OP here. Thanks, everyone!

There are a lot of good suggestions on here that check every requirement. Up to OP whether to take them or not!

Meringue with fruit?

Jello in cute mini Bundt shapes - dairy free, sugar /fat free whipped topping assuming they are different kids with different needs.

You're not going to find anything fat free that is baked.
Italian ices. Bag of candy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all of the (serious) replies.

I have to admit that I'm leaning now towards no food treats because it's going to be challenging to accommodate every individual need. I completely hear the feedback of those parents of kids with food allergies that they would prefer something purchased/processed with a clear ingredient list than me making something at home even with good intentions. Plus I don't have the time to make multiple treats anyway.

For those still questioning it, the fat-free issue is real. Not just a "preference". These are young kids.

You don't. You do nut free if a child has a true allergy but otherwise, you get regular food and kids and parents can choose to eat or not. Fat free is absurd.

OP here. I've said repeatedly throughout this thread that the fat issue is due to a legitimate medical issue. I really feel for these parents because it's been so difficult to accommodate for their child. It's really not up for judgment.

You cannot accommodate for everyone and everything. A food allergy, absolutely but otherwise, the parents need to bring food for their kids or feed them before they come. Have a standard spread with some nut free cupcakes. Have cake/cupcakes your child likes, some nut free cupcakes (Giant), fruit, veggies cut, pizza/subs, chips, pasta salad or other salad, hummus, done.

As a parent of a kid with allergies (albeit not to food) and another kid with severe food related issues that aren't allergies, why would accommodating one be something you absolutely accommodate and the other one be something that OP is attacked for accommodating?

OP wants to accommodate this kid and the gluten free kid. There are plenty of options. Why are people offended that she wants to do that?

Dp. It's the FAT free that is a problem. Many food items have fat and you can't get around that. Glutton free, fine. Nut free, fine but fat free is impossible. It won't taste great and food will be wasted. Honestly, if I had a kid attending a party who needs fat free I would have my own food for him/her.

Except that there are tons of candies that are fat free and candy is the most common goodie bag treat.

OP, I'm sorry you're getting so much flak for the fat-free restriction. This sounds like a really tough situation for that family and it's nice of you to consider them.

I wouldn't mess around with GF/DF alternatives for cake-type things. It sounds like sugar is fine for everyone on your list, so lean in on the sugar bombs! I love the ideas of cotton candy, giant swirl lollipops, or giant pixie sticks. Or hand out cute containers, have buckets of safe candies, and let each kid scoop their favorite candies to take home - Fun Dip, hard candies, gummy candies, regular sized pixie sticks...

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all of the (serious) replies.

I have to admit that I'm leaning now towards no food treats because it's going to be challenging to accommodate every individual need. I completely hear the feedback of those parents of kids with food allergies that they would prefer something purchased/processed with a clear ingredient list than me making something at home even with good intentions. Plus I don't have the time to make multiple treats anyway.

For those still questioning it, the fat-free issue is real. Not just a "preference". These are young kids.

You don't. You do nut free if a child has a true allergy but otherwise, you get regular food and kids and parents can choose to eat or not. Fat free is absurd.

OP here. I've said repeatedly throughout this thread that the fat issue is due to a legitimate medical issue. I really feel for these parents because it's been so difficult to accommodate for their child. It's really not up for judgment.

You cannot accommodate for everyone and everything. A food allergy, absolutely but otherwise, the parents need to bring food for their kids or feed them before they come. Have a standard spread with some nut free cupcakes. Have cake/cupcakes your child likes, some nut free cupcakes (Giant), fruit, veggies cut, pizza/subs, chips, pasta salad or other salad, hummus, done.

As a parent of a kid with allergies (albeit not to food) and another kid with severe food related issues that aren't allergies, why would accommodating one be something you absolutely accommodate and the other one be something that OP is attacked for accommodating?

OP wants to accommodate this kid and the gluten free kid. There are plenty of options. Why are people offended that she wants to do that?

Dp. It's the FAT free that is a problem. Many food items have fat and you can't get around that. Glutton free, fine. Nut free, fine but fat free is impossible. It won't taste great and food will be wasted. Honestly, if I had a kid attending a party who needs fat free I would have my own food for him/her.

