I was 24 I had already passed my PhD comprehensive exams, and my Federal job was flying me all over the country to conduct focus groups with Federal workers.

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Anonymous wrote:“ It seems weird because a 23-year-old is supposed to still be an adolescent”

Wut? No. They are adults in every respect.

Not according to this thread. A 23 year old woman choosing to date an older man must not be in her sound mind, and incapable of making decisions.

Do you guys remember being 23???

I remember being in my early 20s and having guys in their 30s and 40s hit on me. They seemed so old. Even the guys in their 30s seemed way too old. When you could be with a guy your own age, why would you possibly want someone with wrinkles, grey hair, and nothing in common with you? This just seems silly.

Likewise I can’t really feel attracted to younger guys at my age, now 40s. I want someone with life experience who I can learn from. Unlikely that someone in their 20s or 30s has that.

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

Oh please. The average attractive 27-year-old woman is not pining for a 50-year-old dad in the suburbs, in shape and attractive or not, who has an ex-wife and 2 tweens. This is absolutely delusional.

Anecdotally, does it happen? Sure, but it is not at all common and we all know this.

Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

And you also have one divorce, one ex, one alimony, 2 kids, child support x2, relationship baggage to sweeten the deal. Why not date someone in same age and situation?

Are you really asking why, when I’m capable of regularly sleeping with women who are 25, I don’t choose to sleep with women who are 45 with kids and an ex husband?

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

And you also have one divorce, one ex, one alimony, 2 kids, child support x2, relationship baggage to sweeten the deal. Why not date someone in same age and situation?

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.

And you also have one divorce, one ex, one alimony, 2 kids, child support x2, relationship baggage to sweeten the deal.
I'm only in my 40s, but have all my hair, am tall, lift weights and have other active hobbies. I have a cool sounding career with travel. I am repeatedly told by women I date that that I treat them much better than the guys their own age do. This isn't buying things, it's listening and knowing how to navigate a relationship so that the woman you sleep beside feels comfortable in the relationship.

Anonymous wrote:The issue is you are assuming all the men in their 50s are balding, overweight, and boring. Yes, many are. But the ones who are dating younger women are doing well in their career, keeping in shape, and are very personable (part of the reason they do well in their career). A lot of women in their 20s will overlook the age difference, especially when she compares to a man her age who can barely hold down a job and is boring. She can talk to a man who can keep up a conversation, take her to nice restaurants, etc.