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Anonymous wrote:Based on this logic from most people why are you even marrying men and letting them help you raise your children. I know - you think you know them well but hey you never know! This logic says to never leave any child in the company of any men - period.

Yes, it is good advice to never child with non-related males.

The biggest factor by far of childhood abuse is having a non-related male in the home.

You are misinformed. Most sexual abuse comes from a trusted family member

No. Because SICKOS lurk in every corner of all spaces where they have access to kids.

But, if others are ok with taking the risk, I am resigned to it. Some wilderbeests have to become crocodile food so that others can cross the river safely.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

When you look at the arrest pictures of child pornography rings, they are men. Very rarely do you see women pictured. Now, this preschool teacher might be the best preschool teacher in the world with zero ill intent. But my opinion and my feeling is I would not be OK with giving a male unrestricted access to my three-year-old who needs a lot of help in the bathroom.

But like.... how do you feel about dads in general? As your kids get older, would you trust another male parent to watch them the way you would a female parent?

I was raised by a single dad and I find that the bias against male caregivers gets really problematic really fast. It's true that men are statistically more likely to commit these kinds of crimes but we're still talking about something most humans would never do, and discriminating against all men is a really troubling overreaction. Obviously be conscientious, research your daycare, choose people and a place you're comfortable with, but I think this is going too far.

The question isn’t about single dads, or your dad, who I’m sure is a wonderful man. It’s about a male who is choosing to work as a preschool daycare teacher, it’s a very weird career choice for a man. Am I being biased? Sure! But I still wouldn’t trust a man with unrestricted access, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week to a young child. I would even probably side eye a male kindergarten teacher. Once they get into the older elementary grades I think differently. Maybe it’s because kids can speak up from themselves a little bit better if something happens.

You might want to keep your child away from males in your family because most sexual assault is from a trusted family member.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

No because women do not typically sexually abuse children, check the data. You should be worried about adult males who have access to your son.

I guess your kid won’t be playing any sports because the coaches are normally males

I'm fine with it as long as they are doing the necessary background checks before doing so. When my child went to sproutlings daycare and preschool they had a male teacher and he was amazing! My kid loved him and would talk about him all day after pick up.

Twenty little kids on Metro buses with only two young guys is crazy insane.

Anonymous wrote:Does it seem like Montessori schools seem have more male teachers? I just toured one and was surprised there were like 4 males while I typically dont see any.

My son also has/had several male teachers at his Montessori school, starting from the toddler program. He is entering 1st grade, but back for the summer program they have for alumni, and it is has just been constant adventure with the male teachers. They come home filthy every day, they go all around town on the city bus (imagine two twenty-something guys with a gaggle of 20 kids between ages 4.5-8 out and about), they built rockets and went and launched them, they made a fire, they are constantly hopping on the bus when they feel like going into town and getting ice cream. The guys bring is a great energy.

As far as the risk of sexual weirdos - I think all daycares should and can put in place protocols to make sure babies are not being changed in a secluded area out of view from the other teachers.

I don’t know of any local female teachers sexually assaulting school children.

Does anyone?

Anonymous wrote:Former preschool teacher here and I’ve worked with 2 male teachers- they both gave me a bad vibe. 1 often would lock himself in a bathroom to “talk” to a specific boy who wanted nothing to do with said teacher and the other one constantly looked at suggestive dancers/twerkers and always wanted the kids to sit on his lap/give him hugs

Both of those daycare men showed the RED flags. It was your responsibility to file a police report. (Always get a copy.) Those men are likely still there, sexually assaulting little children. They often do this for years and years before someone steps up to demand an investigation.

NOT your job to provide evidence to police. Specially trained detectives can establish evidence.

PLEASE report any CREEPY behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:The flip side of keeping men out of traditionally female careers is pushing women out of traditionally male careers. It’s literally zero sum.

Zero evidence.
Where do you think women are still pushed out?

Oof, many places. Not as much entire professions so much as top executive levels at many, many organizations. Lots of boys clubs out there still.

Lots of women’s clubs to, as it should be. Why not?

Would you agree fewer women (than men) want those top executive positions? Why is that?

I know women who tried and failed to make inroads in the boys clubs. Even women who prioritized their careers and chose not to have children.

Lots of women “step back” and don’t want top executive roles. We all know that can be true. But you cannot think that is the only reason why women are less likely to be in these roles. Sexism is alive and well.

Where are qualified women not reaching the top?

Crickets.

Are you really that naive?

I could give you very specific examples, but I’m obviously not going to do that on DCUM for privacy reasons. Yes, women reach the top in all fields — sometimes. They are still getting blocked and forced out regularly.

As are straight white men. This was even official protocol under our last D administration.
Any qualified woman who has no other competing demands in her life is at the top of her field. Or like Michelle Obama, you have your mother running everything at home.

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Anonymous wrote:The flip side of keeping men out of traditionally female careers is pushing women out of traditionally male careers. It’s literally zero sum.

Zero evidence.
Where do you think women are still pushed out?

Oof, many places. Not as much entire professions so much as top executive levels at many, many organizations. Lots of boys clubs out there still.

Lots of women’s clubs to, as it should be. Why not?

Would you agree fewer women (than men) want those top executive positions? Why is that?

I know women who tried and failed to make inroads in the boys clubs. Even women who prioritized their careers and chose not to have children.

Lots of women “step back” and don’t want top executive roles. We all know that can be true. But you cannot think that is the only reason why women are less likely to be in these roles. Sexism is alive and well.

Where are qualified women not reaching the top?

Crickets.

Are you really that naive?

I could give you very specific examples, but I’m obviously not going to do that on DCUM for privacy reasons. Yes, women reach the top in all fields — sometimes. They are still getting blocked and forced out regularly.

Anonymous wrote:The flip side of keeping men out of traditionally female careers is pushing women out of traditionally male careers. It’s literally zero sum.

Complete myth.

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Anonymous wrote:The flip side of keeping men out of traditionally female careers is pushing women out of traditionally male careers. It’s literally zero sum.

Zero evidence.
Where do you think women are still pushed out?

Oof, many places. Not as much entire professions so much as top executive levels at many, many organizations. Lots of boys clubs out there still.

Lots of women’s clubs to, as it should be. Why not?

Would you agree fewer women (than men) want those top executive positions? Why is that?

I know women who tried and failed to make inroads in the boys clubs. Even women who prioritized their careers and chose not to have children.

Lots of women “step back” and don’t want top executive roles. We all know that can be true. But you cannot think that is the only reason why women are less likely to be in these roles. Sexism is alive and well.

Where are qualified women not reaching the top?

Crickets.