This isn't going to be that hard, vegan restaurants will have plenty of options and just make sure you ask them to use rice flour or something similar instead of almond flour (which they would probably already use anyway since almond flour is expensive). Vegan restaurants cater to health conscious people so trust they will be unfazed if you ask them to swap out the oil for applesauce or something.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all of the (serious) replies.

I have to admit that I'm leaning now towards no food treats because it's going to be challenging to accommodate every individual need. I completely hear the feedback of those parents of kids with food allergies that they would prefer something purchased/processed with a clear ingredient list than me making something at home even with good intentions. Plus I don't have the time to make multiple treats anyway.

For those still questioning it, the fat-free issue is real. Not just a "preference". These are young kids.

You don't. You do nut free if a child has a true allergy but otherwise, you get regular food and kids and parents can choose to eat or not. Fat free is absurd.

OP here. I've said repeatedly throughout this thread that the fat issue is due to a legitimate medical issue. I really feel for these parents because it's been so difficult to accommodate for their child. It's really not up for judgment.

OP i really appreciate your initial question, intention, and firmness here. It’s

Cotton candy cake? A place in my non East Coast city makes these. Or just a cotton candy machine

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all of the (serious) replies.

I have to admit that I'm leaning now towards no food treats because it's going to be challenging to accommodate every individual need. I completely hear the feedback of those parents of kids with food allergies that they would prefer something purchased/processed with a clear ingredient list than me making something at home even with good intentions. Plus I don't have the time to make multiple treats anyway.

For those still questioning it, the fat-free issue is real. Not just a "preference". These are young kids.

You don't. You do nut free if a child has a true allergy but otherwise, you get regular food and kids and parents can choose to eat or not. Fat free is absurd.

OP here. I've said repeatedly throughout this thread that the fat issue is due to a legitimate medical issue. I really feel for these parents because it's been so difficult to accommodate for their child. It's really not up for judgment.

You cannot accommodate for everyone and everything. A food allergy, absolutely but otherwise, the parents need to bring food for their kids or feed them before they come. Have a standard spread with some nut free cupcakes. Have cake/cupcakes your child likes, some nut free cupcakes (Giant), fruit, veggies cut, pizza/subs, chips, pasta salad or other salad, hummus, done.

As a parent of a kid with allergies (albeit not to food) and another kid with severe food related issues that aren't allergies, why would accommodating one be something you absolutely accommodate and the other one be something that OP is attacked for accommodating?

OP wants to accommodate this kid and the gluten free kid. There are plenty of options. Why are people offended that she wants to do that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for all of the (serious) replies.

I have to admit that I'm leaning now towards no food treats because it's going to be challenging to accommodate every individual need. I completely hear the feedback of those parents of kids with food allergies that they would prefer something purchased/processed with a clear ingredient list than me making something at home even with good intentions. Plus I don't have the time to make multiple treats anyway.

For those still questioning it, the fat-free issue is real. Not just a "preference". These are young kids.

You don't. You do nut free if a child has a true allergy but otherwise, you get regular food and kids and parents can choose to eat or not. Fat free is absurd.

OP here. I've said repeatedly throughout this thread that the fat issue is due to a legitimate medical issue. I really feel for these parents because it's been so difficult to accommodate for their child. It's really not up for judgment.

You cannot accommodate for everyone and everything. A food allergy, absolutely but otherwise, the parents need to bring food for their kids or feed them before they come. Have a standard spread with some nut free cupcakes. Have cake/cupcakes your child likes, some nut free cupcakes (Giant), fruit, veggies cut, pizza/subs, chips, pasta salad or other salad, hummus, done.

Or some variation on this.

https://healthynibblesandbits.com/tapioca-thousand-layer-cake/

There was this olive oil cake where I replaced the oil with applesauce. Used tapioca flour and potato flour, I believe, lots of cinnamon, honey, etc.

I used it as a base for my former FPIES kid’s first birthday. I feel like if that works it could be amazing - people actually LIKED it, which shocked me.