Anonymous
Post 03/25/2023 09:09     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
I am 50/50. Sometimes i take back what I brought if I am pretty sure the hosts won't eat it and it will end up in the trash but if I see the hosts enjoying the dish I brought, then I leave the leftovers.

In an actual potluck, everyone takes home what they brought.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2023 09:04     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:If the host doesn’t suggest you take leftovers, even ones you contributed, you leave them. This also goes for beer/wine.



Yes! I always remind DH that we are not bringing beer/wine for us to drink but as a contribution and or thank you to the host. If the host does not put my wine out, I am happy for them to enjoy it later! (usually related to the quantity I am bringing with me)
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2023 11:21     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is bent out of shape over this should not be entertaining. When you invite people into your home you are taking on all kinds of risks that people may not adhere to your customs or have different sets of manners. They may drop something on the rug or break your grandmother's heirloom teacup. People like OP should just meet friends at restaurants.


I am always fascinating by people who revive a two year old thread with a comment like this. How did you find this thread? Were you browsing the archives and this caught your attention for some reason? Were you in this situation recently and searching online for the proper etiquette? Are you the guest in the OP and someone just tipped you off that there was a post about you two years ago on DCUM?


Well, it wasn't me!
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2023 09:44     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our gatherings, we all just ask during cleanup “What do you want to keep? What do you want to take?” Doesn’t matter if you’re the host or guest…it’s all up for grabs. These parties with rules about leftovers sound stifling.


It is for the host to offer up leftovers. It may be semi-polite for the person who brought the dish to simply ask what the host prefers—this gives them the out to say “please take it with you” if they don’t want it. But ew…honestly, the only person who should discuss or offer up leftovers is the host. I can’t imagine. Some of you are honestly so ill-mannered.
Good thing we’re in different social circles then.


Yes, it really is. I’m very glad my friends and family aren’t cheap and rude, and that we all appreciate the efforts of our hosts. I fully agree with you.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2023 09:38     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At our gatherings, we all just ask during cleanup “What do you want to keep? What do you want to take?” Doesn’t matter if you’re the host or guest…it’s all up for grabs. These parties with rules about leftovers sound stifling.


It is for the host to offer up leftovers. It may be semi-polite for the person who brought the dish to simply ask what the host prefers—this gives them the out to say “please take it with you” if they don’t want it. But ew…honestly, the only person who should discuss or offer up leftovers is the host. I can’t imagine. Some of you are honestly so ill-mannered.
Good thing we’re in different social circles then.


Your social circle composed of barnyard animals, eh?
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2023 22:20     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
If the host doesn’t suggest you take leftovers, even ones you contributed, you leave them. This also goes for beer/wine.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2023 20:34     Subject: Was this odd? Taking all the leftovers of what you brought home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who is bent out of shape over this should not be entertaining. When you invite people into your home you are taking on all kinds of risks that people may not adhere to your customs or have different sets of manners. They may drop something on the rug or break your grandmother's heirloom teacup. People like OP should just meet friends at restaurants.


I am always fascinating by people who revive a two year old thread with a comment like this. How did you find this thread? Were you browsing the archives and this caught your attention for some reason? Were you in this situation recently and searching online for the proper etiquette? Are you the guest in the OP and someone just tipped you off that there was a post about you two years ago on DCUM?


Same.What's the story zombie poster?