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Anonymous wrote:DD12 has been getting close with a classmate this year, and they hung out for the first time this weekend. The mom picked up from our house and took them out for the afternoon with the plan of us picking up DD from their house later. Everything seemed copacetic at pickup. The mom seemed really nice. The girl is a sweetheart; I’ve interacted with her in passing on one or more of their FaceTimes.

Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

I would love to have the girl over our house, but I’m not comfortable with DD going over there again. How do we handle this in the event she’s invited over? Is there a tactful way to respond? I have no problem picking the girl up, or the mom taking the girls out like she did, but I don’t feel comfortable with DD going back to their house. Thoughts?

I'm all about listening to your intuition, but the fact that you not only feel this way but typed it out to justify the "weird vibe" makes me believe your feelings are based on your own biases and not intuition. FTR, I've lived in Anacostia for over 25 years. Which I assume to you is "the bad neighborhood." I own my home; we have a fenced-in backyard and a dog, and our home is cozy and lovely. I have a college degree, and my husband has a master's. My hobbies are knitting, visiting gardens and parks, and reading historical fiction. My older kid is in college full-time, works part-time, and saved up his money to purchase his first car. He is very proud. My other kid is still in high school. I don't care if you judge and "doubt" my family because of where we live, and you can keep your benefit.

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Anonymous wrote:What was so ominous or “off” about the house/neighborhood?

Like I said, it’s hard to explain. I just sensed doom. I actually told DH I wasn’t comfortable going over there alone again. I can’t say what it was exactly. Just a feeling.

Anonymous wrote:DD12 has been getting close with a classmate this year, and they hung out for the first time this weekend. The mom picked up from our house and took them out for the afternoon with the plan of us picking up DD from their house later. Everything seemed copacetic at pickup. The mom seemed really nice. The girl is a sweetheart; I’ve interacted with her in passing on one or more of their FaceTimes.

Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

I would love to have the girl over our house, but I’m not comfortable with DD going over there again. How do we handle this in the event she’s invited over? Is there a tactful way to respond? I have no problem picking the girl up, or the mom taking the girls out like she did, but I don’t feel comfortable with DD going back to their house. Thoughts?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can’t believe how this has taken off. I wish I had been more clear in my OP.

The neighborhood is geographically in a very transitional area, I think is the best way to describe it. About a mile from a REALLY high crime area (shootings, stabbings) but then also a mile away from an area will million dollar homes.

FWIW, we are the same race as the family. We are also “DC poor” in our 1000sf home on the “poor” side of town. I’m sure our house has been judged by those wealthier than us.

I said “benefit of the doubt” because I wasn’t sure if the neighborhood would be more like the crime area, or more like the rich area. Our girls go to a magnet school so very diverse.

There weren’t overt signs of crime, but it was a beautiful early spring day and the neighborhood was just so shut up and silent, not a soul outside, no movement, just eerie. I thought, on a day like this why isn’t there a soul outside? It was a gorgeous day. It just felt ominous. Were people not outside for reasons I didn’t know about?

I truly apologize if my post came across as racist or classist as that wasn’t my intent.

This seems like you’re trying to revise the way your original post came across bc:

1. You mentioned nothing about how the thing that threw you off was the fact that it was a beautiful day but not one was outside and that felt ominous to you.

2. I live in an expensive area in the McLean/Vienna area. We definitely have tons of times no one is seen outside. So? The only time this would be ominous is in a scene from The Last of Us.

3. Your words were: Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

Clearly this isn’t about how no one was seen outside on a beautiful day.

Wow a mile away from crime. Isn't everyone in DC a mile away from a high crime area? Get a freaking clue OP. This thread has taken off because you literally posted doom about a neighborhood you gave the benefit of the doubt to. Now we learn the benefit of the doubt was about no one being outside on a nice day???????????????

I think you're going to keep getting roasted or this was a great troll response lol

+1 What a bunch of bs! I’ve driven through multimillion dollar neighborhoods and not a soul was outside. I never got a sense of doom or ominous feeling. What a load of crock!

Well maybe that’s why I couldn’t put my finger on the feeling. I had just come from my similarly economic street and everyone and their brother was out tending to their lawn, walking, playing with kids. It was just so creepily quiet.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can’t believe how this has taken off. I wish I had been more clear in my OP.

The neighborhood is geographically in a very transitional area, I think is the best way to describe it. About a mile from a REALLY high crime area (shootings, stabbings) but then also a mile away from an area will million dollar homes.

FWIW, we are the same race as the family. We are also “DC poor” in our 1000sf home on the “poor” side of town. I’m sure our house has been judged by those wealthier than us.

I said “benefit of the doubt” because I wasn’t sure if the neighborhood would be more like the crime area, or more like the rich area. Our girls go to a magnet school so very diverse.

There weren’t overt signs of crime, but it was a beautiful early spring day and the neighborhood was just so shut up and silent, not a soul outside, no movement, just eerie. I thought, on a day like this why isn’t there a soul outside? It was a gorgeous day. It just felt ominous. Were people not outside for reasons I didn’t know about?

I truly apologize if my post came across as racist or classist as that wasn’t my intent.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can’t believe how this has taken off. I wish I had been more clear in my OP.

The neighborhood is geographically in a very transitional area, I think is the best way to describe it. About a mile from a REALLY high crime area (shootings, stabbings) but then also a mile away from an area will million dollar homes.

FWIW, we are the same race as the family. We are also “DC poor” in our 1000sf home on the “poor” side of town. I’m sure our house has been judged by those wealthier than us.

