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Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

Your parents not you, get to choose what they wish to be called. You are really a spoiled jerk brat.

Wrong.

Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your problems, OP! My mother wouldn't pick a grandparent name, except to say she didn't like any of the defaults. I'm using what my niece calls her for lack of other options, but I think the grandparents should pick. It's their name, after all!

It’s not their name. It’s a nickname they can call themselves, but no one else is required to use.

Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid boomer thing. They can call themselves whatever they want but I’m going to train my kids to say grandma and grandpa

This. End of thread.

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Anonymous wrote:At 2, my oldest niece was at a Thanksgiving dinner with my mother and her two brothers, and forever after she and all the other grandchildren called my mother by her childhood nickname that her brother's still use.

My cousins, and their kids, all call my mother "Aunt [Embarrassing Childhood Nickname]" It's fantastic.

Ha this reminds me of how my child as a toddler couldn't pronounce "Aunt Christine" and instead called my sister "Icky" at first. And couldn't pronounce "Aunt Kathleen" and said "Auca" Then it just kind of stuck. Icky and Auca.

This is greatness.

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Anonymous wrote:It's up to her, not you. The exception being my FIL who picked a name with sexual connotations and we said hard pass, try again.

Fellaty?

I bet his name is Richard whose friends call him Dick and he wanted the grandkids to call him something like “Big Dick”

And now I have coffee in my sinuses. Thanks, PP!

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Anonymous wrote:Grandparents get to choose the name they are called, OP. Love, Grammy B.

They can choose whatever they like, but OP’s kids won’t be using it. Love, Mom.

Yep. Good luck choosing a name when parents call you something different to kids

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents get to choose the name they are called, OP. Love, Grammy B.

They can choose whatever they like, but OP’s kids won’t be using it. Love, Mom.

Op, I’ll raise you one. We were the first on my husband’s side to have kids and I’m an only child so we asked each side of grandparents what they wanted to be called. My mom had two options she was equally happy with and said she would wait for DH’s mom to decide so they could have different titles. DH’s mom deliberated for a while but eventually decided on one. My mom subsequently chose a different option and we thought we were set. Flash forward more than 5 years and DH’s sister (who is closer to her mom than DH by virtue of geography and personality) has a child who instead starts calling DH’s mom by a different name, (specifically the one my mom subsequently chose after DH’s mom made her original decision). Of course we’d be fine with niece calling DH’s mom whatever they please, but MIL now insists that our children also start calling her by the new name « to avoid confusion » despite the fact our children have known MIL by a different name for years and furthermore specifically identify the one she is now requesting with their other grandma (who is also frustrated since feels she was more than reasonable in initially giving MIL first choice of titles). DH has already always been somewhat the odd man out in his family and is unwilling to further rock the boat by pushing back on the name switch.

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For laughs -- Growing up, my cousin's family called our grandmother "Grandma Cheryl." Her name is not Cheryl or anything close to it, and nobody knows why they did this. We just rolled with it.

Ok, was worth reading the thread just for this .

Now I totally want to be Grandma Cheryl.

This or Grahamcracker.

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For laughs -- Growing up, my cousin's family called our grandmother "Grandma Cheryl." Her name is not Cheryl or anything close to it, and nobody knows why they did this. We just rolled with it.

Ok, was worth reading the thread just for this .

Now I totally want to be Grandma Cheryl.

My baby calls one of her grandmothers something different than her cousins because we had two “Nana’s” and we chose a different name. It turned into something rather special because there are a bunch of kids who call her “Nana” and only one who calls her “Mormor”

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think your mom gets to pick her own name? Wow.

"Hey, I think I want the kids to call me Glitter. What do you think?" would be nice. It should be a conversation.

Hahahah, no. Grandparents get to pick whatever they want to be called. If you don't like it, don't use the name. Grow up.

OP you sound pregnant. When the baby is born ask grandma what she would like to be called. I think hormones are speaking to you now.

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Anonymous wrote:Glamma?

FWIW, if I make it to old age and DH and I become grandparents, then I fully intend to insist upon all grandkids calling us Lolly and Pop.

Awesome

This is my fave too.

Really cute. I’ve heard of a grandma who is called Grahamcracker. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:Glamma?

FWIW, if I make it to old age and DH and I become grandparents, then I fully intend to insist upon all grandkids calling us Lolly and Pop.

Awesome

This is my fave too.