Anonymous
11/05/2021 13:45
Subject: Re:Moved at the suggestion of my sister, and now she's ditched me
There have been great suggestions on this thread. I'll especially emphasize the ones that stand out as having the most potential to get you through this hump:
* Remote working is very isolating, so the idea of finding a remote work center or club you can join is excellent. Even it costs a little each month, it's worth it to take away the isolation, and it's one of the best opportunities to meet new friends and potential romantic interests.
* A dog or cat is a great companion to take away the isolation of living alone. Since you need to get out and socializing, hopefully at a remote-work center at least a couple times a week, a dog might not be as optimal since you'd have to be home to let it out. But if you'd only be at the work center half a day, or only a couple days a week, then a dog would be more doable. And definitely give more immediate, consistent affection. And a dog running companion would add safety for you. I'd say considering what you are experiencing right now, a pet companion would be almost a must.
* Adjusting down the number of times you go over to your sister's house to once a week, or even better once every other week. Definitely being available for occasional baby sitting or helping out in other ways, but in terms of socializing/lunch/dinner,/spending time with sis, more infrequently. That will take the pressure off your sister trying to juggle everyone's needs and wants. You will become a fun, bright spot in the midst of all her chores rather than a source of strife.
* Remote working is very isolating, so the idea of finding a remote work center or club you can join is excellent. Even it costs a little each month, it's worth it to take away the isolation, and it's one of the best opportunities to meet new friends and potential romantic interests.
* A dog or cat is a great companion to take away the isolation of living alone. Since you need to get out and socializing, hopefully at a remote-work center at least a couple times a week, a dog might not be as optimal since you'd have to be home to let it out. But if you'd only be at the work center half a day, or only a couple days a week, then a dog would be more doable. And definitely give more immediate, consistent affection. And a dog running companion would add safety for you. I'd say considering what you are experiencing right now, a pet companion would be almost a must.
* Adjusting down the number of times you go over to your sister's house to once a week, or even better once every other week. Definitely being available for occasional baby sitting or helping out in other ways, but in terms of socializing/lunch/dinner,/spending time with sis, more infrequently. That will take the pressure off your sister trying to juggle everyone's needs and wants. You will become a fun, bright spot in the midst of all her chores rather than a source of strife.
Anonymous
11/04/2021 03:23
Subject: Moved at the suggestion of my sister, and now she's ditched me
Anonymous wrote:She hung out with you a lot in summer when you were new here and she wasn’t so busy with kids in school. You had a summer for her to help you get settled. Now go get settled and create a life for yourself.
It’s this, OP. Over the summer my family has a much different schedule than during the school year and this year in particular, with the return to in-person school and sports and extracurriculars, it’s felt particularly hectic. I want to see family but our weekdays are packed and weekends are filled with games and increasingly kiddie birthday parties, etc.
Your sister is likely experiencing the same and don’t take it personally. Make friends, explore the city, rebuild, and make an effort to see your sister on her terms. Maybe join her at a kid’s game or bring dinner over. But don’t take it personally.
Anonymous
11/03/2021 23:22
Subject: Moved at the suggestion of my sister, and now she's ditched me
Maybe move elsewhere OP. Move where you have more support and the people are better communicators.