Anonymous
05/30/2022 12:47
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
One imagines that SIL attended a bunch of these events and declined wine or beer, mentioning that she prefers to drink gin. When everyone ignored her for long enough, she brought a thermos. It’s funny, it solves the problem - I’m team SIL.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 12:46
Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Is this weird? My family are wine drinkers. If we all hang out together, usually there is beer or wine. We had a Memorial Day barbecue weekend last night and she brought a thermos of her own premixed gin and tonic. She says wine and beer give her a headache. Wouldn't you just not drink in this case, instead of BYO to a family gathering where it isn't offered?? I wonder about saying something to my brother just to check in. Like why would you travel with your own booze thermos??!
Because her SIL is a crappy hostess who (i) knows she doesn't like beer and wine, yet (ii) doesn't provide something she likes.
Next question?
Anonymous
05/30/2022 12:45
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
I think the OP is just cheap and inhospitable. These are family get togethers. The OP sounds like s/he doesn't like the SIL and is now making up stories to validate the dislike. Yuck. The OP is a jerk.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 09:01
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who actually likes G&T’s wouldn’t want them without any fizz, which SIL loses in her Thermos. If she drinks the whole container and it’s of normal strength, that is probably 3-5 servings of alcohol. For a woman, there is no way this is healthy.
This is hilarious. Many people wouldn’t think too much about having half a bottle of wine or a full bottle over an afternoon / evening, and that’s 5-10 units of alcohol. A single large can of those craft beers that everyone loves can be 2.5 units. Alcohol is alcohol - because it’s beer and wine doesn’t negate that.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:57
Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:High maintenance? For taking care of her own wishes without bothering anybody or making a big deal out of it?
That's a bold strategy, Cotton.
She is being quite passive aggressive too. She is not a toddler who doesn’t eat what’s served. She can have a soda or some juice if she doesn’t like beer or wine. What is she brought her own food too? I am not taking about allergies.
Why should an adult have to drink water and juice during a boozy party if they don’t want to, simply because the host sucks on a repeated basis?
OP isn’t really bothered by the alcohol, she’s bothered that she thought she found a nasty, passive aggressive way to make SIL feel unwelcome, and SIL is refusing to bite on her poison.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:56
Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Like sure, she'd probably have an alcohol problem if she brought her g&t thermos to a PTA meeting or a mani-pedi. But for a social event hosted by her cheap, judgy, sourpuss SIL: not a problem.
THIS
Agreed.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:55
Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
One can only hope.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:52
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
SIL sounds like a character from Absolutely Fabulous.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:16
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who actually likes G&T’s wouldn’t want them without any fizz, which SIL loses in her Thermos. If she drinks the whole container and it’s of normal strength, that is probably 3-5 servings of alcohol. For a woman, there is no way this is healthy.
*If* she drinks the whole container…
Well, we don’t know how large the container is, now do we? And we don’t know how full it is, now do we? And we don’t know the ratio of gin/tonic, now do we? But keep reaching. Maybe a good stretch will make up for the, um, physical activity that you clearly lack.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:06
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Weird that she gets headaches from wine/beer, but not from gin.
Where else does she bring her magic thermos? Soccer games? The grocery store?
I suspect OP is the “SIL” in this story and is looking for affirmation for his/her drinking problem.
Uh no my little sockpuppet. Gin is a distilled liquor so it has NO sulfites and is low in histamine and very low in phenols. I thought you liked wine OP- don't you know what's in it?
You just don't like this lady and want us to drag her too. But YTA for not serving her what she likes.
I’m the PP (and not the OP) and still going with alcohol problem.
DP. Sure. And while we are there, let's talk about the family that is so focused on sloshing up with their winey binges that they don't even notice someone was invited who doesn't like wine. They are so drunk they can't even tell what is happening at their own parties. Major alcohol problem there.
+1. Someone with an alcohol problem is not going to be particular about what they drink. They’ll drink your cheap wine.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:05
Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
I just cannot imagine having a guest bring her own thermos. After the first time I would have made a mental note of it and made sure to have gin and tonic available for her the next time she came over.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 08:01
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Weird that she gets headaches from wine/beer, but not from gin.
Where else does she bring her magic thermos? Soccer games? The grocery store?
I suspect OP is the “SIL” in this story and is looking for affirmation for his/her drinking problem.
Uh no my little sockpuppet. Gin is a distilled liquor so it has NO sulfites and is low in histamine and very low in phenols. I thought you liked wine OP- don't you know what's in it?
You just don't like this lady and want us to drag her too. But YTA for not serving her what she likes.
I’m the PP (and not the OP) and still going with alcohol problem.
DP. Sure. And while we are there, let's talk about the family that is so focused on sloshing up with their winey binges that they don't even notice someone was invited who doesn't like wine. They are so drunk they can't even tell what is happening at their own parties. Major alcohol problem there.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 07:57
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Weird that she gets headaches from wine/beer, but not from gin.
Where else does she bring her magic thermos? Soccer games? The grocery store?
I suspect OP is the “SIL” in this story and is looking for affirmation for his/her drinking problem.
Uh no my little sockpuppet. Gin is a distilled liquor so it has NO sulfites and is low in histamine and very low in phenols. I thought you liked wine OP- don't you know what's in it?
You just don't like this lady and want us to drag her too. But YTA for not serving her what she likes.
I’m the PP (and not the OP) and still going with alcohol problem.
Anonymous
05/30/2022 07:48
Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Like sure, she'd probably have an alcohol problem if she brought her g&t thermos to a PTA meeting or a mani-pedi. But for a social event hosted by her cheap, judgy, sourpuss SIL: not a problem.
THIS
Anonymous
05/30/2022 07:31
Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Weird that she gets headaches from wine/beer, but not from gin.
Where else does she bring her magic thermos? Soccer games? The grocery store?
I suspect OP is the “SIL” in this story and is looking for affirmation for his/her drinking problem.
Uh no my little sockpuppet. Gin is a distilled liquor so it has NO sulfites and is low in histamine and very low in phenols. I thought you liked wine OP- don't you know what's in it?
You just don't like this lady and want us to drag her too. But YTA for not serving her what she likes.