Anonymous wrote:Because everyone else signed up for the easy stuff like napkins, and the only thing left is like “store-bought individually packaged slices of fresh mango”

Ha, yes, i’ve been there!

Anonymous wrote:Because they don’t consider it a good use of their limited time to go pick up a specific snack item that was requested.

Why don’t you wonder why the dads don’t sign up? They are presumably just as wealthy as their wives?

This. Interesting OP said Mom/Parents. 🤔 Why not Dad/Parents. If it's not expected from dads why from moms?

Anonymous wrote:I would happily fund a lot of school needs if we had a real wishlist or buyout plan. Need a class party? I'll Venmo you the money; someone else can do the shopping, and someone else again can do the kid-wrangling. More efficient, and everyone contributes in the way that is best for them. This incremental requesting is really hard and I would honestly rather just contribute cash.

"Incremental requisition." So apropos. I feel I get asked by the school to donate something (time, money, supplies) every day. It's never-ending. You have to pick and choose or you'll go crazy. So it's super weird to judge parents for not choosing the exact same thing you did.

I would happily fund a lot of school needs if we had a real wishlist or buyout plan. Need a class party? I'll Venmo you the money; someone else can do the shopping, and someone else again can do the kid-wrangling. More efficient, and everyone contributes in the way that is best for them. This incremental requesting is really hard and I would honestly rather just contribute cash.

I need someone to explain to me why when someone isn’t doing something the way you want them to it is trying to exhibit some some form of control? Do you mean autonomy?

Kidding I know that you don’t mean that. Are you overwhelmed or feeling stretched because not everyone does things the way you do or think they should?

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.

+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.

No, they learn to eat good food when they’re hungry, not mindlessly stuff their faces with corn like a farm animal because someone has put a bag in front of them. It’s really disgusting if you think about it for more than a minute.

My kid's 4th grade class has an "unlimited snacks" policy, allowing kids to snack at any time in class, and they ask parents to bring in class snacks multiple times per month. Her friend who is restricted from junk at home regularly eats 3 bags of chips per day in class. My kid who is allowed Doritos and things on occasion doesn't even care for the snacks because she's not hungry in between her meals. It is always the kids who are restricted who eat the most junk when they get access.

I was the kid who was never restricted and also the kid who ate the most junk outside of the home too. People who easily self moderate often assume it's parenting choices that caused them to self moderate. Reality is that you have no idea if that friend would go home and still eat 3 more bags of chips a day, like young me.

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Anonymous wrote:Because I don't want to. I'd rather give money at the start of the year once, and have them use that to get snacks.

This. It would be so much more efficient to do things this way!!

Who is the "them" that you are volunteering to do this? You are basically saying I want somewhat else to spend time collecting money, shopping, transporting each time. You are not willing to do it even once.

Who organized the sign-up genius? Who provides the list of permitted snacks? Who looks at the sign-up genius to see who has signed and hasn't? Who comes on DCUM to complain about the parents who didn't sign up?

How about that person use the time they are spending on trying to force other people to do a think they don't want to do and don't care about, instead spend the exact same amount of money soliciting money from parents and then setting up an Amazon subcribe-and-save to deliver the Cheetos and Pirate's Booty and Capri Suns and what have you, which apparently are essential to your child's diet, to the school for after school activities.

See -- more efficient. And you can still brag about how you are better than all the other parents because you volunteered for this important task and it would never happen without you. It's a win-win.

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Anonymous wrote:Because I don't want to. I'd rather give money at the start of the year once, and have them use that to get snacks.

This. It would be so much more efficient to do things this way!!

Who is the "them" that you are volunteering to do this? You are basically saying I want somewhat else to spend time collecting money, shopping, transporting each time. You are not willing to do it even once.

No I’m not willing to do it. Even once. I’m sure someone who thinks it’s important would volunteer. It’s not important to me and I’m fine if they don’t have them.