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Anonymous wrote:Probably. You’d obviously need to disclose this.

Only if required to do so. The home university might want the final transcript. Unless asked, just send in the final transcript. The student wasn't kicked out. He or she voluntarily withdrew.

You don't think the university will wonder why? It's very unusual for a student to change schools halfway through the senior year of high school. And since it's a boarding school, it's not even like it's a "parent job transfer so we need to move' situation.

Anonymous wrote:Probably. You’d obviously need to disclose this.

Only if required to do so. The home university might want the final transcript. Unless asked, just send in the final transcript. The student wasn't kicked out. He or she voluntarily withdrew.

Anonymous wrote:pp here. I think even if the kid did something bad - the parents still need compassion. Unless you are insane your don't want to raise a cruel racist child.
There is not a limited supply of compassion.

Why do you assume what OP's kid did was racist?

Do you believe Ethan Crumbley's parents need compassion?

pp here. I think even if the kid did something bad - the parents still need compassion. Unless you are insane your don't want to raise a cruel racist child.
There is not a limited supply of compassion.

Anonymous wrote:I have read this whole thread with interest. What worries me is the lack of compassion from the other parents for the OP.
I wish the OP had been more transparent bc yes, there is a huge difference between rape/racist incident/assault and a drug infraction or rule breaking. We don't know how big or small the offense may have been.
I think the real issue is if your child did something really bad- bullying, assault, racist act. I would not be worrying about college and instead be looking at psychological counseling and a gap year that helps build character.
If the offense was truly small, then I am with the group that says find a college counselor to advise you on how to go. I do think the school is trying to help you by letting you withdraw so you could simply say he had to withdraw and go online and don't elaborate...but get professional advice. I do know a kid from our Big 3 who was forced to withdraw a a junior for what I see a not huge drug offense (involving pot) a few years ago. He was suicidal and hospitalized- felt like his future was destroyed. It took him a few years to recover and ended up in college but the punishment did not fit the crime.
Since we don't know the details of your case, I want to be kind. If your kid did indeed so something really bad that hurt someone else please get them the help they need.

What worries me is that you automatically assume this warrants compassion. OP hasn't said what her kid did. Maybe there is a true victim of OP's kid's actions?

I have read this whole thread with interest. What worries me is the lack of compassion from the other parents for the OP.
I wish the OP had been more transparent bc yes, there is a huge difference between rape/racist incident/assault and a drug infraction or rule breaking. We don't know how big or small the offense may have been.
I think the real issue is if your child did something really bad- bullying, assault, racist act. I would not be worrying about college and instead be looking at psychological counseling and a gap year that helps build character.
If the offense was truly small, then I am with the group that says find a college counselor to advise you on how to go. I do think the school is trying to help you by letting you withdraw so you could simply say he had to withdraw and go online and don't elaborate...but get professional advice. I do know a kid from our Big 3 who was forced to withdraw a a junior for what I see a not huge drug offense (involving pot) a few years ago. He was suicidal and hospitalized- felt like his future was destroyed. It took him a few years to recover and ended up in college but the punishment did not fit the crime.
Since we don't know the details of your case, I want to be kind. If your kid did indeed so something really bad that hurt someone else please get them the help they need.

Would only worry if felony or anti-woke issue.

Anonymous wrote:Who cares why? What a bunch of ninnies trying to speculate and rub it in OP's face. She came here for help and advice and you did so well, being DCUM banshees as usual.

This kid could be going to school with our kids. If he's done something really bad we want to know.

Any guesses on what he did to get kicked out?

My husband and his buddies got kicked out of a private boarding school in CT for repeatedly playing hooky from Chapel (he was Jewish.)

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest…admission probably should be rescinded.

No boarding school is EXPELLING a kid final semester of senior year for anything other than a major incident.

Parent of a boarding school kid and this is not true at all. DC's school is strict and seems to like making examples of 17/18 year old kids who made a mistake. There have been a couple of seniors who have been asked to withdraw like OP's this year and every year we have been there.

Give an example please. What did a kid do that made them have to withdraw.

Example 1. Vaping 2nd offense is one 4.0 unweighted GPA student with multiple leadership roles in EC's.

Example 2. Group of seniors got caught skipping class. One lied about who else was with them to protect their GF/BF. School disciplined all the kids. Kicked out /forced withdrawal the one who lied to protect their GF/BF and suspended the one who suggested the kid lie. The one who was suspended for suggesting the first kid lie also has this on their permanent record that will go to colleges.

So, very valid reasons. No college should want a student with substance abuse problems or a liar.

Oh please, no public school is putting anything on a kids record for these types of issues. Get on the public school forums and read about cases of assault where kids aren't disciplined or criminally charged and the victims are the ones who have to move schools.

Oh please. "But look what he did" is not an excuse for your kid's reprehensible behavior.

Either you are a troll or you don't have a teenage kid. Kids make dumb mistakes. They need to be disciplined and educated not kicked out for minor offenses. We don't know what OP's kid did. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't.

My husband got kicked out of private school freshman year for fighting. This wouldn’t happen at public school.

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I think you can let the schools know that he withdrew from this school and due to unavoidable delays in enrolling him elsewhere, there could be a gap in his second semester transcript. That way, you don't explain the incident, but you explain the change in schools, which they will see anyway.

Honestly, I don't think any college will care about the school change, even though they will obviously understand something happened. No senior willingly changes school for the last semester of their high school lives. But colleges are busy and if the grades are acceptable, they will close their eyes to possible reasons.

What you need to worry about is whether the boarding school feels obligated to report to his colleges, a breach in their Honor Code or a police report. THAT might to rescinding an offer.
Please check with the school, because if they plan on reporting, then you need to do much more in-depth damage control.

Are you unable to read and understand? the OP said the school explicitly allowed them to withdraw the student so that being expelled was not part of the equation. they are not going to f that up by talking to the college about why.

And you don’t think that college admissions are on to this ? They will ask why the student would withdraw in January and finish online. The best part of senior year are the end of year get together, dances, graduation ceremony. College admissions aren’t stupid and this is not uncommon. It’s obvious it was not a one sided voluntary withdrawal.

Anonymous wrote:He will most likely be fine. The schools want transcripts and won't be asking too many questions beyond that.

How would you know this, did you have a similar experience? His acceptances could be rescinded depending on what happened outside of the school. Colleges rescind offers now for students Tweeting something that’s not the social norm. Who knows.

I think you are probably fine. My kid’s friend had some *major* issues 2nd semester of senior year. Selective college did not rescind.

Boarding school should be able to provide contacts of private admissions counselors who have helped students in similar situations. You will likely be paying “crisis rates” for this service.