Anonymous
05/12/2014 17:30
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
I can't believe I read the whole thing.
Anonymous
05/12/2014 08:26
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find OP's contentment in line with the mindset of many millenials. She likes what she is doing, is aware that she has a brief window to savor it, and is not particularly troubled by its fragility or shortcomings. My older daughter is roaming Europe for the next 3 months with a group of college students and recent grads. They work as needed, but mostly are happy to have bread and cheese for dinner if it means they can afford to spend a 4 day weekend in Prague. My daughter is becoming conversant in 4 languages and meeting dozens of people from all walks of life. She's had 3 articles published about her experiences. I was too neurotic at her age to do anything but research grad schools and hone my resume.
Spruce up that rec room The boomerang is about to return
She is doings this based on the cumulative effect of consistent family financing. Perhaps she earned seed money living rent free with you or via your subsidy, and/or and is likely debt fre from college. A lower SES millennial is not casually rudderless. This is a rare luxury resulting from 3rd or 4th generation wealth. Like teaching skiing in Telluride or waiting tables in Martha's Vineyard....it's just a little break in the action until she gets her doctorate in French Medieval History.
No family money -- I'm a public school teacher who grew up poor. Dad is an accountant whose father had a 10th grade education. We just emphasized that travel beats stuff and opportunity doesn't knock twice. She won't be able to go to Morocco for a week when she has a spouse, kids, and full-time job. Who wants to live in a group home at 28? 21-22 is the time to book a hostel in a country you know nothing about. She should enjoy it now.
Anonymous
05/12/2014 08:17
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find OP's contentment in line with the mindset of many millenials. She likes what she is doing, is aware that she has a brief window to savor it, and is not particularly troubled by its fragility or shortcomings. My older daughter is roaming Europe for the next 3 months with a group of college students and recent grads. They work as needed, but mostly are happy to have bread and cheese for dinner if it means they can afford to spend a 4 day weekend in Prague. My daughter is becoming conversant in 4 languages and meeting dozens of people from all walks of life. She's had 3 articles published about her experiences. I was too neurotic at her age to do anything but research grad schools and hone my resume.
Spruce up that rec room The boomerang is about to return
My family hasn't had a single boomerang because we made it clear there is no return home. She is getting a degree in a practical field and already had 2 internships. Even if she doesn't get her dream job, I doubt she'll be unemployed for long.
Anonymous
05/12/2014 06:53
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find OP's contentment in line with the mindset of many millenials. She likes what she is doing, is aware that she has a brief window to savor it, and is not particularly troubled by its fragility or shortcomings. My older daughter is roaming Europe for the next 3 months with a group of college students and recent grads. They work as needed, but mostly are happy to have bread and cheese for dinner if it means they can afford to spend a 4 day weekend in Prague. My daughter is becoming conversant in 4 languages and meeting dozens of people from all walks of life. She's had 3 articles published about her experiences. I was too neurotic at her age to do anything but research grad schools and hone my resume.
Spruce up that rec room The boomerang is about to return
She is doings this based on the cumulative effect of consistent family financing. Perhaps she earned seed money living rent free with you or via your subsidy, and/or and is likely debt fre from college. A lower SES millennial is not casually rudderless. This is a rare luxury resulting from 3rd or 4th generation wealth. Like teaching skiing in Telluride or waiting tables in Martha's Vineyard....it's just a little break in the action until she gets her doctorate in French Medieval History.
Anonymous
05/12/2014 06:45
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:I do not want to ask you anything. I do not care what you do with your life. But I guarantee you will be seeking therapy 10-15 years from now.
Ha! And I guarantee you read all 70 pages + on this thread :/
Anonymous
05/12/2014 06:41
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:I find OP's contentment in line with the mindset of many millenials. She likes what she is doing, is aware that she has a brief window to savor it, and is not particularly troubled by its fragility or shortcomings. My older daughter is roaming Europe for the next 3 months with a group of college students and recent grads. They work as needed, but mostly are happy to have bread and cheese for dinner if it means they can afford to spend a 4 day weekend in Prague. My daughter is becoming conversant in 4 languages and meeting dozens of people from all walks of life. She's had 3 articles published about her experiences. I was too neurotic at her age to do anything but research grad schools and hone my resume.