I said “benefit of the doubt” because I wasn’t sure if the neighborhood would be more like the crime area, or more like the rich area. Our girls go to a magnet school so very diverse.

There weren’t overt signs of crime, but it was a beautiful early spring day and the neighborhood was just so shut up and silent, not a soul outside, no movement, just eerie. I thought, on a day like this why isn’t there a soul outside? It was a gorgeous day. It just felt ominous. Were people not outside for reasons I didn’t know about?

I truly apologize if my post came across as racist or classist as that wasn’t my intent.

This seems like you’re trying to revise the way your original post came across bc:

1. You mentioned nothing about how the thing that threw you off was the fact that it was a beautiful day but not one was outside and that felt ominous to you.

2. I live in an expensive area in the McLean/Vienna area. We definitely have tons of times no one is seen outside. So? The only time this would be ominous is in a scene from The Last of Us.

3. Your words were: Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

Clearly this isn’t about how no one was seen outside on a beautiful day.

Wow a mile away from crime. Isn't everyone in DC a mile away from a high crime area? Get a freaking clue OP. This thread has taken off because you literally posted doom about a neighborhood you gave the benefit of the doubt to. Now we learn the benefit of the doubt was about no one being outside on a nice day???????????????

I think you're going to keep getting roasted or this was a great troll response lol

+1 What a bunch of bs! I’ve driven through multimillion dollar neighborhoods and not a soul was outside. I never got a sense of doom or ominous feeling. What a load of crock!

Well maybe that’s why I couldn’t put my finger on the feeling. I had just come from my similarly economic street and everyone and their brother was out tending to their lawn, walking, playing with kids. It was just so creepily quiet.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can’t believe how this has taken off. I wish I had been more clear in my OP.

The neighborhood is geographically in a very transitional area, I think is the best way to describe it. About a mile from a REALLY high crime area (shootings, stabbings) but then also a mile away from an area will million dollar homes.

FWIW, we are the same race as the family. We are also “DC poor” in our 1000sf home on the “poor” side of town. I’m sure our house has been judged by those wealthier than us.

I said “benefit of the doubt” because I wasn’t sure if the neighborhood would be more like the crime area, or more like the rich area. Our girls go to a magnet school so very diverse.

There weren’t overt signs of crime, but it was a beautiful early spring day and the neighborhood was just so shut up and silent, not a soul outside, no movement, just eerie. I thought, on a day like this why isn’t there a soul outside? It was a gorgeous day. It just felt ominous. Were people not outside for reasons I didn’t know about?

I truly apologize if my post came across as racist or classist as that wasn’t my intent.

This seems like you’re trying to revise the way your original post came across bc:

1. You mentioned nothing about how the thing that threw you off was the fact that it was a beautiful day but not one was outside and that felt ominous to you.

2. I live in an expensive area in the McLean/Vienna area. We definitely have tons of times no one is seen outside. So? The only time this would be ominous is in a scene from The Last of Us.

3. Your words were: Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

Clearly this isn’t about how no one was seen outside on a beautiful day.

Wow a mile away from crime. Isn't everyone in DC a mile away from a high crime area? Get a freaking clue OP. This thread has taken off because you literally posted doom about a neighborhood you gave the benefit of the doubt to. Now we learn the benefit of the doubt was about no one being outside on a nice day???????????????

I think you're going to keep getting roasted or this was a great troll response lol

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I can’t believe how this has taken off. I wish I had been more clear in my OP.

The neighborhood is geographically in a very transitional area, I think is the best way to describe it. About a mile from a REALLY high crime area (shootings, stabbings) but then also a mile away from an area will million dollar homes.

FWIW, we are the same race as the family. We are also “DC poor” in our 1000sf home on the “poor” side of town. I’m sure our house has been judged by those wealthier than us.

I said “benefit of the doubt” because I wasn’t sure if the neighborhood would be more like the crime area, or more like the rich area. Our girls go to a magnet school so very diverse.

There weren’t overt signs of crime, but it was a beautiful early spring day and the neighborhood was just so shut up and silent, not a soul outside, no movement, just eerie. I thought, on a day like this why isn’t there a soul outside? It was a gorgeous day. It just felt ominous. Were people not outside for reasons I didn’t know about?

I truly apologize if my post came across as racist or classist as that wasn’t my intent.

This seems like you’re trying to revise the way your original post came across bc:

1. You mentioned nothing about how the thing that threw you off was the fact that it was a beautiful day but not one was outside and that felt ominous to you.

2. I live in an expensive area in the McLean/Vienna area. We definitely have tons of times no one is seen outside. So? The only time this would be ominous is in a scene from The Last of Us.

3. Your words were: Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

Clearly this isn’t about how no one was seen outside on a beautiful day.

Wow a mile away from crime. Isn't everyone in DC a mile away from a high crime area? Get a freaking clue OP. This thread has taken off because you literally posted doom about a neighborhood you gave the benefit of the doubt to. Now we learn the benefit of the doubt was about no one being outside on a nice day???????????????

I think you're going to keep getting roasted or this was a great troll response lol

+1 What a bunch of bs! I’ve driven through multimillion dollar neighborhoods and not a soul was outside. I never got a sense of doom or ominous feeling. What a load of crock!

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Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. [/b]One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. [b]I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

You’re disgusting. There’s no such thing as an abused vibe. How dare you make assumptions like that? Maybe she was worried that your kid would hit your kid or something. Or maybe she actually watches her kids carefully in a public place such as a playground or play area, unlike you. A parent who actually parents. What a concept! Go have a ladies lunch instead.

overreact much? PP just said she felt bad … she didn’t approach the mom and ask her anything inappropriate.