Anonymous wrote:We have no children. I make more money than him. I work from home. He comes home and does "reports" although his boss wants him to do the reports on site, he prefers to do them at home. He does not want to do anything. He's a GREAT MAN just does not want to do anything. He played softball EVERY SUNDAY April through Sept for over 15 years. He had practice Tues & Thurs so I did not see him all day Tues, Th & Sunday after he left. The "ballpark" is not a place for ladies but I would go on Father's Day and once or twice. I could not wait for him to stop, but never told him and still encouraged him to go after he stopped because the exercise is good. I thought WOW he really does not want to go so now we can do things together. He does not even like to sit in our yard in the summer. We live in Chicago when it's cold all of the time and we have an AMAZING yard: huge full of flowers, vegetables and plenty of games and music. He used to love to barbecue. Everything is a chore. So...people tell me to go without him. When I've "forced/guilted" him into coming, he's a "wet blanket". So now I want to go by myself and he either finds a way to make me feel like I should not go or he asks "sweetly" do you want a date for the film festival/museum/whatever which is on Sunday during football. Why will he want to impose NOW THAT I HAVE SOMETHING FUN TO DO when he knows he will only muck up my time by wanting to get home early (enough to see the next game) or seek a place while we're out to watch it. Either get with the program or let me do it. I don't know what to do. He works steady, doesn't fool around, is extremely handy around the house. I could not give him any children (failed IVF) and he's never been "engaged" in my life. While he played softball (leisurely) I still made all of the family commitments...mine and his. He would not even go to my family reunions. He could have taken one weekend off.