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Anonymous wrote:• Instagram reels highlighting some counter cultural way to raise kids as a way to become an influencer seem to have replaced Facebook groups.
• a new parents group I was in through the hospital I delivered at had a large emphasis on the term “chest feeding” and reminding all participants that “mom” is an outdated and potentially hurtful term. (Honestly I’m pretty open minded but this group was too much for me)

+1. All the “chest-feeding” and “birthing parent” was enough for me to go “huh maybe those TERFs are on to something.”

Same. I am totally fine if someone who is trans uses those terms to refer to themselves, but the expectation that we are going to get rid of words like "mom" or "breastfeeding" to accommodate a teeny, tiny minority is insane. Especially because becoming a mom is still a challenging transition for many/most women and we still have a ton of misogyny around motherhood that women have to navigate, and not being able to use gendered terms to describe what is, for 99.9% of the population, a highly gendered experience, is ridiculous. I am happy to support trans people in ways that don't require me to erase/subsume my own gender and identity, especially when talking about deeply personal things involving my experience as a mom.

The point is not that no one should use terms like "pregnant persons," "birthing parent," or "chest-feeding." But forcing me to use them when I self-identify as a woman and mother with breasts is not okay. I don't have to change my own identity in order to validate someone else's identity. I can keep my identity while saying "and your identity is also a-ok with me" and that should be enough.

+a million

Anonymous wrote:The most annoying thing is people ascribing a gender to their baby based solely on their perceived biological sex.

Anonymous wrote:I have four kids born in 2015, 2018, 2021, and 2023. Hands down, the weirdest change has been the way the term "pregnant people" has almost totally replaced "pregnant women" on health websites and medical resource. When I googled pregnancy stuff and ended up on WebMD or Healthline, etc., for the first two pregnancies "pregnant women" was the default then it flip flopped by 2023. Feels very Orwellian to me.

Also, I don't get the popularity of Miss Rachel. I find her voice extremely annoying.

Anonymous wrote:I had my kids two decades ago. In my friend group, we all did what we thought was best for us. No one commented on how we fed our babies, how they slept, whether we worked or stayed at home, etc. We all had very good experiences from newborn stage through graduation. None of us are wealthy, so there were no housekeepers, night nurses or nannies. We just supported each other. I hate the competitive parenting I see today. I think it passes anxiety on to the children. We are all still friends and our kids turned out fine.

Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread feels foreign to me and I had a baby in 2020. Honestly I was completely isolated from other parents. Because of COVID I had zero exposure to other Moms.

I've been infertile since then so no post-COVID Mom experiences.