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Anonymous wrote:Anyone thinking that a known predator didn’t abuse children when he had the opportunity is delusional. Educate yourselves.

It is possible he did not ever touch children and that his activities were limited to only be online or elsewhere. Someone or a kid would’ve said something by now.

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jsteele wrote:

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

I will add we had no red flags about him at all. We love Beauvoir and are not looking to blame them or anyone. He kept up a very British professional manner and I would not have guessed any of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone thinking that a known predator didn’t abuse children when he had the opportunity is delusional. Educate yourselves.

It is possible he did not ever touch children and that his activities were limited to only be online or elsewhere. Someone or a kid would’ve said something by now.

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jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

I certainly hope not as I just found out he was meeting with kids alone as outplacement director despite the previous head saying teachers and staff were NOT allowed alone with kids as a safety measure post Toth…..

He was outplacement director for my kids at Beauvoir.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone thinking that a known predator didn’t abuse children when he had the opportunity is delusional. Educate yourselves.

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

I understand. But the affidavit does not cover any activities from that time period. Posters keep suggesting that he engaged in his nefarious activities at Beauvoir. He may have, but there has been no evidence of that so far.

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

The bolded is not true. He established his mobile phone account when he was at Beauvoir. He later registered the number associated with that phone on Discord accounts that he created. But that was years after he left Beauvoir.

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jsteele wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

He did work there though until 2016 as he was the outplacement director for us.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in

Sex abuse in schools is unfortunately common and mostly perpetrated by men.

But remember women can abuse kids in other ways (physical, verbal, emotional)

No, it is not common. Even one case of it is too much but as horrible as it is, it is thankfully not “common” in schools. It is much more common for kids to be sexually abused at their home or the perpetrators home than at school or anywhere else.

Educators are some of the most cherished members of our community. Arguably they play one of the most pivotal roles in our children’s lives, educating them in fundamental skills and promoting their social and emotional growth and well-being. However, in recent years there has also been increased media attention on cases of educator sexual misconduct. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents, as it is estimated that about 10 percent of students will experience educator sexual misconduct by the time they graduate high school.

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

Similar to past research, we found that:

Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.
Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.
There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

—> EDUCATOR — SEXUAL —MISCONDUCT — REMAINS — RAMPANT <—

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

There is no evidence in the affidavit that he ever used his computer at Beauvoir (though obviously he did when he worked there). Beauvoir is only mentioned one time in the affidavit and that is in connection to the school's address being used on his AT&T mobile phone account.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

I doubt he had access to kids at BVR though after he left. He may have used his computer there which is gross but if he was there it would have been to meet with admissions people.

He worked at BVR until 2016.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

One or two? You have no idea about what you are talking about.

What do you plan on doing when your child goes to Elementary school and lots of guys work there?

I make sure I chose a school that either never had this problem, or did but manage it perfectly fine and have a reputation to not put things under the rug. And I make sure they have a good policy, no hugs with teachers, nobody alone with a child…

Never that you know of. The school could either have had zero issues, which is what you see, or the school could have covered up every single one to make it invisible and it would appear the same to you. The latter is what my school did. It wasn’t that there was less abuse or no abuse, it was that it was covered up so well every single time.

THIS. Never voice any potential abuse to the school. You’ll REGRET it. Always go straight to the POLICE to report your concerns. They’ll decide how to proceed.