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Anonymous wrote:I basically only came home for the school breaks. It probably would have been the same at any of the schools I had offers to. I didn’t apply anywhere requiring a plane ride. The closest was about an hour from home.

There were only 2 times in 4 years that this was a challenge - once when I got ill and was kept at the student health center for 2 days (only an issue because it was before finals) and then my senior year when my grandfather passed and I needed to fly home quickly (he had been ill, but timing was challenging). We worked it all out though, and this is no reason to NOT have a child go where they want.

I mean, it still says something that you only wanted to come home on breaks. Never for a sibling’s birthday, a grandparent visiting, etc.? Our kids and their cousins are very close and these kinds of get-togethers have continued into the college years. The kids who are an hour or two away come home for them. I’m not saying it’s the only way for a family to be, but it’s a priority for some families.

I didn’t have siblings, so that wasn’t a problem

My extended family is spread out enough that there weren’t really a lot of get togethers that didn’t involve holidays.

Doesn’t mean we don’t love each other or aren’t close. We all stayed in touch - phone calls and e-mails.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Very odd. Most of the posts that were deleted were about peoples' personal experiences at college.

No, the posts that were deleted were the obnoxious ones from the same person, interrogating anyone who dared to make decisions s/he didn’t approve of.
DP

I was simply asking a PP why she wouldn’t let her kids apply to colleges >4 hrs away - for non-financial reasons. But it turns out that PP was a troll. So it’s all moot now.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why were pages of this thread deleted?

Gosh, I wonder... think think think...

Controlling mothers want to control the thread?

Bossy trolls want to judge others. Pretty easy to figure out.

It’s pretty clear who the trolls are now.

Totally disagree that all college student bodies are basically the same people.

Do you really think the students at CUNY are the same people you'd encounter at University of Alabama or Ole Miss?!

Now, to be fair, the national universities that are more selective and expensive do tend to have a "type" of student body. Those kids at places like Vanderbilt, Berkeley, NYU, or Swarthmore and top SLACs are overwhelmingly from college educated families in the top 30% of HHI. Most come from the major metro areas in their home states (which are almost all states on the coasts or Chicago/Dallas/Houston/Austin/Nashville) and very few are from rural areas. And they're majority White, except for the top schools in CA like Cal, UCLA, and Stanford. There are many reasons people don't want to go to UC Merced.