dcmom12345 wrote:To add- we live in Maryland so I brought up in UMD as an option with DD seemed okay with but DH put on list of "will not pay for". He gave a list of universities he would consider acceptable which was limited to Chicago, Duke, MIT, Stanford, Caltech, AWS, JHU, Northwestern, RICE, Vandy, Michigan, and Berkeley.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:dcmom12345 wrote:I agree and offered my support for her to transfer. The issue is I can't pay for it alone and DH won't contribute.
Does your husband make all the decisions in your household? I don’t see why his opinions matters on this. He needs to respect his daughter’s decision, and you need to get him to that place.
His opinion matters because it can’t be done unless he pays, nitwit.
If DD decides to flout his wishes then he does not have to “respect” that in the sense of paying for it.
But who parents like that? Disregarding the voices of his “partner” and adult child??
He is not king.
Typical female attitude: “my money is my money, your money is our money.” 🙄
If he has the money and strongly believes his wife and daughter are making a profound mistake then yes he is the king and nobody else gets a vote.
Then they do t have a marriage of partners. He is being manipulative and controlling. And yes abusive.
I h e zero respect for men like him (or women if roles were reversed but Leh it’s always the men).
Not giving women whatever they want is being “abusive and controlling”.🙄 sometimes they need a little guidance, but they just don’t realize it If anything most of the replies in this thread recommend that the OP bully her husband into surrendering. In other words, they want OP to act abusive and controlling towards him. (Typical DCUM attitude.) Poor guy just gets to earn the money, he doesn’t get any say in how it’s spent. 🙄 unfortunately a very typical situation today
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:dcmom12345 wrote:I agree and offered my support for her to transfer. The issue is I can't pay for it alone and DH won't contribute.
Does your husband make all the decisions in your household? I don’t see why his opinions matters on this. He needs to respect his daughter’s decision, and you need to get him to that place.
His opinion matters because it can’t be done unless he pays, nitwit.
If DD decides to flout his wishes then he does not have to “respect” that in the sense of paying for it.
This isn’t the Stone Age, dear
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can usually only transfer to start your junior year.
Where did you get this idea?
Anonymous wrote:It’s not that easy to transfer sophomore year
Have her come home community college then reapply
Her list is garbage honestly penn state Florida state to Colgate WTH? Who made that list ?
I agree with DH she stays or community college then she pays school of her choice
It’s not because her current school is an ivy that I agree with him it’s because she’s immature clearly from her list and should not be a four year school
She’s immature not college ready
Anonymous wrote:You can usually only transfer to start your junior year.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Consider transferring to:
Northwestern, Chicago, Vanderbilt, Michigan, Rice.
I don't think the "pressure cooker" level at some of these schools are much different from Columbia.
Vanderbilt is in no way a pressure cooker, but it is the one southern school, and so there could be quite a culture shock. I say that as someone who transferred there. I would have her consider the cities as well as the colleges. Chicago is great but is a major city, and she might like a smaller college down like Ann Arbor which is once again, not a pressure cooker but a big sports school.
Anonymous wrote:This is such a troll post.
Suckers.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:dcmom12345 wrote:I agree and offered my support for her to transfer. The issue is I can't pay for it alone and DH won't contribute.
Does your husband make all the decisions in your household? I don’t see why his opinions matters on this. He needs to respect his daughter’s decision, and you need to get him to that place.
His opinion matters because it can’t be done unless he pays, nitwit.
If DD decides to flout his wishes then he does not have to “respect” that in the sense of paying for it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:dcmom12345 wrote:I agree and offered my support for her to transfer. The issue is I can't pay for it alone and DH won't contribute.
Does your husband make all the decisions in your household? I don’t see why his opinions matters on this. He needs to respect his daughter’s decision, and you need to get him to that place.
His opinion matters because it can’t be done unless he pays, nitwit.
If DD decides to flout his wishes then he does not have to “respect” that in the sense of paying for it.
But who parents like that? Disregarding the voices of his “partner” and adult child??
He is not king.
Typical female attitude: “my money is my money, your money is our money.” 🙄
If he has the money and strongly believes his wife and daughter are making a profound mistake then yes he is the king and nobody else gets a vote.
Then they do t have a marriage of partners. He is being manipulative and controlling. And yes abusive.
I h e zero respect for men like him (or women if roles were reversed but Leh it’s always the men).
Not giving women whatever they want is being “abusive and controlling”.🙄 If anything most of the replies in this thread recommend that the OP bully her husband into surrendering. In other words, they want OP to act abusive and controlling towards him. (Typical DCUM attitude.) Poor guy just gets to earn the money, he doesn’t get any say in how it’s spent. 🙄
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:dcmom12345 wrote:I agree and offered my support for her to transfer. The issue is I can't pay for it alone and DH won't contribute.
Does your husband make all the decisions in your household? I don’t see why his opinions matters on this. He needs to respect his daughter’s decision, and you need to get him to that place.
His opinion matters because it can’t be done unless he pays, nitwit.
If DD decides to flout his wishes then he does not have to “respect” that in the sense of paying for it.
But who parents like that? Disregarding the voices of his “partner” and adult child??
He is not king.
Typical female attitude: “my money is my money, your money is our money.” 🙄
If he has the money and strongly believes his wife and daughter are making a profound mistake then yes he is the king and nobody else gets a vote.
Then they do t have a marriage of partners. He is being manipulative and controlling. And yes abusive.
I h e zero respect for men like him (or women if roles were reversed but Leh it’s always the men).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:dcmom12345 wrote:The Ivy is Columbia for clarification. Loved NYC and campus when visited now says she feels stressed not only by intense students but of the intense and fast pace vibe of the city.
Columbia students who want to ignore the city and its pressure can so so relatively easily. If she nevertheless has city stress, she may have other issues going on. Columbia is a tough place. I would suggest RUCE. Or get out of math.
Maybe it is the math major that is stressing her out. Sounds like HS was intense and she is burned out. Do you think she should have taken a gap year?
Maybe. Columbia itself adds a lot to the burnout though. The kids we know who've gone over the past couple of years say the reality doesn't live up to the window dressing.
It is a school that works for a certain kind of kid - independent, intense, socially confident, high energy, highly motivated with the stamina to grind