Anonymous wrote:DC is the only region I have ever lived in where people seem to really push back against picking guests up. So I think it's regional vs an age thing. Or maybe people in DC are just less kind than elsewhere.

How many people are you asking to pick you up from the airport?

I think many posters have never lived in the DC area…

Traffic can be a real beast. I would not pick someone up in rush hour.

I’m a tail-end boomer (aka, an “older person” to you, I guess), and I NEVER would have told my parents to find their way on their own from the airport to my house.

What is wrong with you? Were you raised in a barn? Is this how you get back at your parents?

Hire a car service or shuttle to pick them up. It’s not as expensive as you think in fact often it was cheaper than a cab.

Anonymous wrote:Barring any odd circumstances I would NEVER decline to pick up family from the airport. That seems so bizarre to me.

Ditto.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 66 and haven’t asked anyone to pick me up at the airport in decades.

You probably have the money, haven’t travelled much, or haven’t been offered.

NP, but that's ridiculous. Frequent travelers don't rely on family to come pick them up at the airport, and in particular would not insist on someone coming to get them at a really inconvenient time of day. I travel a lot and as a result know how to get around on my own and never ask for rides from the airport. If someone offers and I feel confident it's a genuine offer and not just them being nice, I will take them up on it. But I never assume.

It's people who rarely travel who need this kind of assistance. And to answer OP's question, it's not really an age thing, it's a comfort thing. I know plenty of people in their 60s and even some in their 70s who would have no problem getting themselves to my house from the airport. Older people know how to use smart phones, and even those who don't would be able to figure something out because they have been to airports before and there's a whole section of the airport dedicated to helping people locate transportation to their destination.

It's not 1952. You cannot assume your host has nothing else to do but spend an hour or two in the car coming to get you from the airport. People have busy lives and many obligations. If you are over the age of 16, and of sound mind and body, the assumption should be that you are capable of getting yourself around in this way.

Just pick your father! JFC!

Not only would I go pick up my dad. I would park my car and wait in terminal for him, with my 4yo in tow and a " welcome " sign.

OP-on say your dad won’t be here to visit you. Stop being so entitled.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it’s kind of rude to not pick up your dad at the airport if he wants you to. Is there no way to adjust your schedule to pick him up?

FYI - my mom (73) is fine ubering TO the airport, but will literally wait and read a book at the airport if our schedules don’t mesh.

This is idiotic.

Retired person: What time is a good time to come in?
Parent of (at least) 4 kids: There's a flight that gets in at 10:00 am.
Retired person: Oh, I don't want to wake up early! I'll get in at 5:30 pm!
Parent of (at least) 4 kids: OK, Dad, can you take an Uber?
Retired person: Oh, it won't be too much trouble to pick me up!

And you think the Parent of (at least) 4 kids is the rude one here? Come on.

Based on OP’s excuses, yes, it’s rude. Especially since her DH sounds basically useless.

I don't think the OP has 4 kids. I think she has 2 kids, one is 4, the other is 1. I think she just used the DS4, DS1 designations incorrectly, with the number indicating the kids' ages instead of their order.

Sidebar: Who are you people who think DS1 and DS4 is supposed to indicate their order in the family hierarchy?? It denotes age - always has and always will, LOL!

It's like OP forgot that Uber is not free. Your dad just spend hundreds on a flight to visit you, the least you could do is pick him up for the airport. You sound incredibly selfish and rather narcissistic.

Anonymous wrote:According to an article on Martha Stewart’s Instagram stories today… your guests shouldn’t expect to be picked up from the airport

Maybe don’t take your etiquette advice from convicted felons.

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Anonymous wrote:Normally I'd say that refusing to take a 10AM flight due to personal inconvenience and choosing a flight that gets in at 5:30 instead, during rush hour traffic and conflicting with your work schedules, is incredibly rude. But since it's the day after Thanksgiving and traffic should be light, yeah, you should pick him up. I do think it's fine for him to wait an hour or so if you need to handle daycare etc. first. But I assume your DH can do that?

we didn't know that it was going to be the day after Thanksgiving - now my brother is going to pick him up (but will have to drive 1+hour each way)
My DH does not handle the dinner time / bedtime on his own.

You’re kidding. Is he an adult?

Your dad IS being a pita. But go get him anyway.

Seriously, OP, your dad isn’t the problem. Why can’t your husband manage the kids for dinner and bedtime??! That is a huge problem!