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Anonymous wrote:Lol at men actually thinking it’s worth it for a woman to go on a date with a guy she doesn’t like for free food. Wtf dudes. No wonder you are single since you’re so clueless about what it’s like to be a woman.

+100 it's 2024 and we have jobs and our own money and can buy our own food. Ain't nobody got time for that.

Sorry, but that's unfortunately not true for a lot of women on the dating market. Particularly in expensive places like LA, SF, NYC, and even DC. (not sure where OP is located)

There are definitely women - usually in their 20s - who will go out with a guy for a nice meal and free drinks. At the end of the date, the woman is going home with a doggy bag (weeknight) or ditches the guy to go meet up with their friends for more festivities (weekend).

It's happened to lot of my buddies. It's not common, but pretty easy to sniff out once its happened to you.

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I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man.

You're an idiot. Men, at least young men, will grab food off each other's plates.

I don’t see this unless they are at the dining hall or something and already good friends.

I’ve never been out to a meal at a restaurant and seen a man ask another man for the rest of his dinner.

I’m not trying to embarrass the OP. I see men ask this of their wives and girlfriends ALL of the time. I don’t think what he did is abnormal.

I just think it’s starting to not be tolerated in a younger generation of women.

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Anonymous wrote:

I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man.

You're an idiot. Men, at least young men, will grab food off each other's plates.

I don’t see this unless they are at the dining hall or something and already good friends.

I’ve never been out to a meal at a restaurant and seen a man ask another man for the rest of his dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been dating men and I found found some can be weird around food and sharing food. 40s men.

One guy told me (who I dated for months) that I had to share with him—before we even ordered —if I planned to try his food. This was his preference. He said that it would help him order enough. I found out this preference about after he made a big deal about my trying off his plate.

I asked him about it at the next dinner date. We had about two discussions about this topic over a couple of weeks. It ultimately didn’t work out. The guy was weird on other things too. —a bit nitpicky.

listen to advice above. it’s sound

This is not weird. I don’t share. I have recovered from an eating disorder and when I go to a restaurant I have usually selected my meal from the online menu in advance and planned my day around it. I do this so I can chat and seem relaxed and stress free at the restaurant and not hold up the group while I decide. Because I have decided in advance what and how much I will eat, I don’t want to eat other foods or share mine. My husband’s family cuts everything into pieces and nibbles nibbles all of it. One pastry will be tasted by 8 people. I don’t want 16 nibbles of various dishes. I want to enjoy the dish I selected, unmolested by reaching forks! If I decide I will eat a pastry, I want to fully enjoy the whole pastry and not smash the flaky crust to pieces cutting into bits to share.

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I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man.

You're an idiot. Men, at least young men, will grab food off each other's plates.

Anonymous wrote:

I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man.

You're an idiot. Men, at least young men, will grab food off each other's plates.

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I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man. If you were having a business dinner or getting together with another man from church or whatever, and you had only met once or twice, you wouldn’t ask him to eat the rest of his food. That would be so odd.

It seems fine in this context because it’s normal for a man to ask this of a woman. But it shouldn’t be.

That's b.s.

Men ask other men for their food all the time. It's even depicted in TV and movies. "Are you gonna eat that?" is a common question. There is a classic scene in the movie "Diner" where the guys get in an argument about food one of them has left on his plate.

I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man.

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Anonymous wrote:It was kind of a jerk thing to do on a second date, but any woman worth keeping around isn’t going to be bothered by something so trivial as not having food to take home. If she wanted it she should have said so at the time instead of giving it to you. Chalk it up to lesson learned what not to do ona second date, but also what kind of woman doesn’t make a good future relationship.

But if he's already willing to take liberties like this on a second date what is he going to do down the line? This would worry me.

He didn’t take any liberties. He asked if he could have it. It’s not like he distracted her by pointing across the room to distract her and then scoop a bunch of her fettuccine into his mouth when he wasn’t looking. THAT would worry me. Asking and receiving a green light does not.

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I’m calling it misogyny because you wouldn’t have done this with another man. If you were having a business dinner or getting together with another man from church or whatever, and you had only met once or twice, you wouldn’t ask him to eat the rest of his food. That would be so odd.

It seems fine in this context because it’s normal for a man to ask this of a woman. But it shouldn’t be.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was kind of a jerk thing to do on a second date, but any woman worth keeping around isn’t going to be bothered by something so trivial as not having food to take home. If she wanted it she should have said so at the time instead of giving it to you. Chalk it up to lesson learned what not to do ona second date, but also what kind of woman doesn’t make a good future relationship.

But if he's already willing to take liberties like this on a second date what is he going to do down the line? This would worry me.

He didn’t take any liberties. He asked if he could have it. It’s not like he distracted her by pointing across the room to distract her and then scoop a bunch of her fettuccine into his mouth when he wasn’t looking. THAT would worry me. Asking and receiving a green light does not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol at men actually thinking it’s worth it for a woman to go on a date with a guy she doesn’t like for free food. Wtf dudes. No wonder you are single since you’re so clueless about what it’s like to be a woman.

+100 it's 2024 and we have jobs and our own money and can buy our own food. Ain't nobody got time for that.

Sorry, but that's unfortunately not true for a lot of women on the dating market. Particularly in expensive places like LA, SF, NYC, and even DC. (not sure where OP is located)

There are definitely women - usually in their 20s - who will go out with a guy for a nice meal and free drinks. At the end of the date, the woman is going home with a doggy bag (weeknight) or ditches the guy to go meet up with their friends for more festivities (weekend).

It's happened to lot of my buddies. It's not common, but pretty easy to sniff out once its happened to you.

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Anonymous wrote:It was kind of a jerk thing to do on a second date, but any woman worth keeping around isn’t going to be bothered by something so trivial as not having food to take home. If she wanted it she should have said so at the time instead of giving it to you. Chalk it up to lesson learned what not to do ona second date, but also what kind of woman doesn’t make a good future relationship.

But if he's already willing to take liberties like this on a second date what is he going to do down the line? This would worry me.