Anonymous wrote:I am worried that being the mother of a disabled child is becoming my whole identity in a bad way. I don’t recognize myself anymore.

I guess thankfully my world is very small and I barely go anywhere so not sure if anyone has picked up on it yet.

F anyone who includes parents of kids with sns on this list.

Anonymous wrote:So in conclusion, the entire world is annoying and anyone who has a passion, interest,.or concern about something and talks about it a lot is annoying.

I see a different between a “I sincerely enjoy and love X” and “X is my IDENTITY.” The former is interesting to listen to the person talk about. The latter feels like a courtesy test.

Somehow the identity version seems appropriate for a teenager/young adult who is just discovering a passion or new path (activism, stage-crew, comic books, improv). But, after a certain point unless it truly becomes an aspect of things they love, it doesn’t seem age-appropriate and feels stifling.

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Anonymous wrote:Rescue dogs


Why mention you have rescue dog or get a bumper sticker? The only purpose is so others think well of you.

No, that's not the only purpose. I am actually in dog rescue (as in I volunteer for a dog rescue in a variety of ways), and I don't talk about it and don't put a sticker on my car. But I am always glad to to hear someone adopted rather than shopped for their dog--it's generally a good thing. The one thing I find annoying is when people use the verb "rescued" in relation to how they got their dog. Unless you stopped your car at the side of the rode to grab a stray dog, you didn't "rescue" your dog--you adopted it.

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its all about their family or job, there is nothing else about their life, no hobbies they don't travel or read, nothing else there.

People who think their pets are children

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Anonymous wrote:Pronoun people

Np, good one! I worked with an intern last year who made their entire identity about being "them/they" and went out of their way to catch anyone who slipped. They had such a chip on their shoulder that was clearly unrelated to pronoun use/misuse.

Rescue dogs


Why mention you have rescue dog or get a bumper sticker? The only purpose is so others think well of you.

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Anonymous wrote:People in therapy

OMG! Yes! Most people do NOT need to go to therapy. Going to therapy is not something to be proud of and is not something that should be talked about publicly. I have several friends who go to therapy and I have to try not to visibly cringe when they talk about it. Sometimes I want to scream at them, "Stop talking about your therapist!"

There's nothing shameful about therapy and honestly how do you know who does or does not need to go to therapy? Also you are likely not a very good friend if a friend is talking about therapy and you "visibly cringe."

I agree with the PP. Most therapy is a racket. If it helps someone feel better, great, but stop talking about it all the time. I hate the way the vocabulary pervades everything now and the over-therapized want to diagnose everyone.

NP - you and the original PP might want to look at facts around increases in mental illness in this country and the damage it does to society if untreated. There’s a real shortage of qualified healthcare professionals to treat people. Finding it annoying is one thing; insisting it’s unnecessary and shameful is gross.

Sorry, but people droning on and on about their narcissistic mothers or toxic families are not doing general mental health awareness any favors.

DP There is a balance that’s woefully absent right now.

Therapy is great and not remotely shameful. AND making your “trauma” your main personality trait is unhealthy, immature, and annoying.

Good therapists teach you to get healthy and move on. Bad therapists let you wallow in victimhood. Gen Z therapists and casual tik tok therapist wannabes are doing a lot of harm by calling everything narcissistic, toxic, and traumatic.

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Anonymous wrote:Not necessarily someone’s whole personality, but I don’t like Rainbow Baby posters. I understand it was terrible to have a miscarriage (I had some myself), but your surviving child’s identity should not be tied at all to the fact you had a miscarriage.

And maybe wouldn’t be here if the other baby survived. Knowing you’re the replacement for the baby they actually wanted, and can’t stop talking about.

Anonymous wrote:Half the people in the country are insufferable dog people who think dogs are people, & we non-dog people should be flattered that their mutts deem our lawns suitable to take a dump on.

To be fair, most dogs are cuter and more entertaining to be around than people's kids.

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Anonymous wrote:So in conclusion, the entire world is annoying and anyone who has a passion, interest,.or concern about something and talks about it a lot is annoying.

Not necessarily, but you have to be able to read the room. Some audiences want to hear about it, but many don’t. And just know that hobbies are just things that should bring you enjoyment, not necessarily things that define you as an interesting person.

I think people talk about these things because they’re afraid of being labeled as uninteresting.

I think people talk about these things at any age, including kids, because most people don't know what to talk about or it's the easiest thing to discuss in small talk.

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Anonymous wrote:So in conclusion, the entire world is annoying and anyone who has a passion, interest,.or concern about something and talks about it a lot is annoying.

Not necessarily, but you have to be able to read the room. Some audiences want to hear about it, but many don’t. And just know that hobbies are just things that should bring you enjoyment, not necessarily things that define you as an interesting person.

Disagree, though I'm not a person who has hobbies nor time for them at this hour of my life. I think it's interesting when people have hobbies and like hearing about them.

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