Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a grinch, but holiday cards after December 25th aren't as nice. After December 31, they go straight in the trash after I open them. I love displaying cards and like it when they arrive 2 weeks before Christmas.

I have this pet peeve with birthday cards too. 90% of cards for me or my kids arrive after their birthday! Whereas I put up a birthday banner for the week before their birthday (I have little kids) and would like to leave the cards displayed on our island that week.

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I truly wonder how people like you and OP manage to get through your days.

Anonymous wrote:Is it a passive aggressive thing? Control thing? Just Laziness?

I ask as a few folks year after year mail it so late.

I also go to NY to see family most years and some cousins will be at Xmas with us and when I get back home to the DMV the card is there. Why mail it so late that you see me in person at Xmas before I get the card? I get folks are busy we all been there. But I had one person mail literally a card that is a Christmas card I get it after Xmas every year the last 30 years!! I usually have taken down cards by then so awkward.

One year my wife and I had a lot of things going on Illness, death of my mother and paired down list and did not mail the late people as we assumed only sending us a card since we sent one to them. Guess what they still came. Usually day after Xmas.

Why do they do it? Two are now literally empty nesters and retired. So they have time.

Anonymous wrote:OP is personally making me really glad I stopped sending them altogether.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cmon. It’s not that hard to send in early Dec

Honestly if you keep a schedule it’s not hard to get them out on time. It’s just respectful to get them to their destination on time.

Anonymous wrote:Cmon. It’s not that hard to send in early Dec

Anonymous wrote:Lol to the idea that someone sending you a late holiday card is being passive aggressive. Lord, this one cracked me up! Thanks, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

Anonymous wrote:

Now I think about it, I think there's a thread like this every year.

Perhaps it's a person who wants to pressure everyone to send their cards earlier... because they're insane.

Anonymous wrote:OP - I honestly think it is a bit mental disorder. I only say this as I have a childless aunt who never married. Years ago she decided for all her Nieces and Nephews she decided to give $2,500 a child every Xmas for their college fund.

But I know she really loves pictures of nieces and nephews on Xmas cards and such.

My BIL will take the cash and always sends cards way after Xmas to her and never a thank you note even though it really hurts her feelings and he knows this.So my aunt after five years just sends a card no money and he shows up in person Xmas eve looking for the money. Had balls to ask a d nice aunt gave it to him. My MIL is like look when you get her Xmas card with $7,500 in cash just write out one Xmas card back with some kids pictures on card and say thank you. He could not do it.

Then at the next Xmas he complained so slow at work he has nothing to do a few hours a day and his aunt whispered I thought he had no time.

We finally stopped inviting his family as they hi-jack every event by showing up late, not showing up at all, RSVP for five then 1 shows up. At her wedding we sat in church till 1:30 pm for a one pm mass as she was 1/2 hour late.

I can drop folks from Xmas list but I think thus is way more deep rooted.

I do greatly enjoying sending cards to all my elderly relatives who don’t send back. I don’t expect one.

My wife’s cousin is also queen of this. We mailed her cards on Dec 1. since they are going to his side this year and we normally exchange gifts on 12-10 mailed their kids gifts. No response. So don’t know. They are so late her mother now sends out Xmas cards with grandkids in them. They also do stuff like invite you to a birthday party day before. Or rsvp yes then change mind. My favorite they substitute themselves. They actually will give gift to someone attending for them. And one year had a joint birthday party with us without telling me. It was her kids birthday close by and had us do happy birthday song twice and she actually had folks her side to bring gifts.

Look i get a card, mail a card or don’t mail a card. Don’t be like evite where maybe us a RSVP choice.

I guess we will never know. My mailbox will have a bunch of cards next week I open, confirm address and throw out.

I guess all you late folks now know it is hurtful and mean and makes folks seem they were not important by sending late. You continue to do it then we’ll you all have issues I can’t fix

Anonymous wrote:OP we are really busy too. My wife did Thanksgiving our house. We were all dressed up including the kids so did some Xmas photos that day. My wife then got card done Sunday after Thanksgiving and we mailed out 60 cards around December 1. So three weeks ago today.

We got 10 as of today. And of that 10 they were the busier people. Like my wife and I with three kids on school, work, traveling at Holidays we don’t have luxury of waiting till last minute.

Plus with a few Jewish friends on list we want it to teach them for their Holiday and with some European people on list can’t wait.