Anonymous wrote:My spouse keeps coming home with a coffee from Dunkin or Panera I think they are meeting Ashley Madison or Grindr dates.

Sometimes it’s a whole bag (or bags!) of produce and “groceries.” Like, how naive do you think I am?!?!

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he needs to have his one beer at home, not in a “dive.”

"Dive" is a relative term. Are we talking dimly lit, bullet-riddled hole-in-the-wall off the interstate by the Motel 6? Or the bar at Olive Garden?

both sound nice to me

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Anonymous wrote:yes - same as grabbing a coffee and decompressing at a bench at the park.

The big difference is the danger of alcholism.

Coffee addiction isn't explicitly hamrful to others.

Yes. Alcoholism from one light beer.

That's how things start.

Demanding to know every step your spouse makes during the day is how divorce starts.

Suspicious OP.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he needs to have his one beer at home, not in a “dive.”

"Dive" is a relative term. Are we talking dimly lit, bullet-riddled hole-in-the-wall off the interstate by the Motel 6? Or the bar at Olive Garden?

Anonymous wrote:Stopping to meet a friend, to hit the gym to grab a coffee from drive through makes sense but stopping at random bars to drink is odd. Is he dealing with something worthy of seeing a psychiatrist?

Omg. Do you all have such rigid, joyless lives? It is just bizarre to say he might need a psychiatrist for this.

Anonymous wrote:Stopping to meet a friend, to hit the gym to grab a coffee from drive through makes sense but stopping at random bars to drink is odd. Is he dealing with something worthy of seeing a psychiatrist?

The crazies would have the same response to gym. Only men who are looking to cheat or are cheating randomly care about their fitness.

Anonymous wrote:Stopping to meet a friend, to hit the gym to grab a coffee from drive through makes sense but stopping at random bars to drink is odd. Is he dealing with something worthy of seeing a psychiatrist?

Drink is sort of a loaded word. Literally one light beer is not drinking. May as well be a diet soda.

Stopping to meet a friend, to hit the gym to grab a coffee from drive through makes sense but stopping at random bars to drink is odd. Is he dealing with something worthy of seeing a psychiatrist?

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Anonymous wrote:yes - same as grabbing a coffee and decompressing at a bench at the park.

The big difference is the danger of alcholism.

Coffee addiction isn't explicitly hamrful to others.

Yes. Alcoholism from one light beer.

That's how things start.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a 3rd place? I think I missed all that

Not your home, not your office, but somewhere you frequent.

The British and Irish have pubs, Germans Bierhalls, Dutch have cafes, French, Spanish, Italians, Greeks have bistros, tavernas, etc.


Americans have church.

But do we?

Coffee shops are a great example of the third place. Americans really need to figure out how to just go relax.

Beer is quite famously more relaxing than coffee.

Maybe he just likes the atmosphere of a cheap bar. I do and I don’t even drink anymore. OP needs to leave her husband alone on this issue. Jesus.

Could just be the route around his office or wherever he's coming from. Proximity.

Yep. OP even said that he works at several hospitals and picks on that is on the route home from whatever hospital he worked at.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a 3rd place? I think I missed all that

Not your home, not your office, but somewhere you frequent.

The British and Irish have pubs, Germans Bierhalls, Dutch have cafes, French, Spanish, Italians, Greeks have bistros, tavernas, etc.


Americans have church.

But do we?

Coffee shops are a great example of the third place. Americans really need to figure out how to just go relax.

Beer is quite famously more relaxing than coffee.

Maybe he just likes the atmosphere of a cheap bar. I do and I don’t even drink anymore. OP needs to leave her husband alone on this issue. Jesus.

Could just be the route around his office or wherever he's coming from. Proximity.

Anonymous wrote:You should be suspicious because the behavior suddenly changed. And, he didn’t mention any of these changes until you confronted him. Something is off.

Are you suspicious and secrets posters trolling? How is it a secret if he swipes a family credit card and is answering his phone or calling his wife? Presumably he has the family sharing or Life 360 showing his location too. Do all of your husband's tell you each and every time they stop for five minutes to buy something?

And for those recommending coffee shops, who wants a caffeinated drink at 5 or 6pm? And I haven't been single for 30 years but aren't coffee shops pretty common first date places too?

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Anonymous wrote:What is a 3rd place? I think I missed all that

Not your home, not your office, but somewhere you frequent.

The British and Irish have pubs, Germans Bierhalls, Dutch have cafes, French, Spanish, Italians, Greeks have bistros, tavernas, etc.


Americans have church.

But do we?

Coffee shops are a great example of the third place. Americans really need to figure out how to just go relax.

Beer is quite famously more relaxing than coffee.

Maybe he just likes the atmosphere of a cheap bar. I do and I don’t even drink anymore. OP needs to leave her husband alone on this issue. Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a 3rd place? I think I missed all that

Not your home, not your office, but somewhere you frequent.

The British and Irish have pubs, Germans Bierhalls, Dutch have cafes, French, Spanish, Italians, Greeks have bistros, tavernas, etc.


Americans have church.

But do we?

Coffee shops are a great example of the third place. Americans really need to figure out how to just go relax.

Beer is quite famously more relaxing than coffee.