Spruce up that rec room The boomerang is about to return
Anonymous
05/12/2014 06:39
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Clooney did that and now even he is getting married.
After a while all those young hotties look the same anyway. Better to come home to someone who shares a little common history with you. Raise a family together, have fun, grow old together.
Anonymous
05/12/2014 06:34
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Clooney did that and now even he is getting married.
Anonymous
05/12/2014 05:59
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are young and hot and want to be kept you are better off finding a rich man who will marry you, then pump out a few kids as "insurance policies", and staying hot as long as you can before he moves on. At least you will get alimony/support until the kids are done with college. As it is now he could drop you anytime and you'd have nothing.
LOL! There's the blueprint there, fellas, and the reason to never get married in the first place.
This may shock you - but some men actually WANT marriage/kids/a family to come home to, too. But, certainly, if your main priority is in having a young, hottie on your arm, don't get married and switch to newer models as needed.
Anonymous
05/11/2014 22:11
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:If you are young and hot and want to be kept you are better off finding a rich man who will marry you, then pump out a few kids as "insurance policies", and staying hot as long as you can before he moves on. At least you will get alimony/support until the kids are done with college. As it is now he could drop you anytime and you'd have nothing.
LOL! There's the blueprint there, fellas, and the reason to never get married in the first place.
Anonymous
05/11/2014 20:28
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Do you really believe this guy didn't spend the day with his kids and wife? I really hope not. It's one thing to be ostensibly ok with being a hooker but quite another to really believe he's not living his life without you.
Anonymous
05/11/2014 20:15
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
If you do see other men, do you bring them to the apartment that your boyfriend is subsidizing? If so, does he (your boyfriend) know about it? Is he cool with you seeing other men? Do the other men know about your boyfriend and your arrangement with him?
Anonymous
05/11/2014 20:07
Subject: Re:Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op, I am so sorry these folks have ruined your thread. I really miss you and wish you would come back. I'm really interested to know if you are feeling better. I'm concerned about you. Do you have plans for the weekend? What's your guy up to? Are you seeing your mom for Mother's day?
Lol thanks for the concern - I'm fine. Yes, there are lots of plans for the weekend. He is taking his kids to his parents' house for the weekend. No, I'm not flying home for mother's day.
!!!!Yay!! Op you came back. I think your AMA thread has been one of the most interesting ones I have ever read. It appears to have touched a nerve for many in this area. Which I find really odd, not because you aren't interesting, I just would have thought with this being D.C., more folks would not be so taken aback by your relationship. I am also surprised that folks focused so much on the sexual aspect of your relationship. I had a question for you several pages ago. Someone said that this relationship worked for you because you maybe had never in love or had never been "the one" or something like that. Do you mind answering that? Here it is again--> Have you "experienced young, blissful, sincere and exclusive love with another single and available person"? Have you ever been "the one" for anyone?
Yes, twice.
Twice before you were 19? Or have you had meaningful, committed relationships since meeting your boyfriend?
i'm a little ashamed of myself for reading 75 pages and wanting more. but i do. i definitely do.
OP- i quoted the above PP in hopes you just missed it and would come back and answer it. I'm wondering if being "the one" for someone else was so long ago that it seems like puppy love to you now. Or if its something that happened during the affair (with complications i can only imagine).
Anonymous
05/11/2014 16:02
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:If you are young and hot and want to be kept you are better off finding a rich man who will marry you, then pump out a few kids as "insurance policies", and staying hot as long as you can before he moves on. At least you will get alimony/support until the kids are done with college. As it is now he could drop you anytime and you'd have nothing.
Sounds like most of the SAHMs in my neighborhood They pop out babies until it's too late to re-enter the workforce, so they can ride the SAH gravy train 'till the end of the line. Ugh.
Anonymous
05/11/2014 15:57
Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why don't you use this time to build your career? This is not incompatible with having your bf pay all your living expenses.
Because that would entail actually having to work versus laying on your back and spreading your legs for money.
This is a popular practice in some workplaces and it actually leads to terrific salary increases, marriage proposals, etc.