He's drinking this stuff? I didn't even know it existed until I googled!

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband is not your alcoholic father. I would be LIVID if my spouse thought they could control what I eat and drink.

She is not trying to control it. They had discussed long ago a situation that was impacting their relationship and mutually agreed that hard alcohol was a safety risk, and now he's been sneaking it so she understandably wants to understand what's been happening/why the sneaking. OP everyone is gaslighting you. Don't let them. You are allowed to have opinions in your relationship about things that impact you and your kids like alcohol. Yes you can't control it but you are allowed to have discussions about something that is being hidden!!

You people are nuts.

Anonymous wrote:Take your alcoholic childhood out of the equation before you approach the situation.

Ditto. You sound controlling and uptight. Get therapy before you drive you your husband away.

Anonymous wrote:All, this person posts stories like this fairly often. It's all fake.

I was going to say….I definitely read a version of this same story here a while back and kept checking the date to make sure it really said 2022. Probably a troll.

That said, if it was real, there is definitely a problem. It all describes classic alcoholic behavior and it alarms me how many people here deny it. Then again, maybe they just haven’t had the fun experience of living with a close relative who stashes booze all over the house and drinks in secret all day long.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say nothing and incognito mark how much is left now. Every day I'd check to see if any is missing. When it gets empty say hey I saw it took you 2 days to finish off that vodka, what gives? Do you need help? Or it took you 6 months to finish off that vodka why didn't you just tell me you wanted some instead of hiding it?

Even though I'm supposed to leave him and the kids home for the first time for 4 days next weekend?

Are you very controlling in other aspects of your life? Or just this? Because it’s enough to drive a grown man to drink.

Did you read all the details about all the time they spend together at home?

If there is one bottle, there are more, other places.


Alcoholics can hurt themselves, but they destroy other people, families.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe just monitor for a while to see how quickly he is consuming it. Maybe he just occasionally has a small amount. If so, is that still a problem to you?

If he’s not allowed to have any, then yes it’s a big deal. A huge deal in fact!

None means none!

“Not allowed?” Says who?

HIS WIFE! That’s who.

What is wrong with you??!?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe just monitor for a while to see how quickly he is consuming it. Maybe he just occasionally has a small amount. If so, is that still a problem to you?

If he’s not allowed to have any, then yes it’s a big deal. A huge deal in fact!

None means none!

“Not allowed?” Says who?

Jesus, don’t be so deliberately obtuse. He has a history of drinking issues and is now hiding hard alcohol, sneak drinking. They made an agreement for the sake of their marriage. Just like neither one of them is “allowed” to have an affair. If she had a gambling problem, she wouldn’t be “allowed” to go to casinos if their marriage is going to survive.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe just monitor for a while to see how quickly he is consuming it. Maybe he just occasionally has a small amount. If so, is that still a problem to you?

If he’s not allowed to have any, then yes it’s a big deal. A huge deal in fact!

None means none!

“Not allowed?” Says who?

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Anonymous wrote:All, this person posts stories like this fairly often. It's all fake.

Yup. She’s living out some weird fantasy on DCUM. I think she likes that DCUM is super anti-alcohol for some reason.

+2 wasn’t there almost the same story a few months ago? The walking the dog thing, etc. all sounds the same.

Yep. Also still trying to figure out the “he stashes it in the basement freezer” thing in conjunction with the “he drinks it in the shower” thing. He walks upstairs to the shower with a shot of peppermint alcohol? Or the shower is in the basement?

Omg lady you seriously need help. You're being so ridiculous. I can't believe this won't send your husband running for the hills. You're so unbelievably disrespectful toward your husband. What should you do? Um... ground him? What exactly ate you asking here? Why fo you feel the need to act like his mother? Your marriage sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All, this person posts stories like this fairly often. It's all fake.

Yup. She’s living out some weird fantasy on DCUM. I think she likes that DCUM is super anti-alcohol for some reason.

+2 wasn’t there almost the same story a few months ago? The walking the dog thing, etc. all sounds the same.

Was thinking the exact same thing.

Sounds almost like this one to me

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1048743.page

Maybe it’s the same OP but she decided not to address it last time in the hope that it would go away? But it hasn’t…

Then she didn’t use any of the excellent advice she received the first time, and doubly needs to get herself to Al-anon.

So sorry OP. I had something similar happen to me. I began to discover alcohol hidden in weird places- closets, under the couch, the basement, cabinets etc. In the beginning it was just a bottle or can or bear and my now EX DH always seemed to have an excuse and would gaslight me if I questioned him. I then began monitoring these places and found increasing amounts of empty or nearly empty containers. Needless to say his functioning was declining all the while in every aspect of his life. He refused to get treatment, said he was a "grown man" and that he could stop drinking and "control" it on his own. Fast forward 2 years and he is still drinking and has lost everything. Very very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All, this person posts stories like this fairly often. It's all fake.

Yup. She’s living out some weird fantasy on DCUM. I think she likes that DCUM is super anti-alcohol for some reason.

+2 wasn’t there almost the same story a few months ago? The walking the dog thing, etc. all sounds the same.

Was thinking the exact same thing.

Sounds almost like this one to me

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1048743.page

Maybe it’s the same OP but she decided not to address it last time in the hope that it would go away? But it hasn’t…

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All, this person posts stories like this fairly often. It's all fake.

Yup. She’s living out some weird fantasy on DCUM. I think she likes that DCUM is super anti-alcohol for some reason.

+2 wasn’t there almost the same story a few months ago? The walking the dog thing, etc. all sounds the same.

Was thinking the exact same thing.

Sounds almost like this one to me

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1048743.page

Totally. Both "husbands" go for peppermint schnapps

I do think the pepermint schnapps was an intentional choice because since I had kids, the smell of alcohol makes me so nauseous for some reason and I'm like HYPER aware of it.

Peppermint Schnapp Troll must have a slow week at work