Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 23:41     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:37 and 40, I work three nights a week so usually 2 of the nights i'm home plus the day he works from home at lunch time. Together 14 years. We definitely make appointments beforehand ("I'll be home Friday and I miss you") ...
My friends all seem to think this is a lot but of course the DCUM crowd is doing it every day.


The people answering this thread are a self-selecting group. Probably a lot of 1x per week or 1x per month people look at this thread and don’t bother responding.


100% right. I kind of randomly came across this thread and had the same thought after the first page of answers.

Late forties. Married 20+ years. Two teens. 5 to 6 times per week.

It wasn't always that way, but it's something that one has to work on.

I think that for anyone who is married and wants to be intimate more frequently, try:
1) get in better shape and try working out together
2) stop drinking alcohol or at least cut back
3) compliment each other and give little spanks and taps throughout the day

It is not that hard if most other elements are pretty normal. You both just need to work at it and have fun with each other.


This is probably good and reasonable advice for couples where both want to have it more frequently. If only one does, it’s probably wholly inapplicable, and that’s probably a ton of the people who aren’t responding to this thread.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 22:00     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:Share your age, marital status, how long together.


3 times a week. 43, married 20 years. —dh
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 21:59     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
46, divorced woman. A few times a month. It could be more frequent, but I don’t have time. I was with one person for 18 months and I’ve been with the last person for about a year. I’m like marriage. I can have as much sex as I want and it’s actually good.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 19:58     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
44 / 45. About 4x per week. We were in a dry spell for a few years, but I (F) made an effort to have more sex. Started scheduling it on the google calendar when he works from home.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 19:36     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:37 and 40, I work three nights a week so usually 2 of the nights i'm home plus the day he works from home at lunch time. Together 14 years. We definitely make appointments beforehand ("I'll be home Friday and I miss you") ...
My friends all seem to think this is a lot but of course the DCUM crowd is doing it every day.


The people answering this thread are a self-selecting group. Probably a lot of 1x per week or 1x per month people look at this thread and don’t bother responding.


100% right. I kind of randomly came across this thread and had the same thought after the first page of answers.

Late forties. Married 20+ years. Two teens. 5 to 6 times per week.

It wasn't always that way, but it's something that one has to work on.

I think that for anyone who is married and wants to be intimate more frequently, try:
1) get in better shape and try working out together
2) stop drinking alcohol or at least cut back
3) compliment each other and give little spanks and taps throughout the day

It is not that hard if most other elements are pretty normal. You both just need to work at it and have fun with each other.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 13:32     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:lately it's been 3-5 times a week. 52m and 48f, 3 kids (all young adults/older teens). can't definitely say it's been the hottest sex we've had and we've had a lot of sex together over the years.

* can (not can't)
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2023 13:31     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
lately it's been 3-5 times a week. 52m and 48f, 3 kids (all young adults/older teens). can't definitely say it's been the hottest sex we've had and we've had a lot of sex together over the years.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 09:35     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:Hours of foreplay? uggggggg.


+1 15-20 minutes is best for me then on to the main event. That too needs to be short due to “age” related issues. We are in our 60’s so 1-2 times a week is fine by me.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 09:07     Subject: Re:How often are you having sex lately?
59m, 61f... about 1-2x a week. Together 3 years. But we both agree that it's the best sex of our lives and we focus on quality over quantity.

This is the best and healthiest relationship of our lives, and we both prioritize keeping it that way.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:48     Subject: Re:How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:I was just looking at a man with a huge beer belly the other day and noticing how unhealthy and unattractive it is. I understand PP being turned off.


I think it is not uncommon for some women to be “visual” too. Sure, for some it does not matter how their husband’s body looks. For many others, we simply close our eyes (or prefer to do it in the dark).

But nearly all men are “visual.” They just are. Look at the whole porn phenomenon (it’s almost entirely for men).
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2023 08:31     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Hours of foreplay? uggggggg.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 23:21     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Interesting, since it seems people in general are the most sexually active in their 20s more than any other decade in their life


Agree with the 20s with no kids. 30’s slowed down with 3 kids born and all the pregnancy related downtime. I think it picked up in our 40’s but having teens under roof made it challenging at times. Now empty nesters in our 50s and almost back to our 20’s? I think the sex is better now because we are far more experienced and can take more time. With babies and kids under roof speed was important.


Ya it just seems 20s is When people's libido is at its height or Peak
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 15:29     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:Share your age, marital status, how long together.


Zero.
Am stuck in the couch nursing my ankle. Can’t do anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 15:28     Subject: Re:How often are you having sex lately?
We're 42 and 38 -- about twice a week. I really wish it happened more often but it's really hard to find the time with little kids and demanding jobs.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 12:52     Subject: How often are you having sex lately?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Interesting, since it seems people in general are the most sexually active in their 20s more than any other decade in their life


Agree with the 20s with no kids. 30’s slowed down with 3 kids born and all the pregnancy related downtime. I think it picked up in our 40’s but having teens under roof made it challenging at times. Now empty nesters in our 50s and almost back to our 20’s? I think the sex is better now because we are far more experienced and can take more time. With babies and kids under roof speed was important.


LOL - I remember the quickie days because it was often all you had time for. But now I love extended foreplay given it’s just the two of us and no threat of being interrupted.