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Anonymous wrote:What karma are you hoping for your friend's husband, who actually had the affair?

Exactly, why are wives always focused on the other woman.

Easier than actually having to reflect on their poor choosing of a husband.

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

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Anonymous wrote:Her husband will cheat on her. Most rich men do. That’s the karma I think you’re looking for, right?

She may not care, not every woman does. Many women have a pragmatic approach to marriage.

She also may have a prenup that states if he cheats she gets loads o money.

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Anonymous wrote:Her husband will cheat on her. Most rich men do. That’s the karma I think you’re looking for, right?

She may not care, not every woman does. Many women have a pragmatic approach to marriage.

She also may have a prenup that states if he cheats she gets loads o money.

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Anonymous wrote:LIfe is long. Life also isn't always fair, in fact, it seldom is.


You're fixated on karma, doesn't that imply that your friend did something at some point in her life to deserve having her husband cheat on her?


Forget about the OW, your wasting your valuable thoughts and time pining for her demise.

Exactly. Why did this happen to your friend? Who’d she f*ck over to get this karma?

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

Anonymous wrote:Her husband will cheat on her. Most rich men do. That’s the karma I think you’re looking for, right?

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Anonymous wrote:What karma are you hoping for your friend's husband, who actually had the affair?

Exactly, why are wives always focused on the other woman.

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Anonymous wrote:LIfe is long. Life also isn't always fair, in fact, it seldom is.


You're fixated on karma, doesn't that imply that your friend did something at some point in her life to deserve having her husband cheat on her?


Forget about the OW, your wasting your valuable thoughts and time pining for her demise.

Exactly. Why did this happen to your friend? Who’d she f*ck over to get this karma?

Anonymous wrote:What karma are you hoping for your friend's husband, who actually had the affair?

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Get a life, lady. You're obviously posting this "warm hole" and "open legs" stuff repeatedly and it is pathetic.

Every time one of these threads comes up about some AP/OW there are these psycho losers crawling out of the woodwork to call her easy, slutty, whatever. So what? Your husband went for it. He's easy. He's a slut. It may feel easier to focus (obsess) on the woman involved, but it takes two to tango and your greasy husband is the one who betrayed your marriage and promises HE made to you, not the woman.

Actually you're right about the husband. He's no good and imo used up goods at that point. Still many DWs have to stay for finances, kids, etc. Maybe health reasons, I've seen it all. The AP is a co-cheater, and also responsible for interjecting herself into a couples marriage. They are also responsible for the wrath of the DW, and the kids. Don't blame that pp for correctly calling the AP what she is. I call a bank robber/thief exactly what they are. Do you call them a over zealous withdrawer???
Sadly people are trying to deflect away from correct labeling. Maybe it's a harsh term, but nevertheless it's accurate. Calling other posters psycho because you don't agree isn't winning your case fyi.

You have a single data point on OW's sex life - you know that she had sex with one person, who was married. That does not make her a slut, literally by its definition. You don't know how long she 'dated' the guy for before hooking up with him, so calling her easy seems to be a stretch, too. If he wined and dined her for months, is she still easy? I don't agree with OW's behavior but using gendered terms for promiscuity for the woman while glossing over the person who broke their vows and was sleeping with two people at the same time is sexist and absurd.

And I do think looking up your friend's husband's AP's house address and price is psycho. As is the level of obsession with the OWs from other women talking about her 'hole' with a large degree of fixation.

Not sure what you mean by friend's husband's AP? Another poster maybe, but yes anyone that would date a married person is deserving of many terms. In other dictionarys slut is used for a woman with loose sexual morals. In other words that PP was correct in her terminology. If it makes you feel better I can name many terms that would apply to the cheating husband.
From the Urban Dictionary to describe both cheaters and fairly! -

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Cheater

hahaha! I just noticed the dirty diaper one.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

His karma would be the DW cheated on him.

No I think that puts her in the scum category which is what both cheaters are. Moving forward and considering the DH dead whether she stays or not is probably the best Karma. And living her life happily. I've seen DWs do that whether they live with the DH or not. My opinion is when a DH cheats the marriage is over regardless. He ended it. And yes the OW is equally to blame. I think some OWs on here are pretty deluded. It's pretty dangerous to mess with someone's family. Just ask Meredith Chapman.....oh wait...

Yep. That brings out a primal response.

Yep. That OW wanted one and sure got one, didn't she.

Nasty old hags are threatening to murder people now?

No wonder your DHs don’t want to use your wormhole anymore.