Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 23:06     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Your son is 16. That makes him what, a junior? That should be a pretty busy year. Doesn’t he have stuff to do during the weeknights too? I don’t know any teens that have all this free after school.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 23:05     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

Sorry, the custodial parent sets the rules - and the custodial parent is fine with it.


No, both parents set the rules.


Whoever the kid is with sets the rules.


Sounds like the kid should have been with Dad and if not, sounds better off with Dad than mom or OP.


It sounds that way to you because your intelligence and emotional development was stunted in adolescence


These kids should have homework.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 22:57     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Condom
Birth control
Talk to them regularly

Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 22:50     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

Sorry, the custodial parent sets the rules - and the custodial parent is fine with it.


No, both parents set the rules.


Whoever the kid is with sets the rules.


Sounds like the kid should have been with Dad and if not, sounds better off with Dad than mom or OP.


It sounds that way to you because your intelligence and emotional development was stunted in adolescence
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 21:26     Subject: Re:Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she did something wrong, was ignoring his calls, so found her and talked to her. Don’t all teens get upset when they get in trouble.

Not sure why everyone is getting mad at the OP letting the girl visit until 9:30. It is not like she is holding the girl hostage. Her parents can make a different rule. My kid has tons of homework but I know lots of teens that do not.


Maybe the girlfriend’s dad has a problem with her new found after school hobby, and let her know

Hanging out until 9:30 at boyfriend’s (or any friend’s) house regularly during the week; loafing, watching movies,
playing video games wouldn’t be ok with me as a parent. That would mean what they aren’t doing is homework, studying, working a job, playing sports


They both sound like losers.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 21:01     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, why wouldn't you have met him? He is her Father.

(I actually think letting her stay at your house till 9:30pm on school nights is pretty horrible.)

The girl is 17, not 12.


Who pays her expenses? Where does she live?
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 20:56     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't have let her go out of the house with him. I've seen enough true crime documentaries and Criminal Minds episodes to know that non-active parents are usually the ones who kidnap their kids.

I would have called her mom or asked her to call her mom.

Sorry, you're not a parent if you live an hour away and rarely see your kid. He may be her father but he's not parenting her. You're basically the equivalent of uncle frank that everyone see's twice a year a thanksgiving and easter.


Sounds like OP kidnapped the kid.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 20:55     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

Sorry, the custodial parent sets the rules - and the custodial parent is fine with it.


No, both parents set the rules.


Whoever the kid is with sets the rules.


Sounds like the kid should have been with Dad and if not, sounds better off with Dad than mom or OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 20:53     Subject: Re:Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she did something wrong, was ignoring his calls, so found her and talked to her. Don’t all teens get upset when they get in trouble.

Not sure why everyone is getting mad at the OP letting the girl visit until 9:30. It is not like she is holding the girl hostage. Her parents can make a different rule. My kid has tons of homework but I know lots of teens that do not.


Maybe the girlfriend’s dad has a problem with her new found after school hobby, and let her know

Hanging out until 9:30 at boyfriend’s (or any friend’s) house regularly during the week; loafing, watching movies,
playing video games wouldn’t be ok with me as a parent. That would mean what they aren’t doing is homework, studying, working a job, playing sports
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 20:37     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to the parents? You may have rules for your home, but they have different rules and it sounds like she should not have been at your house.

Sorry, the custodial parent sets the rules - and the custodial parent is fine with it.


No, both parents set the rules.


Whoever the kid is with sets the rules.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 19:22     Subject: Re:Odd visit from DS GF dad
Sounds like she did something wrong, was ignoring his calls, so found her and talked to her. Don’t all teens get upset when they get in trouble.

Not sure why everyone is getting mad at the OP letting the girl visit until 9:30. It is not like she is holding the girl hostage. Her parents can make a different rule. My kid has tons of homework but I know lots of teens that do not.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 17:31     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
maybe seh was supposed to be at his place and is so in love she was hanging out with your kid. & dad was worried & decided to spare her additional embarrassment
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 16:27     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Anonymous wrote:I judge Op for having the girl at her house 9:30pm on a school night. And being so judgmental when she has no idea what the family dynamic or relationship is. Op, obviously wants to be cool mom above all else


+1,000!
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 15:39     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
Make sure your son knows his GF has a weird dad and he should look out for potential problems. But make it sound super subtle - so that he doesn’t tell her openly
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2023 15:36     Subject: Odd visit from DS GF dad
He tracked her down because he doesn't trust her. He was probably surprised to find you there.