Hi.
Women are much more critical of how other women appear than men are. How many times have you, dear poster, ripped on something another woman wore? Ever make these comments (such as "She does not have the ___ to pull off wearing ___") with your friends?
If you believe that women dress mainly to "please the male gaze", then you did not grow up in the USA.

Dp I have never said that about a woman!

Anonymous wrote:

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

OMG. Please tell me you understood the sarcasm in this post, and that your post is more of the same?

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

Anonymous wrote:

Yeah. Women are sick of having their value defined by their appearance. American men are upset that women in general have gained weight and don’t dress to please the male gaze. Wearing sweatpants is a big middle finger at society’s expectations that women should always want to be attractive to men.

Hi.

Women are much more critical of how other women appear than men are. How many times have you, dear poster, ripped on something another woman wore? Ever make these comments (such as "She does not have the ___ to pull off wearing ___") with your friends?

If you believe that women dress mainly to "please the male gaze", then you did not grow up in the USA.

Anonymous wrote:

Is it just the sweatpants or her whole appearance? I know a lot of Stay at Home Moms who just let go of themselves.

OP, it is likely that the cute little bottom she brought into the marriage has been replaced by a Tysons Mall-sized backside. She cannot fit into anything other than pants that provide a great deal of room to land the 747, so to speak.

Would please encourage her to try to get back in pre-marriage shape? Perhaps she could try belly dancing, or a class at Sport&Health (there are some great ones such as GMBSA (Get My Butt Small Again) training.)

With your help, she will be dressing up in no time (you may have to help her get off the couch first.) If this does not work, she may have Low-E and should get her estrogen levels checked.

<Hugs>

Yeah. Women are sick of having their value defined by their appearance. American men are upset that women in general have gained weight and don’t dress to please the male gaze. Wearing sweatpants is a big middle finger at society’s expectations that women should always want to be attractive to men.

Is it just the sweatpants or her whole appearance? I know a lot of Stay at Home Moms who just let go of themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

America has become a nation of slobs. It’s a freak show out there. It’s not unreasonable for a husband or wife to expect their spouse to get dressed up once in a while.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

America has become a nation of slobs. It’s a freak show out there. It’s not unreasonable for a husband or wife to expect their spouse to get dressed up once in a while.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.