Anonymous wrote:Also, I am not from the northeast and had never heard of these prep schools before I was in my thirties. I do not nor have I ever liked the culture of bragging at these schools or these colleges. So you got in, now what — what you do with your opportunity is what I am impressed with. If I was that invested in these places, I would have put up with my kid being bullied and stayed. Plenty do.

Anonymous wrote:I believe myself to have mainly criticized these schools for not enforcing their own rules when it comes to bullying and for chasing unproven educational trends. I have also criticized parents for never pushing back even when they disagree - rather than questioning a new math curriculum, they hire tutors, rather than complain about the weak sauce humanities curriculum, they whisper about it behind closed doors. I may have mentioned being taken aback by just how UES the parent community was at the girls schools, how invested they were in supper clubs, etc, but I can’t remember ever saying all that much about the kids other than some of their connections may have put them on the top of a very large pile and if you aren’t connected in that way, you can’t count on that extra boost for your kid.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, but I don’t need the defense, I am okay. They all go to great colleges, so why make percentages of it in the first place or compare Horace Mann to Trinity. I am not criticizing the girls, I am criticizing a parent community that makes a fetish of college admissions rather than the quality of the education. I’m sure some of the girls who are incredible brainiacs or talented athletes a would prefer their admission be credited to their individual abilities and work ethic rather than credited to their high school. Some of them may feel it didn’t support them at all, I am sure it runs the gamut.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

You are mean as hell. If your kid had been bullied you’d feel differently. You and too many others here have no empathy whatsoever for anyone - anyone - and you police her as if the HOS or a girl at that school is poring over this board and would be hurt. Please grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

i guess i have been sympathetic to her daughter's plight but the constant negative comments about the girls at the school just got to me.

i actually didn't mind her commentary on the school administration, that's fair game.

Anonymous wrote:There are a ton of great schools on that list, I totally agree, but the parents and kids tend to fixate on the Ivy League as the bright shiny trophy they are there to win. I always ask why do you want to go to Yale? Is there a program, just to get them thinking about something other than the bumper sticker.

Anonymous wrote:I am not Brearley mom, I have DC at another city private, I have no connection to of the girl schools, and you who pick at and freak at that mother are a hell of a lot worse than she is.

Anonymous wrote:Bullies are usually the most damaged ones in a group of children and have poor life outcomes no matter where they go to college. Picking on other kids is usually a cry for help, and if it’s ignored, the kid ends up socially isolated. I felt and feel bad for the kid who bullied my daughter. So did my daughter and her friends, but they don’t go near her because it always backfires. Wishing pain on any kid, even the kid of a truly terrible mother like me, is not very nice, yes, but it’s also pretty childish and stupid. You don’t agree with me okay, but engage with the substance of the argument or don’t — which is that a lot of Ivy League offer from these places go to kids who are prodigies or connected or have some sort of insane talent (state champion athlete), so it’s hard to know how much of a boost the school’s name gives to an application. If your kid isn’t a prodigy or well-connected (which a fair amount of kids are one or the other, if not both at these places), it’s not a comparison that makes tons of sense for someone who is not, and using it as a metric for the quality of education at a place vs how kids do on ERBs from year to year or how the kids do at those schools once they are admitted is kind of a waste of time.